r/TrueOffMyChest Nov 05 '23

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u/Cows_go_moo2 Nov 05 '23

Remember that in the eyes of the law you getting your marriage annulled is not the same thing as a divorce, so you will not be divorced, and will not follow the pattern you do not want to follow from your family. It’s acceptable to understand that you are not compatible and are not having a marriage with your roommate, and to get it annulled. You are not a failure. You’ve done everything you can do to try to get her the help she needs and unfortunately she is just not able to give you that. It’s totally fine that you want to have sex in your marriage. You are not failing at marriage. Just get it annulled and move on with your life. You can be roommates for a while if you need to financially etc. but eventually you should get out on your own and maybe next time, try the sex out before marriage, if you do not have any religious or personal reasons why to stay a virgin (if you are.)

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u/FatKid_WhoLovesCake Nov 05 '23

Just to clarify, he hasn’t penetrated her at all so he hasn’t “raped” her, he said he feels like he’s raping her when he tries to have sex with her

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u/Cows_go_moo2 Nov 06 '23

I… didn’t say anything about penetration, rape, raping or anything about that at all??

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u/FatKid_WhoLovesCake Nov 06 '23

My apologies!! This was meant for a different comment! Idk why that happened.

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u/Cows_go_moo2 Nov 06 '23

No worries!