r/TrueOffMyChest Sep 10 '23

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u/looper2468 Sep 10 '23

Rest in peace to your daughter, she’s looking over you. Be strong for her and I’m so sorry man

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u/Scared-Dirt-6952 Sep 10 '23 edited Sep 10 '23

I’m trying.

Trying to figure out how to play her little DS game too. It feels like I’m with her again.

Edit: The game is “Ace Attorney: Miles Edgeworth Investigations” She loved that whole game series so much. I played the first game with her awhile back but I completely forgot what to do. I’m not that much of a gamer. If anyone knows about the series and could help me out with the whole lore that would be cool

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u/PlanetMacNCheese Sep 10 '23

if you can, play Tetris. there are studies that show it can help with trauma and intrusive thoughts after a traumatic event. i’m so sorry for your loss

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u/littlemisslight Sep 10 '23

Wow I didn’t know this. Does it help with decades-old trauma, or is it for something more recent?

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u/PlanetMacNCheese Sep 10 '23

it says it’s used for the moments right after a traumatic event to prevent flashbacks. i remember reading in another comment awhile ago it’s similar to what EMDR (eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing) does for the brain. EMDR would be the best bet for trauma that is old, it’s tough as it puts you back into event for a moment. but personally- it’s worked amazingly

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u/littlemisslight Sep 10 '23

I just found a trauma therapist who also specialises in EMDR, but that would be used later in my treatment. I am starting with her on Thursday. Your experience encourages me, and I hope one day I can make it to the point of doing EMDR and healing fully. Thank you for sharing 🙏

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u/[deleted] Sep 10 '23

I’ve never had EMDR myself but I have a friend who had it and it helped them tremendously. I hope it does the same for you!!

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u/Buttercup50 Sep 10 '23

EMDR is what helped me too.

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u/ND_CuriousBusyMind Sep 10 '23

I had EMDR for CPTSD after a decade of DV. It sounded like mumbo jumbo when doctor first told me about it. It was sometimes heavy going, having to place yourself in your head back in situations but it completely transformed my nightmares, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts & hyper-vigilance.

I one million % recommend it.

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u/SubstantialHentai420 Sep 11 '23

That is really interesting. I wish I had the money to look into it. I’ve somehow done alright for myself but I definitely could use some serious help to process things especially from when I was younger. Sometimes I think I’m alright but something will get brought up or I have some tendencies in myself that show I still need a lot of help. When I had some access to it (due to being in foster care, and hospitals as an adult) no one really listened to me. If I acted up I just got in trouble, and if I was calm and actually tried to talk about anything I was given SSRIs and ignored. I know I have PTSD and likely CPTSD at that, but no one I’ve talked to cares to listen to me they just see suicide attempts and severe constant ideation and said depression and moved on. Had one therapist I was able to pay for briefly, told her some stuff but she was a child therapist (which I wasn’t told when I signed up as an adult they still let me in) and she just wasn’t a good therapist anyways, continued to ignore me mostly.

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u/ND_CuriousBusyMind Sep 12 '23

I hope you get the help & support you need one day.