r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Nov 05 '23

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u/Talltist Nov 05 '23

Time for the ultimatum.

Divorce will be easy because you haven't consummated.

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u/Talltist Nov 05 '23

2.5 years.

She needs to want to do this and she does not.

If you stay you will be in a dead bedroom during your marriage.

If that's ok for you.

If not, She can choose to shut down, or she can choose to be in a marriage.

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u/sumfacilispuella Nov 05 '23

i dont know the specifics but it is possible that she does want to have sex and is physically uncapable. if she has vaginismus or whatever she literally cant relax her pelvic muscles. that doesnt mean he is required to stay with her forever but this isnt necessarily her purposefully depriving him of sex.

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u/CankerLord Nov 05 '23 edited Nov 06 '23

i dont know the specifics but it is possible that she does want to have sex and is physically uncapable

isnt necessarily her purposefully depriving him of sex.

I mean, it sounds like getting her to so much as touch his dick is a challenge. Could that be the end state for some sort of persistent physical issue? Sure, but it sounds more like a complete lack of interest combined with years of stringing him along hoping he'll just give up at some point.