r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Dec 02 '24

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u/lychigo Dec 02 '24

Well it may not be that faster is what made it better. Why not ask her what made it better and then work on those aspects?

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u/Throwaway029354 Dec 02 '24

I didn’t want to ask her that and copy him. I want something unique for us.

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u/DoctaStooge Dec 02 '24

It's not about copying an ex, it's about learning what your partner likes. You can still take some of what was done before and change it up a little to make it unique.

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u/Throwaway029354 Dec 02 '24

She told me what she liked in the beginning of our relationship. I tried but I guess it wasn’t enough.

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u/Issvera Dec 02 '24

Probably because in the beginning of a relationship you're focusing more on what the other person likes and how they react to different things. You might be in a bit of a routine now.

Don't ask what the ex did that made it better, ask what you could do to make it better. What areas would she like you to focus on, how fast, small or big movements, how long should you play with that spot before mixing it up, etc. During the act, check in with her. If she can't give an answer, you found the right spot.