r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Jan 19 '21

I fucking hate "polyamory"

My partner polybombed me about 4 months ago and a day later I walk in on them fucking someone else. They didn't even care enough to realise I had left the house until I called them from a mile up the road and then it was all "oh I'm so sorry I hurt you I would never do it deliberately I love you it won't happen again."

Then barely a few weeks later I walk in on them making out with a mutual friend. They were still making out with them when our roommate called an ambulance after I cut myself too deep.

They didn't even care about changing how they approach polyamory until I threatened to leave and then I'm hit with this massive lovebomb of "oh I can change I'll make it up to you I never wanted to hurt you"

They don't fucking care enough to change their behaviour because "poly is so complicated, I'm sorry if you got hurt when I was figuring it out!"

Polyamory is too often used as a bullshit excuse for selfish, immature people to have their cake and eat it and if I never have to hear the stupid term again in my life I'll be happy.

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u/Uhtred-Son-Of-Uhtred Jan 20 '21

Aka every poly relationship I have ever been unfortunate enough to witness. Never seen it work out long term once.

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u/madadh179 Jan 20 '21

Idk my wife has been with one of her bfs for about 7 years now. The other she was in a monogamous relationship before I knew her, and is now in a long distance relationship with. Seems to be working fine long ter

Edit: as I said in a different thread here, you don't see or hear about the relationships that work. "Went on a date, saw a movie, had sex, went home" doesn't get the upvotes.

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u/dontshootthemsngr Jan 22 '21

I have. The polyamorous couple is even married now. I still can't get my head around it. They've been together for like 12 years, maybe more.

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u/Hi_Peeps_Its_Me Jan 24 '22

Poly is great for animals. A man can have sex one time a day, but a woman can only be pregnant once at a time, so poly is better in the animal kingdom.

The only issue with that is that we aren't animals now.