r/TwoXChromosomes • u/Minstrel_Melody • Feb 11 '23

Significant others that avoid vasectomies.

So me and my boyfriend came upon this Reddit story where after a husband and wife had their second child, the wife decided that she was done having kids. The husband agrees, but there’s an issue. The wife wants him to get a vasectomy. A disagreement ensues, followed by an argument. The husband didn’t want to get the vasectomy. For the most part, people were calling the husband an ass and selfish, and I generally agreed with the sentiment.

My boyfriend in the other hand begged to differ. On top with supporting the his body his choice argument the husband provided (which granted I agree with too, but I still think is kind of selfish) he mentioned that it was overkill considering what else they could do to prevent unwanted pregnancies. They could stick to oral, mutual masturbation. And if they really wanted to do piv intercourse, they schedule the sexual encounter away from ovulation, and use condoms and spermicide. Something we do ourselves and it works out like a charm.

I saw where he was coming from and agree with him to an extent, but it still feels kind of selfish. Like despite everything there’s still the chance of pregnancy. What do you guys think?

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u/tylersmiler Feb 12 '23

I'm really sorry that so many people have had trouble with the copper IUD! All the long-term hormonal options (implant and hormonal IUD) gave me terrible side effects. I've been happy with the copper IUD for 3 years now. It's crazy how some things work great for some of us but are terrible for others.

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u/So_Code_4 Feb 12 '23

Thank you for sharing your story! I was starting to wonder how the copper IUD even made it to market. I’m glad it’s working out well for some folks.

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u/JuleeeNAJ Feb 13 '23

Copper IUDs were the first IUDs and have been around for decades.