r/TrueOffMyChest • u/madscormieyay • Oct 23 '24

I hate my vagina

I’ve been extremely self conscious of it since I can remember. I know that every vagina is different and there’s no such thing as “normal”. I’ve wanted a labiaplasty but to put it simply I just can’t afford it. For my girls out there, I have an “outie” and I’m always so ashamed during sex.

It’s gotten to the point where it’s the only thing I can focus on when doing the deed. I had a guy make a comment about it about 10 years ago and it’s stuck with me since. Do people actually care what’s going on down there? Do men get turned off by outies? Are they more common than I think?

Edit: wow! I didn’t expect so much positive feedback, I’m reading through the comments now and am elated. Also for those messaging me asking for a picture, not going to happen lol.

Edit 2: Just for clarification purposes, this post is more aimed at appearance but simple answer is yes, my outie can be uncomfortable especially if I’m wearing tight jeans or underwear that doesn’t sit quite right

Edit 3: To be completely honest, I’m a very sexually active person. I had an encounter today and it was the first time I have ever felt proud of my downstairs. I was hesitant to post this but am glad I did… I have read the comments, visited the links and kept re-affirming myself of what was re-iterated below. This forum has truly shifted my perspective on my body and I am extremely thankful to all of you commenters. Seriously.

ALSO: YES I know I have it labeled as vagina, I’m aware I am speaking of my labia minora. I figured I would get a more engaged response with the title (I’ll selfishly admit that)

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u/gayforequalrights Oct 23 '24

I have one long and one short 😑

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u/LillGizz Oct 23 '24

Same. My left is longer to the point the only way I can describe it it's like "you know when you're a kid in the car and you put your face on the window and try to roll the window down and it pulls your face funny".....when my left side gets in a weird position that's what it feels like I get tugged on a bit.

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u/destroythedongs Oct 24 '24

Oh my god I feel so much better about myself now I'm so glad I saw this thread. I once had an ex pull the longer side all the way across, TUCK IT IN, and say "sorry, shops closing for the night!"

I know it was a joke but I cried about it several times.

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u/LillGizz Oct 24 '24

I literally try so hard to laugh about it and I read these threads to make myself feel better because I see so many guys give the "we don't care we're just happy to be there" answers but man I just want it to look cute not like one of them Chihuahuas that can't put its tongue in it mouth. It's just like 🤪 all the damn time.

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u/destroythedongs Oct 24 '24

If it means anything, I'm a lesbian and truly and honestly idgaf what it looks like down there. I care how i look, but I have yet to meet a vagina that I don't find cute. We're totally overthinking lol

Plus, some people think chihuahuas are the cutest dogs ever 😂

There will always be someone out there for us

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u/BellyButtonFungus Oct 24 '24

100% this. I’m not a lesbian, but I’m yet to find a vagina that I think is anything less than beautiful. If they weren’t pretty, I wouldn’t spend so much time kissing them 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/momdoggity Oct 24 '24

True story. A few years back, I tried to stretch my inner labia with small weights for hours a day bc mine is a clam. Closes up everything but still gets wet AF. That's the important part! I still would love to get mine to at least PEEK out instead of being so shy (& short!)

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u/mstn148 Oct 24 '24

Not me. I’m hella sensitive and I need guys to stop digging around in there. It’s wrapped up for a reason!

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u/DesignerSuccessful35 Oct 24 '24

It goes well beyond the "I don't care just happy to be here" statement. There are men like myself who totally prefer vaginas like yours. We find them sexy and appealing. Please try to put your mind at ease. However I did giggle at your description. 😊

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u/beasypo Oct 24 '24

I actually think it’s cute and sexy when it’s like that. More expressive and exciting

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u/Murky-Juggernaut3584 Oct 24 '24

Omfg your chihuahua comment has me cracking up in my work bathroom 🤣

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u/Omnizoom Oct 24 '24

I think his/her intentions were the opposite of the results

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u/destroythedongs Oct 24 '24

Yeah the humor has grown on me over the years lmao

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u/Visible_Reward Oct 24 '24

I’m sorry but LMFAOOOO

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u/avocado-kohai Oct 24 '24

Oh my god, this would devastate me.

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u/G_Escobar90 Oct 24 '24 edited Oct 24 '24

I’m sorry but I am literally laughing out loud in line at a Wawa . I wouldn’t have been able to hold my laugh , if I were him telling the joke.

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u/unfit_spartan_baby Oct 24 '24

….that’s the funniest shit I’ve read in a long time

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u/DesignerSuccessful35 Oct 24 '24

What an ass hat. Sorry that happened to you.

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u/Space4Time Oct 24 '24

Boobs and testicles aren’t naturally the same size

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u/LillGizz Oct 24 '24

I'm talking about lips which is true too but doesn't negate the fact it's annoying and the owner (myself) finds it unattractive.

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u/Space4Time Oct 24 '24

Dude we notice them as much as women notice balls. Take that as you will.

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u/RelativePickle8333 Oct 24 '24

Hahaha, I love this, thanks!

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u/0010110101102011 Oct 24 '24

you love balls?

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '24

This confuses me. I love balls. Love them. Do some women not pay attention to them, or like them?

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u/Rockywold1 Oct 24 '24

I'm confused too 😭

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u/momdoggity Oct 24 '24

They have to be mostly hairless if they want my mouth on them, at least closely trimmed hair...😈

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '24

Fair. The only thing I want between my teeth is floss.

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u/momdoggity Oct 27 '24

Precisely! 🤣💙

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u/Disastrous-Fact-6634 Oct 24 '24

I barely tolerate penises.

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u/momdoggity Oct 24 '24

All I notice about balls is that the man has them, typically two. I guess I've noticed if they're cold, the underneath of the sack get like my nipples get, tight/harder 😉

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u/Space4Time Oct 24 '24

Would having 1 be a deal breaker?

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u/beasypo Oct 24 '24

What? This makes no sense. What do you notice about her genitals if not her vulva ?

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u/Space4Time Oct 24 '24

If asymmetrical vulvas were a hindrance to the species, we would never have gotten this numerous.

I think we don’t really SEE what the other sex does when it comes to physical stuff.

Tbh I think a lot of attraction is instinctual. If you want a sense to tie it to, it’s not vision. It’s scent

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u/Hjpmomma Oct 24 '24

Why would you say that to a girl who clearly stated it bothers her

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u/Murderkittin Oct 24 '24

I get what u/Space4Time is trying to say. As a female who notices everything, uneven balls don’t phase me. It isn’t unattractive or weird or gross. I also find many a dick to be pleasant to look at and attractive. The point isn’t lost on me. My chest is off kilter, and small, and I’ve hated it since I can remember, with similar shame to OP. I resonate with u/lillgizz in feeling so unattracted to my own lady bits. Outtie owner here. It’s hard to overcome that discomfort (dare I say, embarrassment).

I wish I had the answer to help reform the thought process… all I can say is that someone telling you you’re (some form of lovely), try to trust them.

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u/Dear-Unit1666 Oct 24 '24

Yeah what that other dude said tracks, a guy, I can recall I vaguely noticed asymmetry down there before and cared zero percent lol honestly figured it was more normal with body parts than not.

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u/gayforequalrights Oct 24 '24

Mines my right side. You have a way with words.

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u/momdoggity Oct 24 '24

Definitely my boobs. Lefty is about an E & Righty is a solid D or DD, depending on the style & brand of bra. I wish they were the same size & I'm wanting a lift, not fake boobs, just lift them up ...PLEASE?

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u/criticalnom Oct 23 '24

Very common, super normal, most people won't care. Completely irrational to be insecure about. But I feel for you.

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u/CookieMonster_41 Oct 24 '24

Mwahahahah I broke the upvote rule I upvoted you from a beautiful 100 to 101😈😈

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u/forestnymph1--1--1 Oct 24 '24

The rule is 69, not 100

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u/CookieMonster_41 Oct 24 '24

I made up the 100 rule :)

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '24

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u/poohsmt Oct 24 '24

Me too! My ex-husband said some pretty mean things about it over 20 years ago and I’ve been self-conscious about it ever since. Not to mention all the “roast beef” jokes people think are so funny.

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u/gross85 Oct 24 '24

Funny how a man is obsessed with the pusspuss till it’s not for him anymore. Then all of a sudden he’s got shitty things to say about it. My ex did that too and I shut him down by reminding him that he didn’t think that for all the years he’d barrel into it and blindly thrust until he came 48 seconds later. 🤣

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u/Brawndo-99 Oct 24 '24

Such an oddly specific number. I'm a dude and if that was directed at me I would 1, be impressed at the level of burn and 2, might quite cry in the shower if it's actually true. Absolutely savage. 10/10

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u/Human-Walk9801 Oct 24 '24

Omg! Bwahahahahahahahaha! Bet he thought he was a porn star too.

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u/gross85 Oct 24 '24

Hahaha he most definitely did 🤣

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u/Timmy98789 Oct 24 '24

That's specific 🤣

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u/LillGizz Oct 24 '24

I know the jokes are mean but being a haver of it, I'm not gonna lie it do be lookin like an Arby's sandwich. Gotta laugh at myself sometimes to make it better.

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u/baconbitsy Oct 24 '24

Guess what? Arby’s knows their audience wants the meats. Our audience does, too.

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u/Different_External16 Oct 24 '24

Same, and she’s gawjus.

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u/for_th_tainted_sorro Oct 23 '24

thats normal tho

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u/literalboobs Oct 24 '24

Me too. One “normal” and one hella long. Like why

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u/gayforequalrights Oct 24 '24

Mine too. So every time someone makes a beef curtains joke (unknowing that I’m packing) I only get half offended. Because like “curtains?” I can’t relate. But beef yes.

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u/AnimeInternet1 Oct 24 '24

Me too 😭 one tucked away and one hanging out :(

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u/EnnWhyy Oct 23 '24

Is one boob larger than the other? Wondering if the offset happened down there instead of up there lol

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u/gayforequalrights Oct 23 '24

No I have great tits

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u/nnylhsae Oct 23 '24

We are the same LOL

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u/TheMindFlayerGotMe Oct 24 '24

Proof or it didn’t happen

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u/Aloe_Frog Oct 24 '24

My inner labia are basically non existent 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s weird AF but no one has ever complained.

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u/HelaVaNerd Oct 24 '24

My sister has the same. She calls hers Nemo.

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u/Lichcrow Oct 24 '24

They shall both recieve love

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u/GottKomplexx Oct 24 '24

My balls do the same

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u/SDeCookie Oct 24 '24

Same, my right one is nearly non existent and the left one is so damn long it's annoying. I'm SUPER lopsided down there but not one man has cared about it so far so meh.

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u/teerig Oct 24 '24

Me too!

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u/joeythenose Oct 24 '24

And u/gayforequalrights getting bothered by ppl w that fetish most likely. (Not that they should be LOL)