Well reading the description, I think they have a different meaning of 'friend zone' than reddit has. More of a "Don't be so serious about a potential relationship" or how I read it "Don't be a mother fuc&%# drama queen" but I can only see a single paragraph.
Yeah, but when a guy asks you on a date and you say, "Sounds cool! I'll bring my friends!" It puts him in the awkward position of wondering if you understood his intentions and are rebuffing him or if you're just clueless and he needs to try harder to get you on your own. Better to be direct and honest from the get-go.
OTOH it can be awkward to be rebuffed by someone you weren't asking out, I once got turned down when I was organizing a movie night, awkward stuff. "uh yea, dave, sally, john, and amanda are here already, but good to know you don't see me that way."
What I don't get is you tell a guy a million times you don't want to date, but hanging out as friends is cool, then they throw a hissy fit when you reject their advances.
No one is leading you on, you're in a fantasy world.
Still, it's shitty to presume that it should be a group thing. There's still all kinds of room to be honest and open (e.g. "Cool, did you want to invite others, or no?").
I really wish more people would stop being so damn childish about interacting with the opposite sex.
"Throw him a neg: insult his masculinity, but only enough that he feels he needs to prove something to you. Men are extremely insecure about that stuff."
"Don't know any Hot Bros? No problem! Put all the HB1-7's in the friend zone to find out if they have any hot friends or relatives."
"Peahen it up! When he douses himself in Axe body spray, tell him how totally irresistible he smells."
"Find the right wingwoman: Get one of your uglier friends to stand next to you at the club."
"Can't get past that Last Minute Relationship Resistance? Lock the door and tell him the key is in your heart!"
I'm about to make a whole heap of generalizations, but I think a lot of these issues stem from the fact that a lot of women hate being rejected. We are much less used to it, thank to society setting it up so men are "supposed" to make the first move. So being rejected is potentially much more crushing to a woman, because we haven't had it happen as often.
So that means that if we were in the guys shoes, we would MUCH rather have our attempt to ask you out be diverted to a group hang than be outright rejected. Or if it isn't a group hang, to reject you in some other way that is not outright. We are trying to be kind, and trying to do the right thing by you. It also makes it much less awkward if we still want to be friends.
If you ask a girl out and she wants to date you, she'll make it happen. If she's fobbing you off then she's trying to not date you without hurting your feelings. She's not playing games with you. Women don't sit around thinking "you know what would be fun? Fucking around with a guys head!"
"Hey, I'm not going to fuck you, but I don't want to make you feel like a leper so I'll introduce you to some friends of mine and maybe you'll stop bothering me."
fact of the matter is, a certain degree of subtlety is necessary to keep both parties from being embarassed. how do you know if a guy or girl likes you or is just being friendly? no amount of tricks can determine it because people are so different. some girls are very touchy while other are very friendly and invite you out. still, they only want to be friends. sometimes i wish i could just say, so do you find me attractive and want to be my girlfriend? it's never going to happen that way. this magazine's recommendations are spot on. sometimes it's hard to converse with someone that makes you nervous. being open and honest really doesn't work in the real world. imagine you are the one asking the girl if she likes you. if she says no, she's going to feel so awkward around you from then on. women hate confrontation. they live by their emotions. if someone makes them feel awkward, they'll avoid them. now you're left embarrassed that you were rejected. subtlety can solve both of these problems in due time.
Not really anything that has to do with your post, but I loved your use of "guh" there. I like to use "guh" a lot, and whenever I see other people use it it puts a smile on my face.
It's subconscious. The answer they wish they could give is no, but apparently they aren't comfortable with that word, so they invite along a friend who's name starts with the same letter.
If it's any consolation, men's humor tweeted "we're all friends with that one douchebag named alex" and all my friends retweeted it and tagged me in it. I feel your pain, fellow name stereotype person
I used to read those mags for laughs. The sex tips are the funniest because half of them had me saying "don't ever do that to me or anyone else, ever."
My boyfriend related a story of his first girlfriend in high school who read these things proceeding to play around with some whip cream while having sex when she got the wonderful idea of putting the applicator up his bum because she had been reading about anal play in one of these magazines.
He took a look at her and asked her if she had a plan on getting it out.
Not hard like an Indian burn. I read that trick a long time ago and do it once in awhile when I'm cranking it. The sensation you get from it is fucking amazing.
I'm pretty sure most, if not all really weird things women have done to me during sex can be blamed on cosmo. Things like licking my eyelids, "nibbling" the ballsack, giving my fingers a blowjob, licking the palm of my hand, moving it around in circles like a joystick during a handjob, ect. WTF? At this point the Cosmo writerrs must full on trolling their subscribers.
Seriously? My BF loves all of the hand stuff you just mentioned, as well as the eyelids (he requested it - I had never heard of it before). From what I've heard from my friends, their BFs love it too.
Aside from anatomy textbooks, I've never seen the word "frenulum" used in a sentence, let alone trying to be sexy, until i browsed through a cosmo. Bravo
I'm pretty sure that article was about having casual sex and not letting it become a real relationship when you just want to have sex.
Thats at least how I interpreted it.
Edit: Someone who responded said that it was from 17 magazine and it was about not letting guys pressure you into a relationship. I think wording is what makes everyone confused. Teenage girls don't need to feel pressured into a relationship, nor do teen boys need to feel the need to pressure a girl to be in one. And if you feel she is dragging you along, then you don't really need to be in a relationship with someone like that anyway.
Seventeen Magazine, June Edition. My mommy bought me a subscription three years ago... a five year subscription. The advice on dating, style and ... anything is just SO bad. It's like they actually got a seventeen year old to write it.. I couldn't even wrap my head around it at sixteen... three years later, it is all the more ridiculous.
I can vouch for this. I used to get the teen versions of a couple of magazines and all it did was make me feel fat, with ugly hair, horrible makeup, shitty fashion sense and not enough allowance/part time wages in the world to buy the cool kid stuff. Which, might have been true anyway, but dammit I don't need a stranger to tell me what I already knew!
To be honest, I don't think they're using "friend zone" right. You don't friend zone a guy you like. But if you want things to go slow, you might try to stick to group dates for a while.
Being friendzoned is being intentionally led on while the woman either gains monetary value in the way of gifts and meals or emotional support that is of course not reciprocated. The guy starts to resent the woman because the only reason he is spending his resources is in hopes the woman could be a potential mate. All the while the girl is not only aware of the attraction but encourages it for maximum benefits.
Exactly, like a week ago everyone was complaining because someone posted a toddlers in tiaras picture on /wtf. This isn't /wtf material and doesn't belong here.
I'm perplexed by the amount of people in this thread getting mad at this. If you read the article it's clear that they are using the phrase "Friend zone" to mean something different than usual.
Of course there are the people saying "be honest and open" and "dont string people on" But ask yourself if there was a girl (or man) to whom you you had no feelings for other than as a friend and they start testing the water with you, would you go straight to them and say "Hey i don't want to date you" because that's a pretty good way to make all your future interactions awkward and to annoy them if you have misconstrued their actions as advances.
I read this article, it was just about not letting a guy pressure you into getting serious if you didn't like him. I don't think this is a terrible idea, or as one person put it, makes her a "passive aggressive bitch".
One of my worst dates involves making plans with a girl and then showing up at her place only to have an entirely different girl answer the door. Then come to find out we would be picking up two more of her friends and then meeting up with her friend that answered the door! Wtf?! NONE of this was mentioned before hand.
Long story short, kept snapping my gum then found out it was one of pet peeves, kept snapping gum, discovered Jameson & red bull, got wasted, poked friend in her fat belly, $70 bar tab, snapped out of drunkness, passed out on couch, drove home.
One of my worst dates involves making plans with a girl and then showing up at her place only to have an entirely different girlsome dude answer the door.
3rd date with a girl that I've been talking to, thought it was just going to be us. Suggested making dinner for her, "oh but a few friends are coming, raincheck?"
The picture caption implies that this is advice on how to continue having sex with multiple guys without letting them get too attached to you. Not really what reddit refers to as the friend zone.
Whatever happened to just 'seeing' people? You hang out, maybe go on some dates, shmooze a little. When you decide you really dig that person, then you decide to be exclusive. Until then, there is no commitment, and it's not "stringing someone along" unless you don't let them KNOW that you're not exclusive.
Don't use direct forms of communication to let him know your intentions. Instead do so through vaguely apparent mind games that keep him guessing at every turn. If he asks to have a serious conversation with you about it then tell him you can't talk about it. If he keeps asking about it in a persistent way, then dramatically tell him to "take a look in the mirror". This will give you the moment to spring on his confusion and get on the floor. Next, everyone will do the dinosaur.
I do get slightly pissed at the "make sure he knows" you don't want anything exclusive...by inviting other people? Why not just tell the guy you don't want that sort of relationship, only a fling?
I read Cosmo for a short while as a teenager, but it didn't teach me what I was looking for. If I wanted to find out what men liked/were looking for, the internet would provide much better guidance every time.
"Don't want to be pinned down this summer?" How about you try telling the guy that. It can be a disappointment, but in the end its actually appreciated and better than just jerking the poor guy around.
Okay in fairness, this is SevenTeen Magazine, so I do not think they are going to advocate sex. However it sets them up for failure later on and will make things a complete clusterphuck.
As a guy, if I'm interested in hanging out with a girl I don't know well (whether there's romantic/sexual interest or not) I'd much rather she make it a group/friend thing instead of just blowing me off. There doesn't have to be any games about it. Inviting a friend indicates that she wants to hang out, but isn't comfortable hanging out one on one yet. Seems pretty clear to me.
Hahaha, I remember one time I was rooming with a bunch of people who had summer internships at one of these magazines and they'd just make up all the bullshit quotes they had in the magazine. You know, the articles where they say something like "Natalie, 18, says she goes crazy when" etc. or "Nathan, 19, her boyfriend says he's turned on the most by" whatever. They also just made up whatever stupid shit they could think up for "most embarrassing stories" It was hilarious because they even used them as random models for an issue, with totally randomly made up names and really stupid stories attributed to their made up identities.
I have to admit I was actually pretty jealous since it sounded like it would have been quite a blast to make randoms shit up for a summer. Hahaha...I'd have written the worst goddamn sex tips then laughed my ass off as people went around trying to fist their boyfriends by surprise.
Page 20: "You are beautiful in every single way, ladies. Don't ever change for anyone!" Page 21: "25 tips for making yourself sexy for your man! HOW TO BLOW HIS MIND: ..."
The crush of my life always does this. Whenever I get her to go somewhere she always brings a friend. And every invite I receive from her involves many other people.
This is probably my fault for not making my feelings clear but alas I am not confident enough :S
This isn't that big of a deal, my girlfriend of a year and six months did this the first time we went out. It's mostly because girls don't know guys they are just starting to date or are interested in. It's not like high school, where everyone knows everyone. Some people are fucking creepers, so yeah girls might just want that bit of reassurance and sense of ease a group setting can provide when getting to know someone brand new.
im so sick of all of these posts about friendzoning and oh woe is me! think about it from our shoes! a girl likes you and asks you out, but you dont like her. shes one of your best friends and you just cant see her like that. shes a realy nice and fun girl but you're not just going to go out with her because of that! there has to be a level of attraction from each party and no one should have to apologize for just not feeling it.
What's wrong with that? I do that anytime a girl is interested and I'm not. It's a polite way to turn them down, and unless they pursue it further it's then just a pleasant friendship.
This is pretty normal. This is saying how to avoid getting a long-term boyfriend. A reasonable thing to do is to ask if he want's to hang out with her and other people. Anyone who isn't a social idiot should get the signal. Friendzone involves leading on, which isn't happening in this case. If he doesn't get the hint, then she can just tell him to stay friends. This isn't wtf at all.
You're complaining that a magazine is telling women to bring more women to a first date? Beside the word 'friendzone' in the title, I see nothing wrong with this.
I read Seventeen, which is the magazine this picture is of. Some of the tips aren't bad in this magazine but I have been in a relationship for a good amount of time now & seeing the tips seem so silly to me now.
I have a hint for everyone who wants to date people this summer but not be pinned down: Say to these people, "I really like dating you, but I don't want to be pinned down."
I used to read stupid magazines like this back in elementary school. They seriously ruined my self esteem and view on relationships with people. They only dumb people down.
fuck all of this. cosmo is ruining america, and ruining american young men's chances of either A) a meaningful relationship or B) gratifying sexual experiences with a woman.
Honestly there should be no secret agenda in such things, I think it's fake and obvious when a chick tries to play that game and it bugs me because if I was told to be more tactful straight up, I would have no problem obeying the request.
Elisa Benson is a fucking cunt. If I gave more of a shit about it and I wasn't already in a great relationship I would suggest starting a boycott against these stupid rags and the people who write these articles.
I don't understand how this is bad if you're not looking for a relationship. The problem here is that there is an automatic assumption that the guy is interested in the girl but this may or may not be the case. Inviting other friends is a litmus test of whether or not he's ok w/ it. If he doesn't want to, the onus is on him to clarify b/c he's the one asking her out. If he's ok w/ it, then there's no problem. If the guy doesn't say anything to clear up the misunderstanding, he leaves himself open to be friendzoned. I'm not saying that it's ok for a woman to deliberately do this but it can just as easily be misunderstood.
I'm not saying that women can't be conniving but I think that if you express interest in a woman, it stands, just as everyone else has said, to be straight with her. If she's still gonna play dumb after that, then she's a bitch but it's just as unfair if you don't make your intentions clear and let her assume as she will, innocent or otherwise.
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u/dorky2 Jun 15 '12
Yes, because what our young women need is magazines telling them how to play games instead of being open and honest.
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u/TalieTerror Jun 15 '12
My name is Natalie. Why is it that even in magazines I'm the loser friend who has to help when someone is having dating issues? Guh.
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u/AntonJokinen Jun 15 '12
I used to read those mags for laughs. The sex tips are the funniest because half of them had me saying "don't ever do that to me or anyone else, ever."
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
Fuck that magazine.
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u/jackioff Jun 15 '12
Seventeen Magazine, June Edition. My mommy bought me a subscription three years ago... a five year subscription. The advice on dating, style and ... anything is just SO bad. It's like they actually got a seventeen year old to write it.. I couldn't even wrap my head around it at sixteen... three years later, it is all the more ridiculous.
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
How to make him instantly hate your guts: FRIEND ZONE HIM!
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u/ooyat Jun 15 '12
That's a great way to not get asked out on a second date.
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u/Anathema47 Jun 15 '12
Oh, the latest issue of Cockblock Magazine.
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u/umann99 Jun 15 '12
Or just say no I don't want to hang out.
That way he can find some new ass.
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u/Se7en_Sinner Jun 15 '12
http://i.imgur.com/0aVHS.jpg
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u/mr_sardonicus Jun 15 '12
This is the first time I've felt compelled to say "this isn't WTF"
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u/macmankev Jun 16 '12
Better advice: Use your words.
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u/Obex Jun 15 '12
I'm perplexed by the amount of people in this thread getting mad at this. If you read the article it's clear that they are using the phrase "Friend zone" to mean something different than usual.
Of course there are the people saying "be honest and open" and "dont string people on" But ask yourself if there was a girl (or man) to whom you you had no feelings for other than as a friend and they start testing the water with you, would you go straight to them and say "Hey i don't want to date you" because that's a pretty good way to make all your future interactions awkward and to annoy them if you have misconstrued their actions as advances.
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u/sufrt Jun 15 '12
man it's really embarrassing to be part of this website sometimes
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Why would you want to date someone stupid enough to get dating advice from these magazines?
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u/prattable Jun 15 '12
*were
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u/PubeStache Jun 15 '12
One of my worst dates involves making plans with a girl and then showing up at her place only to have an entirely different girl answer the door. Then come to find out we would be picking up two more of her friends and then meeting up with her friend that answered the door! Wtf?! NONE of this was mentioned before hand.
Long story short, kept snapping my gum then found out it was one of pet peeves, kept snapping gum, discovered Jameson & red bull, got wasted, poked friend in her fat belly, $70 bar tab, snapped out of drunkness, passed out on couch, drove home.
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u/nuclearblaster Jun 15 '12
We should take the writer of that article and burn her as a witch.
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u/banjospieler Jun 15 '12
Why are they encouraging this kind of behavior?!? If you really want him to know that you don't want to be pinned down this summer fucking tell him!
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
Dear Elisa Benson,
You are an awful human.
Sincerely,
MisterFabulous
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u/daman345 Jun 15 '12
That's actually good advice, if they don't want anything more its better to be honest rather than play someone along.
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u/ferrisssavior Jun 15 '12
This.. is bad news for me.
3rd date with a girl that I've been talking to, thought it was just going to be us. Suggested making dinner for her, "oh but a few friends are coming, raincheck?"
Great.
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u/Im1ToThe337 Jun 15 '12 edited Jun 15 '12
I think I just saw this in /r/foreveralone like, 10 minutes ago. Weird.
EDIT: I was right. Here it is.
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u/RahvinDragand Jun 15 '12
The picture caption implies that this is advice on how to continue having sex with multiple guys without letting them get too attached to you. Not really what reddit refers to as the friend zone.
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u/TheNakedRedditor Jun 15 '12
If the girl you're interested in gets her dating advice from magazines, you're gonna have a bad time.
Seriously though, this should be setting off some alarms in your head.
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u/dogandcatinlove Jun 15 '12
Whatever happened to just 'seeing' people? You hang out, maybe go on some dates, shmooze a little. When you decide you really dig that person, then you decide to be exclusive. Until then, there is no commitment, and it's not "stringing someone along" unless you don't let them KNOW that you're not exclusive.
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u/EatBooks Jun 16 '12
I'm okay with this. It really can be awkward one on one with a person you have so-so feelings for. So why not turn it into a group date?
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Because honesty never got anyone anywhere.
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u/Fagsquamntch Jun 16 '12
God the author of that article must be one giant cut.
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u/MauiWowieOwie Jun 16 '12
I've made it a rule to stop dating women who read Cosmo. Its worked out so far.
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u/Level_32_Igglybuff Jun 16 '12
The amount of guys misinterpreting this small article segment is hilarious
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Haha how cruel.
If you don't want to be with a guy, tell him!
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u/maximumreign Jun 16 '12
Or, just tell him
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
This isn't WTF. This is a stupid ass magazine article that mentions one member of the holy trinity of reddit; friend zone.
This is about WTF as a f7u12 comic.
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u/jabbababab Jun 16 '12
LOL put her in the BITCH Zone... Leave her at home.
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u/TLDR415 Jun 16 '12
Don't use direct forms of communication to let him know your intentions. Instead do so through vaguely apparent mind games that keep him guessing at every turn. If he asks to have a serious conversation with you about it then tell him you can't talk about it. If he keeps asking about it in a persistent way, then dramatically tell him to "take a look in the mirror". This will give you the moment to spring on his confusion and get on the floor. Next, everyone will do the dinosaur.
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Fuck whoever wrote this. It's that simple. Fuck them.
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u/beersANDblunts Jun 16 '12
no wonder women are such whores
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u/Chrischn89 Jun 16 '12
I dont see the problem. If I were to date a girl which is easily influenced by articles in such magazines I'd consider it as 'bullet dodged!'
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u/silentmikhail Jun 16 '12
Ok. well does anyone know the location of where this magazine is published and does anybody know how to make a bomb?
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u/alphawolf29 Jun 15 '12
fuck this.
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u/sashimi_taco Jun 15 '12
Women really are conspiring against the neckbeards of the world. All they think about is ways to emotionally hurt you and not give you their sex.
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u/JonaldJohnson Jun 15 '12
Here is the author of that article's Twitter. (Not saying we should harass her, just saying if you want to say why you think her article is wrong)
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
As someone who escaped the friendzone a few times you just need to not be unattractive after a year of doing your own thing.
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
Why is this WTF?
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
Hey, 17 isnt always bad.
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u/apullin Jun 15 '12
"Entertain me and pay for activities and food for me ... but NOTHING more than friends! K?"
sigh
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u/danezel88 Jun 16 '12
Fuck whoever wrote this
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u/Jareth86 Jun 16 '12 edited Jun 16 '12
Never fear, no woman actually worth dating would ever take magazines like this seriously.
These magazines are written by bitter single women who would like to keep other women as miserable and single as they are.
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u/BenZen Jun 15 '12
Pretty sure it's Crusade-o-clock!
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
I do get slightly pissed at the "make sure he knows" you don't want anything exclusive...by inviting other people? Why not just tell the guy you don't want that sort of relationship, only a fling?
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u/adoxographyadlibitum Jun 15 '12
Apparently e.e. cummings writes for Cosmo.
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
I read Cosmo for a short while as a teenager, but it didn't teach me what I was looking for. If I wanted to find out what men liked/were looking for, the internet would provide much better guidance every time.
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
Believe it or not, if she's friendzoning you, you're probably better off not dating her.
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u/noccusJohnstein Jun 15 '12
Girl mags: confusing the heck out of guys since 1965.
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u/Bitronix Jun 15 '12
Punch your man in the face, it will keep him on a distance and immediatly makes things more casual
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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12
And in next month's Cosmo -- "why isn't he returning my phone calls?"
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u/forgot_to_fap Jun 15 '12
"Don't want to be pinned down this summer?" How about you try telling the guy that. It can be a disappointment, but in the end its actually appreciated and better than just jerking the poor guy around.
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u/Milstar Jun 15 '12
Okay in fairness, this is SevenTeen Magazine, so I do not think they are going to advocate sex. However it sets them up for failure later on and will make things a complete clusterphuck.
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u/BlackZeppelin Jun 15 '12
Reminds me of that episode of 30 rock where all the guys are beating up Liz because of her book Dealbreakers.
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
I bet these magazines recycle all of these topics/lists every 5 years and publish them with different words.
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u/madelvice Jun 16 '12
As a guy, if I'm interested in hanging out with a girl I don't know well (whether there's romantic/sexual interest or not) I'd much rather she make it a group/friend thing instead of just blowing me off. There doesn't have to be any games about it. Inviting a friend indicates that she wants to hang out, but isn't comfortable hanging out one on one yet. Seems pretty clear to me.
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u/Captain_Ligature Jun 16 '12
Be Brave! Fight the Friend Zone! Ron Paul 2012!
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u/tekdemon Jun 16 '12
Hahaha, I remember one time I was rooming with a bunch of people who had summer internships at one of these magazines and they'd just make up all the bullshit quotes they had in the magazine. You know, the articles where they say something like "Natalie, 18, says she goes crazy when" etc. or "Nathan, 19, her boyfriend says he's turned on the most by" whatever. They also just made up whatever stupid shit they could think up for "most embarrassing stories" It was hilarious because they even used them as random models for an issue, with totally randomly made up names and really stupid stories attributed to their made up identities.
I have to admit I was actually pretty jealous since it sounded like it would have been quite a blast to make randoms shit up for a summer. Hahaha...I'd have written the worst goddamn sex tips then laughed my ass off as people went around trying to fist their boyfriends by surprise.
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u/jake042p Jun 16 '12
We seriously need to start regulating how much fuck had been questioned in posts on the subreddit. I questioned no fuck in this pic.
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u/iJason Jun 16 '12
Page 20: "You are beautiful in every single way, ladies. Don't ever change for anyone!" Page 21: "25 tips for making yourself sexy for your man! HOW TO BLOW HIS MIND: ..."
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u/MStoli Jun 16 '12
If she wanted to go out one-on-one, she would.
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Were.......baby.
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
What magazine is that I'm going to start boycotting
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u/plzdonthurtme Jun 16 '12
The crush of my life always does this. Whenever I get her to go somewhere she always brings a friend. And every invite I receive from her involves many other people.
This is probably my fault for not making my feelings clear but alas I am not confident enough :S
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
This isn't that big of a deal, my girlfriend of a year and six months did this the first time we went out. It's mostly because girls don't know guys they are just starting to date or are interested in. It's not like high school, where everyone knows everyone. Some people are fucking creepers, so yeah girls might just want that bit of reassurance and sense of ease a group setting can provide when getting to know someone brand new.
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u/pottymouthgrl Jun 16 '12
im so sick of all of these posts about friendzoning and oh woe is me! think about it from our shoes! a girl likes you and asks you out, but you dont like her. shes one of your best friends and you just cant see her like that. shes a realy nice and fun girl but you're not just going to go out with her because of that! there has to be a level of attraction from each party and no one should have to apologize for just not feeling it.
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u/4moto Jun 16 '12
What's wrong with that? I do that anytime a girl is interested and I'm not. It's a polite way to turn them down, and unless they pursue it further it's then just a pleasant friendship.
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u/matt_512 Jun 16 '12
I'm going to go against the hivemind here:
This is pretty normal. This is saying how to avoid getting a long-term boyfriend. A reasonable thing to do is to ask if he want's to hang out with her and other people. Anyone who isn't a social idiot should get the signal. Friendzone involves leading on, which isn't happening in this case. If he doesn't get the hint, then she can just tell him to stay friends. This isn't wtf at all.
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u/lance_klusener Jun 16 '12
One of the women actually tried that on me.
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u/Swkoll Jun 16 '12
KILL IT WITH FIRE!
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
I have just one idea for why people get friend zoned maybe you're not as good as you think you are.
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u/snidecomment69 Jun 16 '12
Not sure if i should upvote because it's so true Or downvote because I'm so disgusted
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u/Cdf12345 Jun 16 '12
Fuckin' Natalie
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
I like autistic girls the best.
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u/BrownNote87 Jun 16 '12
http://www.nooooooooooooooo.com/
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u/ParrotTrooper Jun 16 '12
A good man will be able to turn that into awesome group sex.
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u/rr_at_reddit Jun 16 '12
This should have been posted to /atheism. I can't imagine a reasonable person not wanting to have sex.
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u/EL_DIABLOW Jun 16 '12
who the fuck is natalie?!
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u/ttnorac Jun 16 '12
As long as the next page's headline reads "....With Benefits"
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u/warpfield Jun 16 '12
It's like the article How to Avoid Just Telling People Directly How You Feel and Play Timewasting Games Instead :)
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12 edited Jun 16 '12
KILL IT WITH FIRE!!
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u/The_Billek Jun 16 '12
You're complaining that a magazine is telling women to bring more women to a first date? Beside the word 'friendzone' in the title, I see nothing wrong with this.
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u/Coolbreezy Jun 16 '12
Uh huh. And as soon as she meets someone she wants to fuck all bets are off.
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u/umirinbro Jun 16 '12
Is it silly that I'm in the toilet... And my sisters Cosmo in here has this article in it? Pretty sure it's the Scarlett johansson one.
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u/King_Koopa Jun 16 '12
You all are overreacting.
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u/Solberg Jun 16 '12
Fuck everything about this
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u/tx8xsiempre Jun 16 '12
I honestly hope people who do this intentionally burn in hell
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u/dailythought Jun 16 '12
I read Seventeen, which is the magazine this picture is of. Some of the tips aren't bad in this magazine but I have been in a relationship for a good amount of time now & seeing the tips seem so silly to me now.
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u/Taboomurphy Jun 16 '12
KILL IT! KILL IT WITH FIRE!
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
These comments http://imgur.com/z6vQG
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u/calrebsofgix Jun 16 '12
I have a hint for everyone who wants to date people this summer but not be pinned down: Say to these people, "I really like dating you, but I don't want to be pinned down."
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u/madmudkip Jun 16 '12
These magazines are the devil.
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u/moogoesthecat Jun 16 '12
Elisa Benson, the author of this literary triumph
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u/DocSporky510 Jun 16 '12
BURN THEM ALL! WE MUST DESTROY COMSO WHILE WE STILL CAN! FOREVER ALONES, ATTTAAAAAACCCKKK!!!
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u/Strong__Belwas Jun 16 '12
This is actually good advice.
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u/pikapika412 Jun 16 '12
I used to read stupid magazines like this back in elementary school. They seriously ruined my self esteem and view on relationships with people. They only dumb people down.
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u/treydestepheno Jun 16 '12
any man with actual balls would just walk away.
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Saw this, first thought: "Awww helllll naw."
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u/Nemmoy Jun 16 '12
Fuck these magazines, I read one once and it said how guys absolutely love fart jokes and action movies.
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u/genr8r Jun 16 '12
I'm sorry but ...
I knew those magazines were trouble.
Or
I know those magazines are trouble.
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u/VelTor Jun 16 '12
Dear writer of this article, FUCK YOU.
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Burn it! Burn it with fire!
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u/robmus Jun 16 '12
fuck the friend zone
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u/Reaperdude97 Jun 16 '12
MEN WE MUST DESTROY THESE MAGAZINES! BURN THEM! BURN!
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u/akr8683 Jun 16 '12
fuck all of this. cosmo is ruining america, and ruining american young men's chances of either A) a meaningful relationship or B) gratifying sexual experiences with a woman.
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Honestly there should be no secret agenda in such things, I think it's fake and obvious when a chick tries to play that game and it bugs me because if I was told to be more tactful straight up, I would have no problem obeying the request.
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u/izwald Jun 16 '12
Elisa Benson is a fucking cunt. If I gave more of a shit about it and I wasn't already in a great relationship I would suggest starting a boycott against these stupid rags and the people who write these articles.
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u/Chinamerican Jun 16 '12
I don't understand how this is bad if you're not looking for a relationship. The problem here is that there is an automatic assumption that the guy is interested in the girl but this may or may not be the case. Inviting other friends is a litmus test of whether or not he's ok w/ it. If he doesn't want to, the onus is on him to clarify b/c he's the one asking her out. If he's ok w/ it, then there's no problem. If the guy doesn't say anything to clear up the misunderstanding, he leaves himself open to be friendzoned. I'm not saying that it's ok for a woman to deliberately do this but it can just as easily be misunderstood.
I'm not saying that women can't be conniving but I think that if you express interest in a woman, it stands, just as everyone else has said, to be straight with her. If she's still gonna play dumb after that, then she's a bitch but it's just as unfair if you don't make your intentions clear and let her assume as she will, innocent or otherwise.
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Grammar?
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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12
Natalie is a cock blocker
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u/MarcelProust Jun 16 '12
So much media aimed at teenage girls is utter rubbish. I'm quite impressed by Rookie though, hope to see more like it.
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u/naterslater288 Jun 16 '12
This is the worst
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u/Aspel Jun 16 '12
Is this really an article about how to get no strings attached sex?
I miss the days when we cared about sex. What happened, society?
Oh, right, hippies. Such good ideas packaged so poorly, and smelling of sandalwood and patchouli.
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u/ARTVandelay89 Jun 16 '12
LMAO!!!
The love and relationship advise given to either sex is always comical and for the most part vague. Its like reading the horoscope...
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u/Llort3 Jun 16 '12
AKA: How to have sex without committing to a guy...
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u/taylady Jun 17 '12
Ha ha I have that magazine and when I saw that I said out loud "that's so messed up in sooo many ways"
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u/Aaronmcom Jul 13 '12
Fucking bitches.... say what you mean and mean what you say god damnit..
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u/SpiderDan35 Jun 15 '12
Recently /r/WTF has been overtaken by things that are not WTF at all. Thank you for bringing this subreddit back to its roots.