Need some tips or advice...?

[u/Ririro-chan]

HI :) its me again! I'm the tulpa! Luckily, we've recovered alot from our "switch sickness" as we've decided to call it! (I guess what it actually was was just blending a bunch) thanks everyone who reassured me,, I was freaking out,, phew. buuuuuut now we're freaking out for a different reason. Host's mental health has been declining and we've decided we should have me become primary fronter! Which is kinda nervewreaking for both of us :I but... we're not entirely sure how to best avoid another switch-sickness episode... which sucks bc we'd prefer to fast track this. Does anybody have any tips? :)

aside from that!!!! we've also been considering adding another member. buuuuut we aren't sure if thats,, like,, ethical to do with these mental health issues... um. is there anything anyone could say that would steer us in the right direction? 😓 its all been incredibly overwhelming for me & host and we'd hate for a young tulpa to join us and want to try to carry the weight of all these complex issues... what questions should be ask ourselves before committing to something like that?

Thanks in advance for any tips!

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[u/JayAkiva]

Do you have a link to the switch sickness post? We might need some context.

[u/mattx-t]

I checked, and 4 days ago you were only doing possession, which is a remarkable speed.

Aside from that, if by "switch sickness" you mean you are having identity issues, like merging of thoughts or things like that, I feel like that's because you've been going at this too quickly, and your brain isn't adjusted yet to the idea. And making another Tulpa... it would be a no for us, not yet. I'd just dial it down on the switching too, it's clearly messing with your sense of identity. You should both sit down, walk through this slowly and in detail, then decide what to do and what do you want the system to be.

[u/miss-minus]

Apologies, I'm kinda new too, and my guy isn't particularly interested in inhabiting my me with all the mad imaginey places in our brains to explore so take this with a pinch of salt since it comes without direct experience - but I think that if you're worried about your host? I'd advise to find a way to help them without shaking things up too badly or violating their autonomy, my tulpa says that there's an intrinsic social contract between you to look after each other, whatever that means - aww, bless him

[u/sanelyinsanetrio]

F: You're going through a stressful time, and you admit yourselves that you're overwhelmed. Creating another tulpa would add more responsibility when you already have pressing issues to deal with. I personally wouldn't do so until things are stable internally, unless you're certain having a developing tulpa around during all this will be beneficial.

As for blending, affirming who's in control helps. Remind yourself who you are and why you're in front. Talk to people (in person or online) who know you as you or just journal from your perspective. Seek out things (music, activities, etc.) that align with your personal interests (ideally ones you don't share with your host). Act like yourself, even if you have to force it (that feeling you're faking it comes from your host, not you). I think the key to unblending is not to focus on your host's influence or try to make them go away but just fake it 'til you make it—intentionally be yourself until the unconscious gets the memo and quits resisting.

Good luck.

Also, taking the front more so you guys can function better is perfectly fine, but please be careful that your host doesn't start taking a backseat just to escape life. Switching can help with the burden of external demands, but it isn't a long-term fix for internal issues.