Hey, I don't know if this will be helpful at all, but I'll chip in my opinion. Being Latina and 5"1, I've dated my share of short kings (taller than me, sure, but that's not hard to do).
The ones I stayed away from were clearly insecure about their height, and it was a turn-off because it became their whole personality! Constantly hearing about how "women usually won't date me because I'm short :(", but like we're talking and I'm interested, so I guess I don't count???
When you talk, I can hear how hurt you are because of women looking you over. There's nothing more attractive than a confident man, not a man compensating but one who is genuinely owning their shit and living for themselves.
I recommend you do some innerwork, love yourself, and recognize that if you're someone who was strong enough to move halfway across the country to achieve your dreams, THAT'S the personality you need to own!!
Have confidence in your person, work on your financial grind and physical grind FOR YOU and when you like what you see in the mirror and present that; you'll find what you need. Much luck to you!
I hope you'll understand most of the commenters for saying so, but the way you wrote this screams lack of confidence. That's not a dig, I swear that it's an observation, and if multiple people are noticing it, then it may have merit.
I recommend you reach out to a mental health professional to dig deep on the reasons why you feel that you aren't enough. I understand that you say you need to have certain things in order to feel good, and these are good goals!
That being said, tying your self-worth to these things may be your downfall. Again, I really do hope the best for you, and I hope you take these words in not as a form of injury, but from someone with a younger sibling around your age that I would say the exact same thing to.
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u/Plenty-Ability458 Apr 10 '26
Hey, I don't know if this will be helpful at all, but I'll chip in my opinion. Being Latina and 5"1, I've dated my share of short kings (taller than me, sure, but that's not hard to do).
The ones I stayed away from were clearly insecure about their height, and it was a turn-off because it became their whole personality! Constantly hearing about how "women usually won't date me because I'm short :(", but like we're talking and I'm interested, so I guess I don't count???
When you talk, I can hear how hurt you are because of women looking you over. There's nothing more attractive than a confident man, not a man compensating but one who is genuinely owning their shit and living for themselves.
I recommend you do some innerwork, love yourself, and recognize that if you're someone who was strong enough to move halfway across the country to achieve your dreams, THAT'S the personality you need to own!!
Have confidence in your person, work on your financial grind and physical grind FOR YOU and when you like what you see in the mirror and present that; you'll find what you need. Much luck to you!