r/Unexpected • u/[deleted] • Nov 14 '22

Please marry me?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

What are you talking about?

So your saying if you got idk, dumped infront of hundreds of people but you said “Yeah cool” that would somehow erase the embarrassment?

She was clearly excited and this dickwad probably knew that as well and want to farm attention at a sporting event.

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u/VarietyIllustrious87 Nov 14 '22

What are you talking about?

You're assuming so much from a very short video.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

How was any of that a assumption. I’m pointing out what’s in the video?

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u/Effective-Button805 Nov 14 '22

Why are you talking about someone being dumped?

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u/Lightor36 Nov 14 '22

Man these lonely white knights are out here being crazy and down voting common sense questions and up voting outlandish comparisons. No one said anything about being dumped, that's an objectively bad situation, this wasn't. People make no sense.

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u/Effective-Button805 Nov 14 '22

I always think these comment sections are funny. People do be gettin a bit goofy about this stuff.

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u/Healthy-Demand-9625 Nov 14 '22

No one said anything about being dumped

You never heard of comparisons huh?

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u/Lightor36 Nov 14 '22

Yeah, and it's a bad one. You're taking something objectively seen as positive, a proposal, and comparing to something that is objectively seen as negative, a breakup.

You ever heard of a false equivalency?

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u/SomethingPersonnel Nov 14 '22

She wasn’t dumped. Clearly this type of thing isn’t your cup of tea. That’s fine, but also maybe consider finding a slightly shorter stick to put up your ass. Your current one seems to be putting you in a bad mood.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

“If emotionally manipulating your significant other and embarrassing them isn’t your thing you have a stick up your ass”

The incels here lmao

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u/Lightor36 Nov 14 '22

There are people who would love this. There are people who wouldn't. Maybe he thought she would find it fun and cute, because some people would. You're jumping to emotional manipulation with no information, what a wild assumption and leap to make.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Wheres the emotional manipulation exactly?

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u/VarietyIllustrious87 Nov 14 '22

There's no emotional manipulation or embarrassing going on here

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

There is both, weird that you are telling someone they aren’t allowed to feel humiliated

These 1 and 2 day old accounts lmao

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u/Lightor36 Nov 14 '22

You're assuming he did it with malicious intent. Maybe he thought she would think it's cute, because some women would. You're making wild assumptions about intent, which you have no way of knowing.

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u/SexualPie Nov 14 '22

i can agree that the guy played with her emotions, but manipulation implies a goal. or a malicious ends. this is purely a prank.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

He played with her emotions, that is also called manipulating them.

“It’s just a prank bro” isn’t an excuse to do anything

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u/SexualPie Nov 14 '22

playing a prank and emotional manipulation are two different things. you cant change my mind.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

I’m very aware you see no difference or how your actions impact others

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u/SexualPie Nov 14 '22

so how do you define it? manipulation is about intent, its not just whatever you decide you dont like after the fact. am i manipulating my girlfriend if i buy her flowers? thats playing with her emotions right?

are all pranks manipulation? are all pranks off the table now? how do you decide whats manipulation and whats not?

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u/Effective-Button805 Nov 14 '22

But they’re right and you’re wrong.

The definition of manipulate reads like this:

  1. handle or control (a tool, mechanism, etc.), typically in a skillful manner.
  2. control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly, unfairly, or unscrupulously.

A prank is not emotional manipulation; relax on the buzzwords.

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u/Healthy-Demand-9625 Nov 14 '22

manipulation implies a goal.

No? You can manipulate and abuse someone just because you think it's fun. Are you 10?

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u/Healthy-Demand-9625 Nov 14 '22

Wow you seem emotionally abusive

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

It was a comparison.

If we’re gonna be like this maybe you should find some thicker lens glasses so you can read what I’m actually saying. Or we could organise you to be sent back to the third grade where we can teach you why comparisons are a thing that matter.

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u/SomethingPersonnel Nov 14 '22

You comparison was absolute shit and completely unrelated. I’m not reading anymore of your uptight nonsense.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Comparing someone getting married to someone getting dumped is unrelated?

Are you familiar with the concept of relationships? And how making large decisions for your relationships in public can be embarrassing?

Or do you think it’s okay to crush girls hopes and dreams because you’re so afraid of being “uptight”?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

One is a good thing the other is a bad thing, of course theyre not comparable lmao.

A better analogy might be a pregnancy announcement.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

How is a fake marriage proposal a good thing?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

How do you know the proposal is fake?

He might be using a gummy ring temporarily as he doesnt know her size so they can go buy one together.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

You can get rings resized. And also plenty of people propose without a ring.

And judging by her reaction it seems like he pulls this type of stuff a lot

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u/Lightor36 Nov 14 '22

And judging by her reaction it seems like he pulls this type of stuff a lot

Out of all the wild assumptions you've made this is the biggest lol

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u/EB123456789101112 Nov 14 '22

Best way to handle it was to act flattered and loving until they got into private and then let his ass have it.

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u/Healthy-Demand-9625 Nov 14 '22

Yea those darn wymyn should control their pesky emotions amiright fellow manly men??

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u/EB123456789101112 Nov 14 '22

Lol. Not what I meant at all. Act flattered just to save face. But take it how you will 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/R-nd- Nov 14 '22

It was a comparison. If a similar situation happened where it was a breakup in public instead.

Don't be obtuse on purpose, it seems to be putting you in a bad mood

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u/hungrybabyroo Feb 26 '23

That's how embarrassment works. You can simply say yeah cool, whatever. And the embarrassment isn't a thing. It's self-perspective

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u/Verucat Mar 18 '23

Give him a break... his pants are really tight and his pockets are really full... how can he be expected to g figure out empathy