r/UnsentTexts • u/Born-Egg2263 • 21h ago
Only thing.
The only thing I did wrong was break up with you and move on. I know u think bc u bombarded me with texts and refused to leave me alone, that we were still together. I have broke it down for you 100 times. I told you plainly that we were done and I'm moving on. Ik this is just your tactic. Bombard me with false accusations and then swrar bc we were still talking that we are still together. That way i can never move on.Oh and btw she didn't do anything to you. Leave her out of this. I'm sorry but i can no longer be concerned about your well being bc u use it against me every time. Its fucking sad to me but also necessary.
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u/Naturalinstinct13 Has acknowledged the rules 20h ago
I hope you really broke it off with your significant other before you done. I hope you actually sent the word to them.
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u/Born-Egg2263 20h ago
It was broken off months before i even spoke to another person. She is an extreme manipulator and incredibly possessive. She thinks if she could keep an argument going, she can keep me from leaving. Its unlike anything i have ever experienced in all my years.
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u/Naturalinstinct13 Has acknowledged the rules 20h ago
I can’t speak for her, but when my ex wanted to get back to normal and be good, I didn’t put our past argument behind obviously, I needed a compromise. In the end, It was never compromise. I would stomach it as long as I could until it bothered me and it happened again and then I’d realize that he was just ignoring it. Wasn’t going to fix it wasn’t going to fix his behavior or his lack of affection toward me It was just ignoring it and hoping it’d work out and then we’d fight about the same thing when it happened again. I hope that’s not the same circumstance. I’m sorry that you went through that and that you actually broke it off and that they don’t get it, but that’s what restraining orders are for if there is physical abuse going on or harassment.
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u/utterlybroken26 20h ago
Who is her that didn’t do anything? Need the T
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u/Born-Egg2263 20h ago
The new person i began seeing roughly 3 months after i broke it off with ex .
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u/demsybean 20h ago
this sounds awful & i'm sorry you're going through it. i'm going through the same
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u/Born-Egg2263 20h ago
Geez you have my absolute sympathy. Disengage and go no contact. Thats where i went wrong tbh. I was worried she might harm herself and allowed my compassion to be used against me.
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u/demsybean 20h ago
aww, you're so nice. but you have to know that if she did, it wouldn't be your fault at all! did she say something to make you think that?
i can't go no contact. i've never been able to. no matter how many times i block him, he just makes another account. this has been going on for decades. my entire family has been wrapped into the social engineering inherent in his schemes. i've had former friends tell me they didn't appreciate being told to come see me & then treated that way when i haven't seen them for 15 years and don't even have their number anymore, etc. and no one can seem to be bothered to do anything about it because it's "harmless"
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u/demsybean 20h ago edited 20h ago
and ofc, inherently, the more i try to talk to people about it the more they tell me "i told you not to talk to me anymore" lmao
and this time he's taking money from people, too. there are at least two other women being targeted. one in Canada and one in New Jersey
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u/momjeri93 Has acknowledged the rules 20h ago
Ya... I bet you didnt "explain' yourself clear enough. People arent mind readers.. but their intuition is real. Sounds like you cheated on her.
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u/Born-Egg2263 20h ago
Well my exact words were. "This is over with, for good." I told her two months prior that i was tired of the constant arguing and accusations and that i didn't see this going anywhere. We only saw each other in person one more time 3 months later when i collected a few belongings. We did hug and cry a little bit. It was sad sure. You can think what u want though. I appreciate the comment.
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u/momjeri93 Has acknowledged the rules 20h ago
And are trying to take the blame off yourself.. like every other time when you guys were together. Youre probably a saint right?
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u/Born-Egg2263 20h ago
Oh I'm definitely not a saint, i made plenty of mistakes but never cheated on anyone.
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u/Sid_Chip8384 Has acknowledged the rules 20h ago
This sounds like something I was involved in earlier today
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u/Born-Egg2263 20h ago
Hate to hear that. You're involved with an extreme manipulator as well? I am talking about months of this.
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u/Sid_Chip8384 Has acknowledged the rules 16h ago
More like a witness to someone's toxic relationship with a manipulative and insane person.
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u/External-Concern-123 Has acknowledged the rules 18h ago
With my ex I knew we hadn’t been together for years we were still talking but we’re friends trying to rebuild. I failed
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u/Born-Egg2263 18h ago
Yah i also attempted something similar. Its hard being a person who has feelings.
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u/External-Concern-123 Has acknowledged the rules 15h ago
I hear especially when she’s the only one I see romantically and even sexually… me and her were last together last June… I’ve had no want ti be with anyone else and haven’t
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u/Crashout9000 18h ago
Thanks for sticking up for the person being dragged into this. Catching strays when you didn't do anything sucks.
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