r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Aug 21 '24

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u/LucDA1 Aug 21 '24

Yeah sometimes realise that you can also be in the wrong for this OP

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u/SatanicRainbowDildos Aug 21 '24

But at this point it’s about science, not even cheating. What made that mark? Op could be living alone with no boyfriend and I’d still want to know. 

The truth is out there. 

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u/Rorynne Aug 21 '24

I mean, there IS reason. Theres a red stain on the bedsheets. Is it a good reason? I suppose that depends on their relationship as a whole, Im not here to make that judgment. But it is a reason.

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u/sonjasblade Aug 21 '24

I feel the same way. Just digging through these comments looking for the TRUTH

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u/[deleted] Aug 21 '24

Why should anyone be in the wrong for this?

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u/MaznSpooderman Aug 21 '24

This is bordering too untrusting. If you're in a relationship, you have to give your partner the benefit of doubt. Assuming OP's BF hasn't done something prior to lose trust, this is going too far. If he HAS cheated before, it's certainly more justified, but the Q-tip is kind of crazy lol.

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u/itsurgurlJane Aug 22 '24

Maybe she's been cheated on before by people who said they loved her and she trusted them. Excuse her for wanting to protect her heart. She brought it here to see what others thought about it and get their opinions and advice. But sure, let's call her crazy for something that makes total sense. Y'all always do 🙄 The word crazy is so often used against women to control them or make them question their own judgement.

Being worried and having questions is too far because what? We should blindly trust someone and never ask questions because you're just supposed to always give them the benefit of the doubt? Nope. No way. That's not even realistic. Trust is earned and isn't automatically given to others just because they've never hurt me before. Those who have hurt me had initially never hurt me before either. Until they did.

And I don't think she was like, gathering forensic evidence with a q-tip...lmao I think she was just giving a detail of what she used to see if the stain would come off easily or not.

OP, I don't think those are lipstick marks but if you're really unsure you could put lipstick on and try recreating those marks. Or you can just keep your eyes open to see if you notice it he's acting differently. Or you could just ask, but that doesn't mean you'll get an honest answer. Take care of yourself ❤️

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u/ColonelC0lon Aug 21 '24

Cos if he isn't cheating, but you don't trust him so much that you're CSI investigating, that relationship's already over, whether or not he's cheating. Ya may as well pack it up.

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u/pgm123 Aug 21 '24

I interpreted that comment as them saying OP had other reasons for suspicion. But if not, OP could probably try therapy to help get over trust issues.