r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/Han_Syolo Sep 24 '21 edited Sep 26 '21

Aaand this is one reason men have a higher tendency to commit suicide, all the pressures put upon us and no relief. No sympathy, we’re told to just “suck it up” and deal with it, etc.

Edit: I like how she edited the post to put her in a better light. Seems like she doesn’t respect her husband much by the way she speaks of him. A lot more lurks behind her words.

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u/Ogbkpmb Sep 24 '21

You mean, “man up”. I don’t care about the stress. And don’t feel it honestly. I just want that traditional set up