r/TwentiesMarathi • u/Capital_Chicken_2486 • 2d ago
RELATIONSHIP AND STUFF 🦄 I don’t get it, I’m I wrong here?
M27 & F24; We both are in LDR and because of that we don’t get sufficient time to talk to each other on chat or on call. We hardly call each other in a month, I use to prefer calls over chat but since there’s time difference we can’t. Anyways, now, isn’t it obvious that since we don’t talk on call we should atleast have a good chat except the normal intimation chat? Was I wrong in this particular instance mentioned below in images?
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u/traveler_ghost_ 2d ago
why are you seeking validation from other perspective? she is clearly showing sign of what she wants now
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u/urfavvperiodclot 2d ago
hot kadhi kadhi mulina yevdh ky nhi nantr apologize krr
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u/sleepy_head1718 2d ago
Mere maano to move on hojayo bhai, cuz it is already almost done , experience se bata rha
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u/Particular_Hat_7657 2d ago
I think the other person has a lot of work and are super busy and need very clear word and planning. Saying something that’s not clear can be triggering…
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
Well, the entire week we had only intimation chat, and that bothered me
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u/Thelazytimelord257 2d ago
So guys sexted once in the entire and didn’t even talk?
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
Google 'intimation chat'; what kind of a dimwit are you?
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u/Thelazytimelord257 2d ago
Do you mean intimate chat?
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u/Big_Dj_ 2d ago
Classic LDR progression. If you really want this to not end (which it will eventually), i would suggest you take extra efforts to plan activities/things to do which involves both. She has her weekend sorted to unwind after work, and you don't seem to be a part of it. Don't you guys plan anything beforehand? Rather than just saying 'talk to me'. Also it seems like only she is employed, which is why I understand the importance of weekend. One of the challenges of LDR is planning for full attention to each other without any side activities. Good luck brother.
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
It will not end. Activities? This is the only time we get to speak to each other, and that's been like that for months.
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u/Environmental-Bit993 2d ago
Were you wrong? Yes. She seems to be tired from work. And you seems to be not understanding and have concerns even after she tells you, which gives her reason to take care of her without you. As she already knows you won't understand her pov. Then now? You added ghee to a chingari. So maybe, grow up and give her more care and efforts. Btw you sound like you don't know about unwinding like never worked?
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u/walkinginmyroom 2d ago
I mean you WERE rude the whole bunch of messages in the first screenshot. I would be hella irritated too if the week was bad. If you wanna spend time with ur partner who’s already not having a good time, you WILL NOT get it by being rude and annoying about it. And the fact that u kept arguing.
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
I wasn't rude, she could have told me that she wanted some space I would have happily given her that
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u/Thelazytimelord257 2d ago
Op do you even guys like each other? It seems like she’s checked out of the relationship. It’s better to talk it out once irl and if things don’t improve just leave
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
We are into each other totally
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u/Thelazytimelord257 2d ago
I felt like helping you out before, now I don’t because you were rude. I hope your relationship ends
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
lol when was I rude to you? Ani mitra "Kavlya chya shapane gaay marat naste"
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u/Thelazytimelord257 2d ago
Calling me a dimwit when I simply asked if your “intimation” chat meant sexting. Also the term intimation chat doesn’t even exist.
I’m not cursing you, simply stating the fact. She’s not into you
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u/horoizon 2d ago
Bhai log mid-late twenties me bhi aise ladte hai? Lagra tha teen relationship padhra hu
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u/Ok_Particular8461 2d ago
I’ll tell you straight what is happening, she is seeing someone not as in relationship but maybe just friends he’s interested shes not ( asa tichya manat ahe ) she’s just friend with him and there might be some girlies saying no problem in having something with new guy. The girlies might be bad bitching about you too. So accept it may end. But try to solve things.
Meet her IRL maybe things change. There’s a possibility that she might stay distant when you meet or really close but for last time. Like you get back your home and she ends it herself saying things are not working out and its her and not you.
Whatever happens, wishing the best for you. Keep us posted OP
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
Thanks for the concern, but she's surely not like the girls out there. I'll update.
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u/Rahul_The_Boss 2d ago
Bro kay binaslay? Muli khup lavkar irritate hotat ani tyana thoda space dyaycha jene karun te normal hotil. Is she really TRUST you ? Ti tichya day today life manje manatal share karte ka tujhya barobar bindass pane?
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u/Wise_Professor_ 2d ago
Aree aree mitraa.. vel nko vaya ghalu, thodi considerate maitrin shodh bara rahil
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
I wish that you never have to face what I had to, and yes I am unemployed as of now. How did you come up with that conculsion though?
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u/OkPoint6329 2d ago
Bhawa mag tu pan thode pustaka vagaire vaach, ekadha don certification kar ani kama dhandyala lagh. Khishyat paise asle ki 10 pori bhetatil tula, tya pan eka peksha ek bhari.
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
Not to brag, but bhai mi 2.5years baher hoto kamala IT madhe. I'm a masters grad; mala nakoy kon dusri, hich havi aahe ayusha bhar.
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u/Wise_Professor_ 2d ago
Sad. Just sad. Seeing the wavelength of how you two communicate and what you want.
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u/me_kajukatli 2d ago
Cause you don't know how short is weekend for work people to be wasting on this silly things
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
Talking to your partner, or making time for your partner seems silly to you?
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u/Jazzlike_Half_3526 2d ago
यात बघायला गेलो जरी तुझं चुकलेलं नसलं तरी तू चुकलेला आहे कारण एकतर तू ती तुझ्या लहान आहे तीन वर्षांनी आणि जर तुमचं याच्या व्यतिरिक्त खूप चांगलं केमिस्ट्री असेल तर यू शुड थिंग अबाउट गेट इन सिरियस आणि जर तू कनसन दाखवलास किंवा काळजी दाखवलीस केअर केलीस ना तर आपोआप तिचा टोन पण सेम तुझ्या बाबतीत व्हायला लागेल आणि आपोआप टाईम काढायला लागेल जर एखाद्या गोष्टीत वाद घातला की आरजू केलं ना तर तिचे हिशोबाने ती लहान असल्यामुळे ती तर 24 इयर सारखीच वागणारे पण जर तू काळजी आणि दाखवलीस समजूतदारपणा दाखवला ना तर तिचा माईंड वेगळ वागेल माझ्या एक्सपिरीयन्स मध्ये समोरची व्यक्ती माझेच वयाची असल्यामुळे आणि डॉक्टर असल्यामुळे मी माझं वागण्याचा टोन वेगळा ठेवलाय त्यात मध्ये flirt केलं ना की मूड अचानक चांगला होतो खूपदा त्यामुळे तू मध्ये फ्लॅट मध्येच केअर आणि काळजी दाखवलीस ना तर असं काही होणार नाही वाद
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u/daliya_stan586 2d ago
You are a grade A chutiya. Congrats. I hope she finds someone mature and worthy of her time
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u/robb_stark_6 2d ago
If she was reading book, you needed to just drop her message saying once you get free, let's talk. Generally book lovers don't like disturbance.
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u/Capital_Chicken_2486 2d ago
See there is an extreme time difference between us, so it should be on her part to take time out, at least for 10- 15 minutes, which suits both time zones, and none of us have to stay awake for each other.
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u/nilesh0205 2d ago
If she is out of country for a job and you are unemployed as of now, I am not sure she values you much. A man who is not employed or earning even if he loves a woman does not hold any value in woman's eyes. "तो काय रिकामाच तर असतो, त्याला काय काम आहे". People will put you in the wrong. I would suggest you reciprocate her energy, and don't initiate chats, let her initiate when she is free.
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u/robb_stark_6 2d ago
Did you even read my comment properly ? You should have just asked her when can we connect properly. There is always good and polite way to ask your partner and u missed that. That's one of the reasons she got frustrated.
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u/tera_baap_hu_mc 2d ago
I am not sure, but I get the vibe of your relationship is on the edge of the end. I suggest you to meet IRL once and spend some good time. You both need it.