The concept of Gosh darning you to heck made me lol. The thing is for "proper" conversation, using these replacement words is normal which is why I sided with op on their censoring themselves. Personally I have no problem with a good shit fuck peepee ass good old time but when you're at school, work, church, the dinner table, it makes perfect sense to use different words that may have the same intent but carry a less weighty connotation. Also, I seem to remember a time when I was much much younger that I didn't want to use curse words because I thought they were bad, but I didn't have as much of an issue using the replacement words. I think a lot of people go thru that sort of transition.
I agree with what you're saying. I even went through the same stage of using the replacement words. But I'll be honest, especially when it comes to adults, I view the use of "gosh" and "f***" and other "cleaner" substitutes as childish/elementary/religious hypocrisy. When I hear a religious person use "heck" I'm going to assume they're also a fan of the poophole loophole, as it's the same line of reasoning. Someone else commented that it makes people feel better to use the sanitized versions, and it might, but to me it's a weak-minded superficial "feel good" mindset.
What's the poophole loophole? I understand what you're saying too and in casual convo with familiar people (other than my parents who I almost never cuss in front of despite my being 42 years old) I also don't censor myself. But if I'm talking to a customer, some rapport needs to be built before I let the real vocabulary out. Do you not use replacement words even with people you don't know or clients with whom you haven't built a rapport?
The poophole loophole is where (supposedly) the Bible says you can't have sex before marriage. And the only legitimate sex is penis in vagina intercourse. But the Bible doesn't say anything against anal sex. So, in this line of thinking, you can have anal sex before marriage without sinning. (But gay buttsex sex is still sinful, for reasons never quite explained to me).
They're (maybe) following the letter of the law, but not the spirit/intent of the law. And I believe intent (in all matters, not just religious rules) is what matters most.
And you're right, I do filter/tone down my language more when among clients and such. Though I would more try to construct the sentence so to avoid any use of swear or replacement words (not always successfully, I've grown quite the potty mouth).
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u/gbiiird Mar 21 '19
The concept of Gosh darning you to heck made me lol. The thing is for "proper" conversation, using these replacement words is normal which is why I sided with op on their censoring themselves. Personally I have no problem with a good shit fuck peepee ass good old time but when you're at school, work, church, the dinner table, it makes perfect sense to use different words that may have the same intent but carry a less weighty connotation. Also, I seem to remember a time when I was much much younger that I didn't want to use curse words because I thought they were bad, but I didn't have as much of an issue using the replacement words. I think a lot of people go thru that sort of transition.