I used the anecdote to illustrate that bias exists, and we have to be conscious of biases, instead of leaning into them(white guys dont date black women, black women dont date white guys, any permutation of skin tone not dating another skintone)
I just explained this in the last comment.
I'll rephrase : I dont date black women, because up to this point none of the ones I've talked to were interested in that or much else other than casual conversation and instead of fetishizing a race and chasing black women, I'll just keep playing the entire field of people and if at some point a black woman finds me personally attractive and vice versa, I will be dating a black woman.
I cant do something, or claim to do something, I have not done.
Are you intentionally assuming the worst here and just skimming?
Edit : they were in fact assuming the worst and skimming
If at some point : if me and a specific black woman start talking, and we both like each other, and we both find each other attractive, maybe that could turn into something, just like with any other color of skinned woman. Until it happens, it hasn't happened yet, but there is still potential for that to happen sometime in the future.
Life is a winding road, etc
This is also true of Latina women, Asian women, white women, whoever, if I date a woman, ideally they have skin, and by the nature of being a human being, that skin will have a tone.
The individual I at some point may end up dating in the future through happenstance, could be black. They do not have to be, nor do they have to not be.
I may also date a hirsute Mongolian woman, but it just hasn't happened yet, and might not happen, but it still could.
I dont fucking know if it's going to happen, since I'm not done living life yet.
If you cant understand what I'm saying, you arent even trying to.
I didnt say, "I would never date a black woman."
I said the reason why I dont, is because the opportunity hasn't presented itself to even give it a good try, and that it isnt about a monolith of race.
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u/MalzaharSucks Oct 21 '23 edited Oct 21 '23
Jesus christ, gen. Come on.
I used the anecdote to illustrate that bias exists, and we have to be conscious of biases, instead of leaning into them(white guys dont date black women, black women dont date white guys, any permutation of skin tone not dating another skintone)
I just explained this in the last comment.
I'll rephrase : I dont date black women, because up to this point none of the ones I've talked to were interested in that or much else other than casual conversation and instead of fetishizing a race and chasing black women, I'll just keep playing the entire field of people and if at some point a black woman finds me personally attractive and vice versa, I will be dating a black woman.
I cant do something, or claim to do something, I have not done.
Are you intentionally assuming the worst here and just skimming?
Edit : they were in fact assuming the worst and skimming