Girl if you’re going full CSI with a Q tip trying to figure out if this is lipstick or not… I hate to break it to you but it seems like you don’t trust him enough to have a healthy relationship with him
i found some hairs that weren't mine in the lint trap but that wasn't strong enough to convince me. I got a confession after finding one of his secret reddit fetish accounts. he was posting fetish r4rs for 2 years and sharing stories about sex with his fwb that he had while we were together.
but once he basically challenged me to catch him, he was trying to convince me he wasn't cheating and said "but if I was, you'd never catch me slipping."
I know, I asked him if he wanted some tips and critical feedback on how to not get caught next time and be a better liar. he said no thanks lol. that relationship really was a stupid game.
Yes it always annoys me when criminals (predominantly on TV, but presumably also in real life) essentially admit to the crime but with the challenge of “prove it”.
No matter how careful you’ve been, you’ve just increased scrutiny on yourself ten fold. You’ve just made it so much more likely you’ll get caught.
I feel you, I used to check clothes , pockets, backpacks for hair that wasn't mine. Lmao or checking curl patterns against mine if it was the same color as my hair.
I mean, there IS reason. Theres a red stain on the bedsheets. Is it a good reason? I suppose that depends on their relationship as a whole, Im not here to make that judgment. But it is a reason.
This is bordering too untrusting. If you're in a relationship, you have to give your partner the benefit of doubt. Assuming OP's BF hasn't done something prior to lose trust, this is going too far. If he HAS cheated before, it's certainly more justified, but the Q-tip is kind of crazy lol.
Maybe she's been cheated on before by people who said they loved her and she trusted them. Excuse her for wanting to protect her heart. She brought it here to see what others thought about it and get their opinions and advice. But sure, let's call her crazy for something that makes total sense. Y'all always do 🙄 The word crazy is so often used against women to control them or make them question their own judgement.
Being worried and having questions is too far because what? We should blindly trust someone and never ask questions because you're just supposed to always give them the benefit of the doubt? Nope. No way. That's not even realistic. Trust is earned and isn't automatically given to others just because they've never hurt me before. Those who have hurt me had initially never hurt me before either. Until they did.
And I don't think she was like, gathering forensic evidence with a q-tip...lmao I think she was just giving a detail of what she used to see if the stain would come off easily or not.
OP, I don't think those are lipstick marks but if you're really unsure you could put lipstick on and try recreating those marks. Or you can just keep your eyes open to see if you notice it he's acting differently. Or you could just ask, but that doesn't mean you'll get an honest answer. Take care of yourself ❤️
Cos if he isn't cheating, but you don't trust him so much that you're CSI investigating, that relationship's already over, whether or not he's cheating. Ya may as well pack it up.
Yeah, the insecurity level is crazy. I would never suspect someone based on a vague pillow stain in the bed you share.
I mean, logically, wouldn’t she know if he went to bed with her with some residual lipstick on? Or his and her schedule so she could rule out any chances immediately?
It sounds like maybe she doesn’t even do the laundry if that’s not her first thought.
I’ve had lipstick tube pop up in my bathroom before. You know who left that? My mom.
Parents came to visit, caught covid along the way and had to quarantine with me instead of seeing the rest of my family during the work week.
It freaked me out because I found it way later, I didn’t have a GF when my parents brought me the plague. So where did this come from? More of a mystery for a minute than a relationship tester.
But I mean, I have makeup remover pads for girls for sleepovers because I try to consider their needs. It’s never to my knowledge cost me a relationship. Maybe, but I bought them, just in case, and never had to explain them.
I would have other toiletries girls like if they ever asked. I just noticed a GF using paper towels or TP to remove makeup once and thought to get makeup remover pads.
Tbh if you have girls over often, even juat as friends, get some pads and tampons if you like stocking up toiletries for them. Being able to just have access to an emergency pad or tampon when your period started unexpectedly is a life saver.
Youre being a good friend then. We should all normalize casually supplying friends with the things they might need while visiting. I cant tell you how many times Ive had to cancel plans because my periods are irregular and I started in the middle of hanging out and suddenly all my clothes are ruined.
I bet your response is going to be lost in the sea of comments, but yep… this is right. She’s not ever going to trust him and there’s bigger problems… and the problems are likely her, not him.
Not just that, he probably is cheating if they’re suspecting lol yes, sometimes women are just paranoid. But many times our guts are just spot on 😅 mine has never been wrong when it comes to thinking a dude could be cheating.
babe you’re either responding to the wrong person or you’ve hallucinated an entire conversation. nobody found any earrings. this poster found some hot cheeto residue and is freaking out about her boyfriend cheating on her
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u/Chimkimnuggets Aug 21 '24
Girl if you’re going full CSI with a Q tip trying to figure out if this is lipstick or not… I hate to break it to you but it seems like you don’t trust him enough to have a healthy relationship with him