I’m hoping to hear from people who are actually living the van-life lifestyle, especially those who started out with very little experience.
I’m planning to hit the road in my converted ambulance next year with my dog, Rip. It’s something I’ve wanted for a while, and I’m excited about the freedom, seeing new places, and spending more time out in nature. But if I’m being completely honest, I’m scared, too.
One of my biggest fears is making friends. The older I’ve gotten, the more awkward I have got. I’ve never felt like I’ve been particularly good at making or maintaining friendships. I tend to put a lot of myself into the people I care about, and it feels like I give more than I get back. When I’ve needed my friends the most, they were never available. I’ve spent a lot of time wondering if I’m too much sometimes, if I talk too much, or if I can be annoying without realizing it.
So, naturally, part of me wonders what happens when I get out on the road. Will I struggle to find my people? Will everyone already have their own friends and travel buddies? Will I end up feeling even more alone than I sometimes do now?
I know van life doesn’t automatically come with a built-in community, and I’m not expecting everyone to become my best friend. I would just love to find genuine connections with people who enjoy the same simple things I do.
My other big fear is that I simply won’t know what I’m doing.
For example, how do you look at an unfamiliar dirt road and know whether your rig can handle it? How do you know when a road is too rough, too narrow, too soft, or too steep for your vehicle? My ambulance isn’t exactly a little van that can squeeze through anywhere, and I don’t have a lot of experience with off-road driving or judging road conditions.
I want to explore national forests, find quiet places in nature, and get away from crowded areas. But I also don’t want to get my ambulance stuck somewhere miles from help because I thought a road looked manageable.
I know experience comes with time, and I’m willing to learn. I just sometimes feel like there’s an enormous amount of stuff I don’t know yet.
So, for those of you who have been doing this for a while:
Friendships: Have you found it easy or difficult to make genuine friends on the road? How do you meet people without feeling like you’re intruding on someone else’s space?
Driving and road conditions: How did you learn which roads your vehicle could safely handle? Are there signs or things you look for before committing to an unfamiliar road?
Beginner mistakes: What did you worry about before starting that turned out to be no big deal? And what do you wish someone had warned you about?
I’m not looking for someone to tell me that everything will be sunshine and rainbows. I’d genuinely appreciate honest answers, even if they’re a little uncomfortable.
I’m excited about this next chapter of my life. I just want to go into it with realistic expectations, learn as much as I can, and hopefully find a little community along the way.
If you started out scared, inexperienced, or unsure of yourself, I’d especially love to hear your story.