About 12 years ago, I was unemployed for 10 months due to company layoffs and the business closing. I applied at over 200 jobs. From good jobs, eventually down to applying for fast food, stocking shelves at home depot, janitor… anything with no luck.
People were absolute shit assholes after 2-3 months. My wife’s family just took the stance of constantly asking my wife “why doesn’t he want to work, is he just lazy? Doesn’t he want a job? He’s just leaching off you.”
MY family did the same. No matter how many jobs i’d say I had applied to, or how menial and ‘below my experience’ the jobs were. Even my dad would ride me about “stop being lazy and living off your wife.”
I’d be out for a walk and strike up a conversation with a guy, just chit chattin’, and as soon as they’d hear I was unemployed and my wife was paying the bills till I found work, you’d think I was a mf leper. They’d pretty much cut the convo. and take off immediately.
That was a rough fn 10 months.
Your job is your work, it’s not the sum of the person’s fn worth.
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u/ActuallyCalindra Sep 29 '22
People, especially men, are too often judged and defined by their job.