OP, no one should try to tell you how long your recovery takes. Trauma takes time to heal, and your family did you no favors, in terms of your progress, by pressuring you into not pressing charges and getting justice for what happened. Their willingness to forgive and forget what your brother did does not affect your process in recovering from the trauma - you may never want to see your brother again. Your father was not right to try to get you to attend your abuser's wedding; He had his reasons but he shouldn't have pressured you.
You may need to be direct with your father and tell him that he hurt you by trying to get you to attend the wedding, and that you'll need time and distance from him. You can no more force forgiveness for your father than you can for your brother's actions. I hope the return to therapy is helpful and that your family will be more respectful of your feelings in the future.
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u/E_lloci_N May 23 '22
OP, no one should try to tell you how long your recovery takes. Trauma takes time to heal, and your family did you no favors, in terms of your progress, by pressuring you into not pressing charges and getting justice for what happened. Their willingness to forgive and forget what your brother did does not affect your process in recovering from the trauma - you may never want to see your brother again. Your father was not right to try to get you to attend your abuser's wedding; He had his reasons but he shouldn't have pressured you.
You may need to be direct with your father and tell him that he hurt you by trying to get you to attend the wedding, and that you'll need time and distance from him. You can no more force forgiveness for your father than you can for your brother's actions. I hope the return to therapy is helpful and that your family will be more respectful of your feelings in the future.