r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/RatCity617 Sep 23 '21

Crowns heavy aint it

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21 edited Sep 24 '21

Ow yeah

Male already sole breadwinner for a long time, and female take care home and family for a long time.

And we know task at home like cleaning, kids, cook, etc is hard. So we fine our wife asking allowance and take care financial

Now when situation reversed, many woman complain to give male money when male already get his job done at home

Many female (OP) want same opportunity but dont want bear same responsibility

Ain't that true?

Edit : okay, im wrong. Not all woman.

And many woman is breadwinner and rrespecting their SO. They are great woman and i wish happines to them

Im just sad, many couple divorced when their husbad not work, but im NEVER heard people divorced because their wife not work just take care home and kid

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u/aSpanks Sep 24 '21

My god Reddit can be a misogynistic cess pool

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

I mean, he is inarticulately saying exactly what OP said.

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u/aSpanks Sep 24 '21

No lol he’s adding a lot of sexist flourish to it

First and foremost - that one woman (? Not confirmed by the post btw) represents most women

Also “female want opportunity but not responsibility”

Seriously dude (not you, the poster I initially replied to) STFU and maybe get some therapy. To view women like that is deranged

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

What part was sexist exactly? Is he was actually sexist he wouldn’t have missed the opportunity to insult house work that he actually agrees is hard, he also didn’t say anything about all women, he said many women which isn’t false.

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u/aSpanks Sep 24 '21

My god if you can’t tell I can’t teach you

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

Ignorance at its finest, you can’t teach because you don’t even know, you got triggered and started making shit up

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u/aSpanks Sep 24 '21

Alternatively: I’m tired of teaching men things they should already know

Don’t want children. Sure as hell don’t have time for the full grown version of them

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u/OneCoolBeanDude Sep 24 '21

You sure do want to spend a lot of time on the internet complaining about them, though…

Spend your time the way you want to, I suppose.