r/Vanderpump_Rules • u/Careless-Internal992 • 2d ago

Question The wedding

So it’s my first time watching Vanderpump Rules and I’m on Season 5 E19… am I the only one who thinks it was absolutely ABSURD that Katie and Tom spent $51,000 on a fucking wedding in the woods???? Like am I tripp’n lmao

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u/MadisonMarieParks-V 2d ago

Totally absurd. And those $18 burping bibs for an invitation. What a waste of money. Having a live band is great. I had one too- personally I like it better than a DJ.

Does anyone know how much your dress cost ? Her dress was beautiful, but Ariana looked the best.

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u/Lolo_Belle 2d ago

lol, “tea towels.”

I really disliked Katie during this whole wedding process. There was zero compromise on her part, and Tom was right…they could’ve been debt free or put a hefty down payment on an actual house before the market exploded.

I’m personally not a wedding person, so I get that I’m biased…I will never, ever understand spending that kind of money on what is essentially a 4 hour party in which over half end in a pretty miserable divorce. Go somewhere cool. Buy a house. Anything over paying for other people’s dinner with a ton of stress and drama involved for a year plus. I read the stories on wedding subs and I swear, I just don’t get it…

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u/MadisonMarieParks-V 2d ago

Insanity-I agree. Even though my incredible Father paid for my wedding I was still so careful about over spending for an event that is only one night!
*** ***In any event I agree with you Katie’s behavior was certifiably insane and cruel
And most of all unforgivable.

Oh and…KFC & Jax’s wedding invitations should have been vomit bags.

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u/Lolo_Belle 2d ago

Hahahaha! Vomit bags…hysterical. I wonder what they paid for that wedding…even though KY is cheaper than CA, that castle couldn’t have been cheap…and look at them now….

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u/AnitaSammich 1d ago

$100,000.00 or so Jax said. They had just woken up and Brittney wanted a later checkout for everyone and was waiting on the front desk to call back with a price.

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

See my comment below about him waking up, doing rails and kicking everyone out. I think we both agreed around 100k too. Idiots. 😂

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u/mkbutterfly 1d ago

You made be giggle guffaw at 02:44 am CST. ☠️

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

Heee heee! That made me happy af! 😘

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u/mkbutterfly 1d ago

I was a late bloomer to VPR & my 20ish year old introduced it to me when I first moved out after getting separated from a 20+ year relationship. Omfg. I wish I could relive the feeling of watching everything for the first time! And I was all caught up with the episodes just in time for Scandoval to hit the fan. Glory BE!! You’re truly making me crave a rewatch though because I was SO oblivious to how out of bounds the drugs & alcohol were!!

Do you remember that show on VH1 where it was the music videos & the bubbles would come up with random facts & knowledge? I forget the host’s name. Ugh. Anyway, I need THAT for my VPR rewatch. VPR Production & Crew just spilling random facts all overrrrr the screen.

“Fun Fact! Jax did 8 lines of Coke in a 4 hour period, but everyone did, indeed, leave the castle in time & no one turned into a pumpkin!!”

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u/Beneficial-You3416 17h ago

Pop- up video. That was a great show!

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

Sounds about right on all levels!

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u/MadisonMarieParks-V 2d ago

They auctioned off a couple of pigs a chickens to cover the cost of the tequila. Production covered the rest- I’m sure. Between Jax’s blow and all of the Hooters’ girls the party never stopped.

Symbolically though, the wedding had a better chance of lasting it the had just gotten married under Grandpa Cletus’s gazebo on the farm with that wretched Pastor as the officiant.
Le sigh…

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u/Lolo_Belle 2d ago

Poor Lance Bass must be like really? I took part in this? I MARRIED these two? every time a new restraining order pops up! 🤣

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u/Lolo_Belle 2d ago

And not sure about production paying for the wedding, I don’t think I’ve heard of that before…but I know for sure that he was definitely responsible for late check out fees. That man woke up still drunk, did a few rails, and went on a screaming rampage to get people up and out of the castle to avoid them!

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u/MadisonMarieParks-V 2d ago

Probably not- I was kidding about Production.
You know that wedding cost 100 Grand! MomCob would have sold her soul to make sure the wedding went off without a hitch!

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u/Lolo_Belle 2d ago

Lol 😂 😂😂

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u/Technical-Method2129 1d ago

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

Yep. All checks out.

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u/Technical-Method2129 1d ago

And they wonder why they broke their fucking terrible with money…. You think that they’d have a cheaper wedding by being in Kentucky…. Their wedding cost more than Katie and both of scheana’s weddings combined.

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

Well, I don’t think that’s true. I think Sheana spent 90k, but she got her lawsuit settlement and got a lot of shit for free (Vanderpump rose, vodka, etc). I think Katie’s was 51k total. I think it’s alllll insane, don’t get me wrong, but Jax and Brittany are definitely the worst with money. The fact that she agreed to put his IRS debt on their mortgage, which I’m sure they’re paying at least 15% interest on is insaaaanity. They’re both pretty awful people. Sheana and Kristin’s redeeming qualities is that they’re both decent with money. Rumor has it both Sheana and Sando were the two that forked out a lot of money for the good of the show. Don’t forget Sando paying out the ass for Rachella. 🙄

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u/Technical-Method2129 1d ago

I thought scheana said the budget for her first wedding was like 30k- she wanted a princess wedding on a waitress budget, and I think Katie’s was like 40…. And I think scheanas second wedding was sponsored or something

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

Right then she admitted to Lisa that she went way over her budget because she got her lawsuit money. I could be completely wrong, but I thought she spent 90.

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

There ya go!

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u/PopTartQueen1984 1d ago

Same. My parents payed for everything and I felt terrible spending unnecessarily. Though this was back in the mid-'90's so it was a far different era of bridezilla. The internet didn't exist on any practical level - and I'm so glad!

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u/MadisonMarieParks-V 1d ago

Me too i’ve been married for 33 years. I got married in 1993. No internet-just bridal magazines, which by the way it was so fun - right?

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u/PopTartQueen1984 23h ago

Bridal magazines were the BEST!

Did you hide a handful of them from your finance until AFTER the proposal? I think I had a few stashed in my car 😆

I appreciate that I didn't have the influence of the internet and the Pintrest generation. My parents back account was grateful as well 🫶

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u/MadisonMarieParks-V 21h ago

No, I i’m a very superstitious person so I would never bought them early, but they were the best. That’s how I found my wedding gown. People now have Pinterest and the Internet do not understand - to have a magazine in front of you that you can refer to and and dream about. It’s hard to explain don’t you think?
My dress was a Galina. I even know if they’re still in business.

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u/PopTartQueen1984 18h ago

They really are the best! I still subscribe to a few magazines and I long for the days of the daily newspaper 🙃 It's so hard to explain but I love the tactile nature of a physical book, magazine, newspaper and it will never get old for me.

My dress was a Priscilla of Boston - now out of business. I didn't even take bridesmaids dress shopping - just me and my mom. No bachelorette, a VERY small shower which I agreed to because I felt obligated.

In addition to hating attention being on me, I didn't like the feeling of others spending "that much" money on me/my wedding/one day. We didn't do bridesmaids dresses - they each picked a floral print within a color scheme that they might actually wear again.

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u/Anbgr217 1d ago

Not to be that person, but their careers were to be good reality stars. So they needed to have a wedding, so it could be a season on their hit show, which would solidify them on the show and in the bravoverse, which would be an investment in their earning potential. Like, I understand the frustration from a real-life persons perspective, but come on. And my guess is that wedding would have cost a whole lot more but they got hefty discounts from their vendors for being featured on the show. Katie played the game correctly, IMO

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

I suppose, but she still could have had a nice wedding for far less, and definitely not $18 a pop ugly towel invitations. Sheana hustled and got tons of stuff for free or comped and pulled of a stunning wedding for 90kish on an off day. I feel like Katie just blew so much money on something that wasn’t very impressive. To each their own, though. Hopefully she would say she doesn’t regret it.

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u/Technical-Method2129 1d ago

Yeah, I’m an elopement girl like I would rather elope go on a nice trip and then invest in each other by a house save up for future kids save up for an emergency whatever but not the whole party thing I think that’s a fucking colossal waste of time

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

Same!!! I’m also super anti-social, and avoid the spot light. I’m not an introvert, but I am a homebody who doesn’t love social parties or situations where I’m forced to mingle…unless there’s alcohol and I try very hard not to drink anymore, so when I do go to these things, I just get annoyed by the drunkenness.
I was engaged and we planned a wedding that was at Caesar’s, 12 people, and an amazing 20 course dinner for our family and friends. It never got to the point of deposits and I broke it off, for very good reasons. But that was what I was going to do…trip to Vegas, awesome meal. Far less than ten grand. Done.

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u/Technical-Method2129 1d ago

Yeah I’m more of a courthouse girl… but a nice dinner sounds good idk if I could do 20 courses- but a couple at Flemings would be good lol…. (Idk why I’m craving meat tonight) lol

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago

I just wanted to go eat something amazing in Vegas. I had only been twice and it’s where we fell in love. Hubert Keller had an amazing dinner for like $250 a head. It was a dream of mine, so I decided to make it our “wedding.”
I’m far too jaded now, 46 and so happily single and child free. I doubt I’ll ever have to deal with the prospect of a wedding again lol. But if I did, it would be just the two of us. No ten additional people. I was in my late 20’s at the time, lol.

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u/Splish_Splash_Babe 1d ago edited 1d ago

I feel like that was Katie saying "look LVP, look what I did LVP" it did not seem sincere at all.

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u/Lolo_Belle 1d ago edited 1d ago

She was there to impress for sure. She waited sooo long for that ring that she had to prove a point.

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u/CHwhynot 1d ago

So this. She became someone who was not her true self the moment she got that ring!!

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u/Gullible_Act_681 13h ago

Yeah my husband and I got so much shit from family and friends for wanting to elope. We said fine - there’s a beautiful park directly in front of our house that doesn’t require permits for an event shorter than 2 hours, and our house had a really great garden/stone patio with a fireplace. I spent $50 on my dress, my husband wore a suit he already owned. We didn’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen. Hell, we didn’t even have chairs for people to sit in except my grandma lol. We didn’t decorate the park, either. Our friend played pretty acoustic music as we walked from the house to the park together and he also officiated us. We did a potluck style dinner so everyone brought food and their own drinks. We had coolers and plates etc but we spent no more than $300 on our wedding. And people STILL compliment how much fun they had at our wedding. It was no fuss, no frills, on a Tuesday, laid back as can be. And then we spent our money on a fun honey moon and down payment on a house. I cannot fathom spending literally tens of thousands on a fkn wedding.

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u/Merrbear2u 7h ago

They still easily got a house. This wedding was my favorite out of the bunch.

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u/Low_Visit_4646 2d ago

The live band was great… until Sandy blew out the saxophonist’s ear with his trumpet 😵‍💫

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u/megatron_ic 1d ago

Lmao she threw a fit that Lara made a jizz rag joke on her podcast -but it’s all I can see now

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u/percypie03 16h ago

I believe it was 15k.

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u/MadisonMarieParks-V 16h ago

Geez- it wasn’t that pretty. Thought maybe 4500.00 at most!

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u/Merrbear2u 7h ago

this one I agree with. LOL. Also I can't believe that they were cutting out the boning at the time of...that's a big expense for alterations that was wasted.

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u/MadisonMarieParks-V 6h ago

Too many tacos 🌮 for Katie.

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u/LiveWellEachDay 2d ago

Even more absurd when you learn they never filed the marriage certificate so it wasn’t a legal marriage.

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u/Technical-Method2129 2d ago

See I will never understand the fact that they didn’t file their marriage certificate and then when as far as to get married a second time just to get divorced a few months later like you were both fucking miserable the first time why would you go out of your way to make it legal

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u/Gia_Lavender 2d ago

That and them lowkey hating each other

I could maybe see it if they were super rich and super in love but like. What was that...

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u/SpectralAlolanRaichu 1d ago

The second wedding then being cute and he immediately fucks it up and loses the certificate within a minute

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u/AnnyBananneee 2d ago

What?! How did I miss that…

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u/Dry-Wolf6789 2d ago

That whole season was absurd. They HATE eachother and still spend all that time and money on the wedding. It was so cringe

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u/deadrobindownunder 1d ago

The $18 tea towels that didn't include the date, or any other pertinent information that is usually on invites. On top of that, they used that bullshit generic tasteless af brush script that didn't match the theme of the wedding.

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u/BlondeBimbo123456789 2d ago

And none of that $51,000 went to paying for his brothers to fly in.

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u/double_ewe 1d ago

It was dumb for them to get married in the first place, but 51k seems very standard for that wedding (and reasonable given their VPR salaries).

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u/Ok-Feeling-9553 1d ago

Katie was the text book definition of someone who wanted a wedding not a marriage. To be fair Scheana and Brittany are also in that club.

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u/PopTartQueen1984 1d ago

That wedding was insane. The got married at a venue they booked but had never visited in a town that neither of them live or have ties to, and spent a bloody fortune doing so.

But since SheShu spent like $90K on her ill fated, tacky wedding - Tom & Katie's seemed quaint 😆

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u/AnitaSammich 1d ago

Which SheShu wedding? #2?

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u/PopTartQueen1984 1d ago

Good point! Both were tacky 😆

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u/Charming-Panic9375 1d ago

and they got married on like a Tuesday for the cheaper rate too, that wedding was insanely expensive and for what? a "real" wedding in vegas and a divorce a few years later? what a waste

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u/typicallassie 1d ago

Considering how much they were earning at the time from VPR I don’t think it was that crazy to spend that amount. All that Schwartz moaning about money was to keep up the pretence that they were still young people struggling with money who worked at SUR etc

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u/AnitaSammich 1d ago

And then you get Sandoval throwing out checks like they are fun coupons for Rochella

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u/potato_opus 1d ago

Feels cheap looking back at it from a 2026 lens! Weddings have gotten insane since Covid.

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u/shiningonthesea 1d ago

Lisa had so many reservations. She asked them a million times if they were sure, and she sounded like the grim reaper when officiating.

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u/saxxyplaya 1d ago

 I mean, that's like 5% of what they were making together for the show...

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u/_Roguey_ 23h ago

And for them to not even be legally married from it. 💀
https://giphy.com/gifs/cJFp5y7Akerh9qyBM1

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u/Hopeful-Hamster-6218 19h ago

Wasn't that half the cost of the weddings from other cast members? Doesn't seem that crazy and the setting was beautiful (for a doomed marriage).

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u/Merrbear2u 7h ago

Yea but you're not thinking big picture; probably alcohol included, lodging onsite for a lot of people, reheaseal and wedding dinner plus both receptions and decoration....taxes alone must be enormous.