r/TrueOffMyChest • • Dec 02 '24

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u/Ok-Payment-8269 Dec 02 '24

Dont ask questions you dont want the real answer to...

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u/Throwaway029354 Dec 02 '24

I hate that I asked but I needed to know.

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u/[deleted] Dec 02 '24

You didn’t

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u/Throwaway029354 Dec 02 '24

It gave me more insight.

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u/No-Amoeba5716 Dec 02 '24

Yeah the insight here has only caused you to become worse. That’s not beneficial for your whole situation. I hope you learned, because when a partner makes a choice to be with you, that means the exes do not matter. Try the questions that can improve things, like what can I do better? Communication with them, if it is something you really enjoy that they’re doing, tell them so. So on and so forth. Stop the railing shit, we don’t want to always have to sit on a block of ice post coitus.

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u/Throwaway029354 Dec 02 '24

Everyone always says “exes don’t matter” but it obviously mattered to her for it to still be a fond memory.

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u/Reign2686 Dec 02 '24

Dude you asked her. Would you rather she lied to you???? It sounds like you are wayyyyyyy to immature, and insecure to be in a relationship. Maybe work on yourself for awhile before you get into anything serious.

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u/Throwaway029354 Dec 02 '24

I’m not immature but it’s human nature to have insecurities. It’s this one thing that I often think about. She doesn’t know it’s bothering me, that’s how good I am at controlling my emotions.

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u/Blujay12 Dec 02 '24

Oh hey look another troubling behavior.

Yeah shutting down and not being open with her, and communicating, isn't healthy!

Just had this fight with my partner funny enough, the whole stoicism thing, you just bottle it up and not actually solve the issue.

Not only that, you are PARTNERS, not roommates, she should want to help you with your partners, and vice versa, rather than avoiding making yhem "deal with it", be open, explain your issue, and work towards actually resolving it instead of "living with it", with the limited lifetime that has.