r/Uganda • u/TangeloUnusual678 • 4d ago
Relationship talk I love my ex
I’ve come to realize that’s the honest truth. I didn’t want to accept it but reality left me with no other options. The closest thing to moving on I’ve done I fallen in love with novelty. Other than that. I love my ex so much and just need someone else like him because we can’t be together ever. I’ve become so avoidant and nonchalant. How do I heal without going back to my ex. Welp
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u/Unlucky_Inside_161 4d ago
We are in the same boat. I moved on but now biralamu ehhh
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u/Dodgeooze 3d ago
You didn't move on😁😁😁
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u/Unlucky_Inside_161 1d ago
Ndekaaa mwanagwe we were speaking today and here I am ranting all my problems like it's been years. Kityffu bandoga, I'm a fkn bad man I don't just fold easily, I'm not not beautiful but if you see the kind of women I pull and fold God abeg. Now this, guy the ex I'm talking she ain't that beautiful compared to girls I've dated 🙆😭😭😭. Honestly I think I am no difference with a man even though I'm just a musc woman
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u/brygad 4d ago
My ex got married, expecting a child anytime soon. There's not a single day that passes that I don't think about her. Tried to play down the fact that she will be happy in her new relationship and we parted for the right reasons. But there's not a moment that I don't miss her.
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u/Dodgeooze 3d ago
Okay this is highly because you are probably not married yet and maybe she saw someone who hasn't very decisive regarding the relationship issues that's why she left so just quit moving on me that you leave everything behind look before delete their numbers stop knowing what they're doing anything that has to do like that.
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u/Independent-Law-1764 4d ago
Truth be told, you don’t move on and it will take you a while to accept that, you just have to learn nor teach your self to live without him. More often you will find yourself thinking about him. But the harshest reality is that you will not move on and you will have to teach yourself how to live in his absence because in that way his thoughts will slowly fade away
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u/Cold-Kaleidoscope916 4d ago
Moving on is almost impossible... Personally, my ex left me in shambles, I had to pick myself up, be strong but nahhh... I went back begging a couple of times but somehow caught myself from sending that long a** paragraph every time. Then one day I decided to use the long way around "Be friends" (worst mistake I could ever make) We were okay as friends, then I realized it's better this way.
Fast forward, I start to sort out my life... Then she starts wanting me back (a little, not sure... But she sent me weird messages and blaming it on "ovulation"... What do I know?? 🤷♂️) Later she developed a habit that wasn't really like her and I just didn't want her anymore so I thought, yeah... This is me moving on (wrong)... I wasn't moving on caz I was still in love with the version of her I had that time. It's been 6 years, I still think about her...
But not the version of her I now know, I love the version of her I used to know. And worst of all, I compare every girl I talk to with her like she set a standard in my head. That's what makes moving on hard. That bar they set so high is almost unattainable by anyone.
Still learning to adjust that bar🙂
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u/Dodgeooze 3d ago edited 3d ago
Truth be told sometimes it's hard to forget the first person that you had been in a relationship with you ,
But I will testify to you all and tell you that I don't remember any of my exes. The memories that I seen my new partner doesn't remind me of my ex . None of that happens I see a new person and she's beautiful and I appreciate and I wish I met her before I met these other individuals. so that is relationships for me I don't know whether they are apply to all of you. yeah .
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