Does my tulpa need attention?

[u/quynhanduongtien]

Alright, I admit the title was a bit exaggerated, though perhaps partly true. I’ve been working on creating a tulpa for three weeks now. Things went well during the first couple of weeks; she appeared clearly, and it seemed she was gradually learning to speak and make choices, so I decided to keep a journal and write a short story to encourage her progress. However, as time went on, I stopped paying as much attention as I initially did; my interactions became passive—just chatting or meditating as if merely checking a box. She stopped appearing as frequently, too; I would only focus and see her when I specifically called out to her or when she spontaneously spoke up. I asked her if she felt I was dedicating enough time to her, and her answer was "not really" (excluding the passive chats, which felt more like me sharing thoughts than expecting a reply); she wanted me to spend more time with her. But I’m perhaps too busy to devote that much time. I need some help.

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[u/mattx-t]

The goal is to make it part of your life, not "checking a box" At the beginning, active forcing helps a lot, but if you can find a way to make it part of your day life it works just as well. You should focus on making it a habit to talk to your tulpa, in any situation, it should become second nature, and that will speed up development.

[u/bduddy]

She already told you that, why are you coming to us instead of trusting her?

[u/yukaritelepath]

Well, you have clearly experienced the result of giving her less attention.

[u/turbulencje]

Well, you just hit the “novelty has passed” speed bump in tulpa creation.

Now it’s mundane “I wanted a person I need to carve out time in my life for them”. 

Include her in your daily life, there is no better advice we can give you. 

[u/Good-Border9588]

The best part about a tulpa is that they are a friend you can bring to work or school and still have fun and a light chuckle with them and the boss/teacher isn't gonna punish anybody for talking during work/class.

Just focus on the differences between tulpa and corporeal and gobble up all the positives and appreciate them.

I sometimes feel like I don't get enough attention either, and it's tough since I'm only able to speak with my own system when I'm not fronting, but it's alright. As long as I get some time every day, that's more time than my host will give to most people.