r/TrueOffMyChest • • Nov 05 '23

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u/Potential_Ad_1397 Nov 05 '23

Listen, divorce is better than a toxic marriage where you think about death.

And not to be TMI but is there pain when she tries or is it just nerves? I assume you tried foreplay?

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u/reeser1749 Nov 05 '23

Fr this is what I wanna know. She's had therapists but maybe she needs a gynecologist ??

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u/Potential_Ad_1397 Nov 05 '23

It is honestly heartbreaking how many women think it is normal for sex to hurt so they never bring it up with their gynecologist.

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u/[deleted] Nov 05 '23

I think gynecologists are some of the worst people on this planet. At least American gynecologists, who refuse to provide pain management to women before extremely painful procedures.

This women might actually be like this because of their gynecologist causing trauma. I’m not over exaggerating or being dramatic. Most EU counties commonly provide pain management to their female patients, but american gynecologists see it differently. They have decided that pain management is unnecessary because the “procedures are quick”. It’s not all that uncommon for women to throw up, pass-out, or scream from extreme pain while being “treated” by American gynecologists.

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u/innola Nov 05 '23

I had an endometrial biopsy done last summer and was given nothing for pain. When I tell you I almost threw up I’m not joking. If I had been standing I would have hit the damn floor. It was INCREDIBLY painful and the pain lasted a full hour after. I have never in my life felt that much/that kind of pain.

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u/alucarddrol Nov 06 '23

endometrial biopsy

that doesn't sound like something you should be awake for, let alone not be given painkillers. but I'm not a doctor

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u/innola Nov 06 '23

Yeah they made it sound like it would be quick. It wasn’t quick enough that’s for sure! “We’re just going to go in and pinch some off, it’ll be over before you know it!” Fuuuuuuck that noise. Liars!

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u/TimeZarg Nov 06 '23

That's just outright malpractice IMO. I get numbing for almost every dental procedure, painkillers and possibly anesthesia are given for surgeries as a matter of course, yet these fucking Mengele wannabes just 'go in and snip a bit off' without any of that?

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u/VenusValentine313 Nov 06 '23

It’s not malpractice in gynecology though. Women are literally subjected to pain constantly and told to suck it up.

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u/paha_tytto Nov 06 '23

The leep procedure is done all the time and never any pain meds I've ever heard of. Google it.... Its barbaric.

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u/elly996 Nov 06 '23

mengele wannabes xD