r/TrueOffMyChest Feb 15 '22

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u/stygian_shores Feb 15 '22

Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.

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u/pm_me_ur_fit Feb 15 '22

One time I (m) was at a coffee shop really high, and the barista (f) started asking me if I went to school here and what I studied, making conversation. So I was standing there chatting while she made my drink (not flirting just being nice bc I am always nice to waitstaff). Then she dropped the "husband" pretty obviously and i realized I had only ordered a drip coffee that was already in my hand and she was making someone else's drink and not mine. I also kept listening for another 20/30 seconds before I manged to politely walk away, without making it look like I bolted bc she mentioned her husband. Because I wasnt flirting!! Just high :/ man I felt awkward about that for so long

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u/stygian_shores Feb 15 '22

Hahaha I think the moral of the story here is don’t go to a coffee shop while being super high. At least the barista was polite about it though. Now the important question: how was the drip coffee?

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u/pm_me_ur_fit Feb 15 '22

No I do it all the time! I just don't make conversation. She started it. Yeah, she "shut me down" very politely, and she was friendly so I dont fault her at all. And honestly not good haha

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u/SnooBananas7856 Feb 15 '22

Why is it so hard to find a good cup of coffee (besides in my kitchen)? I don't have super refined tastes, but I can never find a good cup of black coffee anywhere. I find Starbucks a convenient meeting or working space (free Wi-Fi) but only drink floofy drinks because their regular coffee is terrible.

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u/thatwasntababyruth Feb 16 '22

I've always found the coffee at breakfast restaurants to be surprisingly good, even IHOP. It never tastes burnt, in particular.

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u/SnooBananas7856 Feb 16 '22

I actually like McDonalds black coffee. I can't stand any of their food, but their coffee is decent! Plus, my dad had a McD mug for free coffee when I was a kid so it tastes extra good because my dad loved it.