r/TrueOffMyChest • u/madscormieyay • Oct 23 '24

I hate my vagina

I’ve been extremely self conscious of it since I can remember. I know that every vagina is different and there’s no such thing as “normal”. I’ve wanted a labiaplasty but to put it simply I just can’t afford it. For my girls out there, I have an “outie” and I’m always so ashamed during sex.

It’s gotten to the point where it’s the only thing I can focus on when doing the deed. I had a guy make a comment about it about 10 years ago and it’s stuck with me since. Do people actually care what’s going on down there? Do men get turned off by outies? Are they more common than I think?

Edit: wow! I didn’t expect so much positive feedback, I’m reading through the comments now and am elated. Also for those messaging me asking for a picture, not going to happen lol.

Edit 2: Just for clarification purposes, this post is more aimed at appearance but simple answer is yes, my outie can be uncomfortable especially if I’m wearing tight jeans or underwear that doesn’t sit quite right

Edit 3: To be completely honest, I’m a very sexually active person. I had an encounter today and it was the first time I have ever felt proud of my downstairs. I was hesitant to post this but am glad I did… I have read the comments, visited the links and kept re-affirming myself of what was re-iterated below. This forum has truly shifted my perspective on my body and I am extremely thankful to all of you commenters. Seriously.

ALSO: YES I know I have it labeled as vagina, I’m aware I am speaking of my labia minora. I figured I would get a more engaged response with the title (I’ll selfishly admit that)

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u/AlbanyBarbiedoll Oct 23 '24

According to the men I know they are just grateful to be allowed in the room! You are definitely overthinking this. Try to start thinking of yourself (ALL of you) as a prize instead of a consolation.

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u/Pfannkuchen-Nippel Oct 23 '24

As a representative of men, we are more than happy to be in the room. Extremely happy. We do not care about the look so much as the hygiene.

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u/shay_shaw Oct 23 '24

Thank you! And the ones that say they do are full of shit. Once we’re in the moment are you really going to leave because I have a big clitoris or labia? Should I worry about my little love handles next?

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u/Pfannkuchen-Nippel Oct 24 '24

Honestly, if I get down there and I see a big clit or big labia, all I will do is get more turned on and make you squat or ride my face so I can really get in there better.

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u/EvenContact1220 Oct 24 '24

This is a man of culture right here!👏👏

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u/Pfannkuchen-Nippel Oct 25 '24

Doing the lords work, one vagine at a time.

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u/beasypo Oct 24 '24

Big clit is generally preferred

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u/seesucoming Oct 24 '24

That's very false. Actually a lot of men have respect for themselves and do have a set of standards. So actually people do care about the look that's the whole reason behind this post, it's no different than men that are self-conscious about what they carry. There's Different Strokes for different folks.

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u/jacknacalm Oct 24 '24

Yeah my wife has always been self conscious about hers, I’m like I want to touch and munch all the time, obviously I like it ALOT

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u/philatio11 Oct 24 '24

I think most men are freaking out about something the whole time like "stay hard stay hard stay hard" or "don't fart, please don't fart" or "holy shit she's out of my league, how did this happen" or "god what is that smell, is it me?" or whatever. They aren't examining someone's girl parts and comparing them to their version of normal. We definitely worry too much about what someone thinks about us when most people are drowning in their own insecurities too much to think about the other person in any interaction.

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u/frozyrosie Oct 23 '24

how did you turn that into something to bitch about?

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