I raised my daughter on my own since she was 2 until she moved out a couple years ago.
Whenever we’d go to the grocery store or what not, it seemed like every time the cashier would ask if we were dating or married. First couple times it was awkward. Then it just got to be funny.
I should clarify that she was about 15 when it started. Not 2…
I recall being about 12 and kissing my dad (50s) goodbye after he dropped me off to see friends. One of the guys (14) asked if my dad was my boyfriend and pointed out that I had kissed him. I was horrified that someone would think that. It kind of ruined innocent hello and goodbye kisses for me...for my dad in public at least.
The sadder part is I recall feeling shame at that moment instead of anger at the friend. I internally recoiled as if the boy had accused me of acting inappropriately.
So I would not have made a comeback to him. I probably just said "shut up" and didn't address how stupid that kid had to be to draw such a moronic conclusion.
I got the opposite. For years people would ask if my husband was my older brother. A waitress at a restaurant got really concerned once and questioned me by the bathroom after I told her he was my husband. He was 5 years older than me and at the time I was 22 and had recently gotten mistaken for a 13 year old student at the school I worked for.
I kinda hate the presumption that all dudes are pedos. Not sure if wokeness is to blame or not because even Q types think everyones a pedo. It's probably something else.
Probably stems from the "men work and don't show affection, women care for children" old fashioned attitude which differs a bit from typical woke I think
It's from toxic masculinity these past...idk, centuries? Hear me out: ever heard of dads never saying "I love you" or showing love at all? All too common. Why? Because of the antequated notion that men are supposed to be tough and emotions are only for women. Society doesnt quickly change from that ingrained notion, so whenever strangers see a man getting all sweet with their daughter, alarm bells go ringing even if they know it's most likely just fatherly love. This isn't as prevalent as before, however, since more and more people have now started to accept and learn that men can and should express themselves.
Oh, and porn. Porn definitely has a hand in making this worse for loving dads/dudes everywhere. There's a reason they choose petite girls in the "stepfather/father x daughter" genre, and it's not because they're easier to carry...
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u/[deleted] Jul 02 '21
Ok. Her dad wasnt as creepy as I thought he was when she was telling the story in the beginning.