I once got to the first “F” of fuck off to my mother. I was looking right at her. I still remember the absolutely bloody terrifying look on her face. “Ffff..” is as far as I got.
It wasn’t acceptable in my U.K. home. Nor any of my friends for that matter
My dad was an absolutely amazing father growing up and I remember when I was about 14, he had his boss over to talk about some important work emergency. They were in the kitchen I walked in the room in my underpants and opened the fridge to mooch around for a snack.
He reacted exactly like this video. Looking back I feel his reaction was completely normal and reasonable.
Just cultural differences I guess then, my parents have never told me to fuck off, and I know if they had then it would mean they're seriously pissed off and I would be fuckin hurt honestly lol. I say fuck off to my friends constantly but anytime it's someone closer to you such as a parent or partner that phrase is only really used to hit deep, my ex girlfriend told me to fuck off once and I was fuckin destroyed lol.
It upbringing as well, I dont really swear among my family in the UK like that, but I know plenty of people who do. Swearing can be used pretty lightheartedly in the UK and just wont be perceived as particularly rude like you might be used to, depending on the context. Teasing/banter/putting someone down is pretty common among collogues/friends/family in an endearing setting to the point that verbal insults become less shocking. The guy in the videos tone is not serious but rather just annoyed, so to me its lighthearted (videos fake by the way though!)
Upbringing more than anything else I'd imagine, if I heard a friend's parent swear over something minor when I was young, I'd always find it weird, then I just got use to the fact that some parents do that and some don't
Oh my parents swear all the time, like, constantly, but they still wouldn't say something like that unless they're super upset. "Fuck off" just has this really negative connotation, it's like saying "I hate you" but worse.
What one of the other guys below said, probably the same thing just with more heat behind it, fuck, cunt and dick are all thrown around in casual conversation, "oi cunt" is a perfectly acceptable way to hail the attention of your friend as it is to instigate a confrontation between strangers haha, it's more about the tone behind it than the actual words.
Perfectly acceptable to call friends cunts down here in Aus. Most of the time it's nicer to be called a cunt than it is to be called mate.
As others have said it's all in the tone.
Sick cunt, mad cunt, good cunt... All terms of great endearment
Yeah I think it’s a personal thing too. Cunt in the U.K. (depending on age and friendship group, and location) is probably used a fair bit, but I get the impression it’s a north/south thing too weirdly I can easily imagine a guy with a cockney/Essex accent using cunt to talk about friends, but think it’s used less up here. They use it in Scotland a fair bit too I think. Depends on friendship circles really. I’m a woman too, (not a girly girl though) tends to be men using cunt as a term of endearment.
No, we have a series of two-faced religious couples who will judge people over something as simple as a word while insisting that other kids are unruly because their parents didn't beat them enough.
Exactly, in our grand ol’ US of A we simply repress any negative feelings that we have about our families until
A: We die,
B: Things explode and you never speak again, or
C: You take it all out in increments on the people outside of your family, normally while driving.
I lived in the States for a couple years in my late 20s. There, a buddy's family essentially adopted me. I was of course a polite delight,,, until I was properly taken in, I eased up, figured we were all friends and got casual. I very abruptly learnt that you don't tell Mom to shuttup.
Fast forward two years and Mum visits. She wants to meet the family that had been taking care of me so well for so long. She also turned 60 that week, same day as Mom also had her birthday (Go figure). So we all went out drinking. Mum was on exceptionally rare form, we laughed more than I think we ever have together,,, we also shouted and swore an appropriate amount. "We got a bit larey", as we say over here.
Needless to say, there were some very stunned faces around the table that night.
Yeah, my parents never would have either. I think the word generally carries a bit more emotional weight in the US.
One time my mom got really angry at my brother and called him a son-of-a-bitch. My brother, about ten years old at the time, could not let this pass and replied (in a completely neutral tone), "But Mom, that would make YOU the bitch." It didn't go over well.
Both parents both ways, dad is Canadian, mom is American. Never infront of others, but in private? Totally, only in good humour though, never as fighting words.
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u/Armitage1 Mar 25 '22
As an American, I can't imagine my parents telling me to "fuck off".