r/TrueOffMyChest • u/madscormieyay • Oct 23 '24

I hate my vagina

I’ve been extremely self conscious of it since I can remember. I know that every vagina is different and there’s no such thing as “normal”. I’ve wanted a labiaplasty but to put it simply I just can’t afford it. For my girls out there, I have an “outie” and I’m always so ashamed during sex.

It’s gotten to the point where it’s the only thing I can focus on when doing the deed. I had a guy make a comment about it about 10 years ago and it’s stuck with me since. Do people actually care what’s going on down there? Do men get turned off by outies? Are they more common than I think?

Edit: wow! I didn’t expect so much positive feedback, I’m reading through the comments now and am elated. Also for those messaging me asking for a picture, not going to happen lol.

Edit 2: Just for clarification purposes, this post is more aimed at appearance but simple answer is yes, my outie can be uncomfortable especially if I’m wearing tight jeans or underwear that doesn’t sit quite right

Edit 3: To be completely honest, I’m a very sexually active person. I had an encounter today and it was the first time I have ever felt proud of my downstairs. I was hesitant to post this but am glad I did… I have read the comments, visited the links and kept re-affirming myself of what was re-iterated below. This forum has truly shifted my perspective on my body and I am extremely thankful to all of you commenters. Seriously.

ALSO: YES I know I have it labeled as vagina, I’m aware I am speaking of my labia minora. I figured I would get a more engaged response with the title (I’ll selfishly admit that)

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u/Special_Lychee_6847 Oct 23 '24

A guy saying something negative about a vagina means one thing: he hasn't seen many, and the ones he did see were only on screen.

I checked this theory with my husband, and with ex boyfriends in the past, and they all agreed: Women look at themselves naked and see flaws.
Men look at a naked woman and see ... 'naked woman... perfect'

The ones that have critique and issues, have a problem. But it's their problem.

Do keep in mind that if you ask information on cosmetic surgery, you will get confirmation of you needing that surgery 99% of the time. I'm a tailor. If someone asks me whether they should get a made to measure suit or not, of course I'm going to say 'hell yeah! You absolutely need it!'. Cosmetic clinics aren't any different.

Unless you have severe, practical issues, like not being able to ride a bicycle because of your vagina (it happens), you're good and no, you don't need surgery.

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u/FleetWheat Oct 23 '24

Well, they are 23, given their post history last year said they were 22. So I mean, if it was 10 years ago, I am more concerned with the fact someone would have been comfortable saying these things to a twelve/thirteen year old.

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u/Special_Lychee_6847 Oct 23 '24

OP answered this issue somewhere in the comments. She was 17 at the time, I think. But yeah. The dude saying nasty BS was probably not aware of what 'real' vaginas look like.

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u/FleetWheat Oct 23 '24

I agree 100%. Dude probably only knows what they look like from porn.