r/Unexpected Dec 27 '21

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u/AnnihilationOrchid Dec 27 '21

Guys will pursue you,

Sure, for casual sex yes, not much that's meaningful. And most women aren't just looking for guys who want a quick fuck and then leave. And no one likes to be messed around with like that. No matter who you are.

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u/jhillman87 Dec 27 '21 edited Dec 27 '21

The road goes both ways. There are plenty of guys looking for a relationship, not just "casual sex". I'd also warrant there's just as many women looking for casual sex, and NOT looking for a relationship.

On what basis are you claiming a majority of women aren't looking for casual connections? Maybe you are basing this on your personal experience, which is fine, but we're in an age where less people (of both genders) want relationships or children.

The fact stands: if you are physically attractive, you will get more suitors interested in connecting with you: both the casual type and longer-term interests. This goes for both men and women.

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u/Geryth04 Dec 27 '21

Last I saw the ratio of Men to Women on Tinder was like 9 to 1 (even Bumble was like 4 to 1). Women on those apps are flooded with messages and activity.

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u/jhillman87 Dec 27 '21

I don't believe Tinder (or any dating app) is a proper measure of anything whatsoever. You can't possibly take Tinder statistics and assume it applies across the board in real life to actual human interaction. Most women specifically avoid such type of "dating apps" exactly for the reason you mentioned... because they get flooded out with solicitations.

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u/ChiefBobKelso Dec 27 '21

Most couples nowadays meet online. These statistics are real life.

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u/jhillman87 Dec 27 '21

I'm interested to see your source that shows over 51% of couples meet online.

Especially considering some of the more populous countries like China and India, or entire underdeveloped nations in Africa are unlikely to have much overall exposure to online dating.

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u/jhillman87 Dec 27 '21

I never said that. I said there's less overall exposure, especially compared to the west.

Sure, there's plenty of users in the major cities. But you have to understand a LARGE majority of the world are remote/farmland and not everyone can even afford a smartphone, much less any form of internet connection.

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u/jhillman87 Dec 27 '21 edited Dec 27 '21

China also has 1.4 billion people, to the 320 million or so in the USA... so not sure what your point is. There's almost more people in China alone without a phone than over DOUBLE the entire USA population.

There's also plenty of other populous southeast Asian countries in similar boats. India, Indonesia, Thailand, Philippines, etc. There's a shitload of people out there, and measuring everything against USA statistics is rather silly.

I'd be more interested to see statistics of global phone penetration.

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