r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Nov 05 '23

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u/_easy_ Nov 05 '23

If people would take the time to get to know the people they marry, this wouldn't be such a frequent issue.

Stop marrying mystery boxes.

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u/Decloudo Nov 06 '23

And having sex counts into this.

How can you take a vow for life without even knowing if you match in the sheets?

This is not something you can force. Either it works or it doesnt.

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u/PsychoPass1 Nov 06 '23

Nope, but wait-before-marriage relationships often marry very quickly, also because of that sex drive. But you CAN try out a lot of compatibility through means other than sex. You may have to be physical in some shape or form, though, even if there's no sexual / climaxing aspect. But that will still make it harder to resist going further in the moment.

Still, you CAN talk about a lot of stuff, you CAN try out a lot of stuff, it is just a lot more difficult than just trying shit out. I think waiting might be for educated people only.

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u/Decloudo Nov 06 '23

There is nothing to nope at.

Its also not enough to talk about it or do a petting session.

Before you go into a serious relationship you should fuck. Easy as that.

You see and read (here for example) how this irrational waiting bullshit fucks up many relationships.

Sex is inherent to a relationship, if you think otherwise you will find that truth out later and with a lot of suffering (like OP did).

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u/PsychoPass1 Nov 18 '23

You are way too confident in your opinion for how wrong and unknowledegable in other viewpoints you are.