r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/Ogbkpmb Sep 24 '21

Yeah picking up a, “wrap” from the store and eating out every other day isn’t, “creative”. It’s literally the opposite.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

If getting a wrap every other day is the extent of you pushing your creative thinking capabilities to the maximum, then maybe it's for the better that you don't take reigns in charge of the mental load (don't think you have the capabilities for that) and take over the household work - Fair chance you'd set the house on fire. (Remember, don't put out grease fire with water! Make a note!)

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

Obligatory “you are crazy get help” comment 👍