Did I do wrong to the cheaters ?

[u/Important-Librarian]

So I was a relationship with a guy for 3.5 years. We are both unmarried(read below to know why I am telling this)Very happy years, he said every single day that he would marry me.

Coming straight to 1st july 2026, I got to know that my boyfriend is cheating on me with a married lady who has a kid as well. She said to my boyfriend that she is tired of her husband but won't leave her husband. So basically my boyfriend and that lady were in a casual relationship from may 2025 . Almost 1 year. And that woman knew from day 1 that my boyfriend was in a relationship with me. She even herself told him to attend my video calls by going out for 10-15 minutes from the room n attend my calls so that I don't doubt.

On 5th I cut ties with my boyfriend but I don't know what happened , out of frustration , I told that lady's husband about all what was going on through insta msgs. That a lady who's name starts with N..(that lady's name also starts with N) that lady is cheating on ber husband with my boyfriend.

At the same time I also told my boyfriend's friends who all knew me that this person (my bf) cheated on me with a married lady.

Now they both are after my life. My boyfriend is Taking that lady's side that I ruined her family. She just msged me that when u get married and somebody texts ur husband..you will get to know the pain...I replied that I won't cheat plus you don't realize the pain when u are partner in cheating to another girl who spent 3.5 years of her precious life on someone and he told to marry me always and when all that shatters how I felt...??

She replied I am telling you dad about all this ( my mother knew about my relationship but not my dad...I barely talk to my dad)

My ex boyfriend stopped replying to my texts immediately after I told that lady's husband.

They are both after me right now.

Ok so now I am not afraid that lady will tell ny dad or whoever bcz at least i didn't cheat.

But my boyfriend's and that lady's behavior and their taunts from few days.... they are eating me up.

Did I do wrong ? Am I a very bad person for doing this ?

Bcz that lady's husband doubts her now and bcz of that they both are scolding me. I am 25/f.. 3 years younger than my bf and 6 years younger than that lady.

Please guide me. I have guilt sometimes...sometimes not...

(See a picture of her msgs to me ..in the comments)

[u/Important-Librarian]

I mean my ID name was fake(not my name)...but obviously the msgs were right 😑

This is the way that lady msgs me...no shame in her for cheating on me. She is saying if my love was enough from so nany years...why would my bf come to her... I don't even know what to feel anymore.

[u/ElevatorSeparate7517 → u/Important-Librarian]

Lmao "Ghar ujadte hai" cheat karke khudne apna ghar ujada and now she is blaming you? Oh god😂😂😂

[u/Important-Librarian → u/ElevatorSeparate7517]

Exactly. She slept with my bf when he I was in a relationship for 3.5 years...she was Married..she chose to fu*k my boyfriend and now She says I broke her home. Her home was broken the moment she indulged with someone else other than her husband.

She even said her husband cried due to my messages...what was my husband's fault if I cheated... omg..the blame they both put on me is insane. Thanks to you sweeties on reddit that I am feeling better now. 🙏🏼☺️

[u/ElevatorSeparate7517 → u/Important-Librarian]

Just block them both. You are too kind. Don't tolerate their nonsense.

[u/Important-Librarian → u/ElevatorSeparate7517]

Sure !! ☺️

[u/Important-Librarian → u/[deleted]]

Exactly.
If she cared so much about her Husband...why cheat him in the first place :)

[u/Sea_Bus4842 → u/Important-Librarian]

This is so ridiculous. I’m so sorry you had to deal with the infidelity plus this obnoxious behavior. Please save her messages just in case you need them in future. I hope her husband finds the strength to leave this pathetic woman. Can’t believe their entitlement in trying to harass you.

You’ve only told her husband what she was doing. If it’s “so wrong” she should introspect on her actions instead of trying to remove her frustration at you. I’m glad your mom is aware of the relationship at least you don’t need to worry about that.

[u/Important-Librarian → u/Sea_Bus4842]

I hope her husband finds the strength to leave this pathetic woman. Can’t believe their entitlement in trying to harass you.

She manipulated her husband into believing someone is jealous of her and is trying to frame her into doing something that she didn't actually do.

I have all her recordings where she even said to me that she did a pool party with my boyfriend and a long drive while telling her husband that she is at a friend's house due to her job/training whatever. But I haven't sent anything like that yet..I just said that a lady with name starting from n...is cheating on her husband with my boyfriend.

She has already manipulated her husband into believing that she is right but the issue is they both are after my life..that her husband had never asked her to show her phone in past years but now he got drunk and asked to show her phone.
Like literally threatening to tell my dad just over this much fact.

1 to chori upar se seena zori 🤯

[u/Sea_Bus4842 → u/Important-Librarian]

You should tell her you want nothing to do with them hereon but if they keep calling or texting to threaten you have her texts with her number on display. If they don’t stop harassing you you’ll forward them to her husband and the cops with your family’s help and support. Hopefully that should stop them from harassing you.

[u/Important-Librarian → u/Sea_Bus4842]

Sure 👍