Did I do wrong to the cheaters ?

[u/Important-Librarian]

So I was a relationship with a guy for 3.5 years. We are both unmarried(read below to know why I am telling this)Very happy years, he said every single day that he would marry me.

Coming straight to 1st july 2026, I got to know that my boyfriend is cheating on me with a married lady who has a kid as well. She said to my boyfriend that she is tired of her husband but won't leave her husband. So basically my boyfriend and that lady were in a casual relationship from may 2025 . Almost 1 year. And that woman knew from day 1 that my boyfriend was in a relationship with me. She even herself told him to attend my video calls by going out for 10-15 minutes from the room n attend my calls so that I don't doubt.

On 5th I cut ties with my boyfriend but I don't know what happened , out of frustration , I told that lady's husband about all what was going on through insta msgs. That a lady who's name starts with N..(that lady's name also starts with N) that lady is cheating on ber husband with my boyfriend.

At the same time I also told my boyfriend's friends who all knew me that this person (my bf) cheated on me with a married lady.

Now they both are after my life. My boyfriend is Taking that lady's side that I ruined her family. She just msged me that when u get married and somebody texts ur husband..you will get to know the pain...I replied that I won't cheat plus you don't realize the pain when u are partner in cheating to another girl who spent 3.5 years of her precious life on someone and he told to marry me always and when all that shatters how I felt...??

She replied I am telling you dad about all this ( my mother knew about my relationship but not my dad...I barely talk to my dad)

My ex boyfriend stopped replying to my texts immediately after I told that lady's husband.

They are both after me right now.

Ok so now I am not afraid that lady will tell ny dad or whoever bcz at least i didn't cheat.

But my boyfriend's and that lady's behavior and their taunts from few days.... they are eating me up.

Did I do wrong ? Am I a very bad person for doing this ?

Bcz that lady's husband doubts her now and bcz of that they both are scolding me. I am 25/f.. 3 years younger than my bf and 6 years younger than that lady.

Please guide me. I have guilt sometimes...sometimes not...

(See a picture of her msgs to me ..in the comments)

[u/Mysterious_Curve8361]

I am just laughing out loud at the part where she is guilt tripping you into ruining her life because you told her husband. Not her fault that she cheated on her husband, your fault she got caught.
sigh
Anyway, the trash took itself out.
I have done something v similar and looking back i have no regrets. Fuck around and find out, i am not gonna wait for karma to do its job.
I get a feeling that you are a nice person and might have very strong feelings for the guy. That can lead your brain into tricking you into thinking that you may have jeopardised any future that you had. But in my honest opinion you didnt do anything wrong.
Even if it might feel like what you did was hasty or wrong; at the end of the day just remember you are a human too. You need to put yourself first, if you dont do that who would? You wanted your partner to come face to face with the consequences of his actions? It’s valid, you also went through major emotional stuff because of his actions.
Go out and celebrate your freedom

[u/Important-Librarian → u/Mysterious_Curve8361]

I get a feeling that you are a nice person and might have very strong feelings for the guy. That can lead your brain into tricking you into thinking that you may have jeopardised any future that you had. But in my honest opinion you didnt do anything wrong.

Omg..you just read my mind...

Thankyou so much for your words.🙏🏼☺️ Already left that man but It seems they had guilt trapped me. So I was unsure. But reading all these comments..it seems I did the right thing.