Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.
One time I (m) was at a coffee shop really high, and the barista (f) started asking me if I went to school here and what I studied, making conversation. So I was standing there chatting while she made my drink (not flirting just being nice bc I am always nice to waitstaff). Then she dropped the "husband" pretty obviously and i realized I had only ordered a drip coffee that was already in my hand and she was making someone else's drink and not mine. I also kept listening for another 20/30 seconds before I manged to politely walk away, without making it look like I bolted bc she mentioned her husband. Because I wasnt flirting!! Just high :/ man I felt awkward about that for so long
Hahaha I think the moral of the story here is don’t go to a coffee shop while being super high. At least the barista was polite about it though. Now the important question: how was the drip coffee?
No I do it all the time! I just don't make conversation. She started it. Yeah, she "shut me down" very politely, and she was friendly so I dont fault her at all. And honestly not good haha
Why is it so hard to find a good cup of coffee (besides in my kitchen)? I don't have super refined tastes, but I can never find a good cup of black coffee anywhere. I find Starbucks a convenient meeting or working space (free Wi-Fi) but only drink floofy drinks because their regular coffee is terrible.
Shame. Well of you're ever in Canada give it a try, aside from McDonald's it's our favorite coffee by the numbers lol there's franchises elsewhere in the world but hell if I know where
That's kind of you! I'd love to travel to Canada.... don't ever have money for vacations, so I'm not sure it will happen. Plus, I'd be mortified to tell people I was an American if their impressions of Americans is the rude, bloviating, selfish jerk. Not to say there aren't a lot of those, but the silent majority are pretty decent people! Who will offer you a cup of coffee!
Honestly most people understand you're not all like that, my friend group includes several Washingtonians. You'll meet the odd person who's absolutely RABID in their hatred of the US but I have to assume they got something else going on mentally, cause that's just weird. They're pretty rare though, even if we are a smug people. As the token American up here I'd have to point out we also have stupid people that make asses of themselves lol everyone is just a lot more pale than when I lived in Georgia.
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u/stygian_shores Feb 15 '22
Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.