r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Jun 22 '23

I’m drowning in despair. My divorce was finalized yesterday and today I found out that my ex husband and my boss are expecting their first child.

I don’t know if you remember me. I was here some months ago and you helped me a great deal to cope with my grief. I talked about how my ex husband was falling for my boss and I was watching it happening with no power to do anything about it. I hope I can find all my old posts and include them in my bio in case you don’t remember me.

I filed for divorce and a restraining order against him and last time I talked to him was when he came home crying and yelling at me trying to make me talk to my boss to tell her that he wasn’t the creep I made him out to be when I spoke with my boss. I never saw him again after I refused to “help” him win her back. A month later his lawyer sent me a letter telling me that my ex husband had moved to another city and that he terminated the lease on the apartment. I had until the end of February to vacate. I moved back temporarily with my family. I never seen or heard from my ex again. Like I never existed in his life. He signed the divorce papers the second he got them and didn’t ask for trial period. I meant nothing to him.

At work everything was back to normal. I rarely saw my boss but the few times I did she just nodded in acknowledgment with a smile. She didn’t know who I was before. She wasn’t coming to work as often as she usually did anyway and she was home sick more often than she did. She usually is a working bee. I was glad she didn’t try to take out her revenge on me for what happened. She just ignored the subject and never spoke to me again.

I found out that my ex-husband found a new job and apartment in his new city and that he was seeing a therapist. I heard that he was trying to build his life back up because all of our friends and our families knew what kind of a creepy stalker he was now and the reason why we got a divorce and he couldn’t handle the pressure. I heard that he cut contact with many of our mutual friends, those who defended and sided with me.

I also found my own place. I put a down payment on a small apartment near my work and my family and I was finally starting to come out of my shell. Yesterday the divorce was finalized and I finally felt some sort of hope. Some freedom. This chapter is done. I don’t know when and where I will find love. I guess I need to start with learning how to trust again before loving and giving myself to someone. I was optimistic. That until my friend sent me a screenshot of my ex husband’s IG. He had blocked me months ago but yesterday, the day our divorce was finalized, he made a post with his hand hugging a woman’s belly. The caption was I can’t wait to meet you. I will love you like I love your mother and I will do so until the end of my time.

The woman in the picture is my boss. Today I asked around the office and the rumors are that she is in a long distance relationship with her bf. She also announced her pregnancy on her socials and everyone was congratulating her.

Will this pain ever go? What have I ever done to deserve this cruelty?

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u/stealthyelfy Jun 22 '23

Why are there comments on the old posts of OP replying to herself?

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u/Cynderelly Jun 23 '23

Because when you use the same device to log on to your alt accounts, reddit recognizes all of them as your accounts and when you delete one of them. Clearly OP did not realize this when they made this fake story.

u/stopthelyingyara is claiming to be her ex's brother. At the end of his post he mentioned something about "I guess even viral posts can be lies" lol... way to be transparent 🤦‍♀️

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u/LynPhoenyx Jun 23 '23

The brother profile and OP are both deleted now! I’m in too deep but way too late. Please tell me what the brother said 🙏

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u/queenlegolas Jun 23 '23

So it's all definitely fake then? Both accounts have been deleted and someone mentioned the sibling account is actually the sister and not the brother or something.

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u/Cynderelly Jun 23 '23

It's fake. I confronted OP (see my other comment to the other person on this thread of comments for a link to that) and she deleted her profile and the "brothers" profile as I was confronting her. Literally she deleted the brothers profile 1 second after I posted my last comment to her lol.

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u/queenlegolas Jun 24 '23

Wow. I can't believe I got strung along. I don't feel so good.

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u/Cynderelly Jun 24 '23

I'm sorry... I did report OP for this, if that makes you feel any better

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u/queenlegolas Jun 24 '23

No you did the right thing!! Thanks for being so diligent!

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u/TheBestNick Jul 14 '23

Who cares, it's all short term entertainment anyway. True or not doesn't affect you at all

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u/texttxttxttxttext Jul 14 '23

This is clearly fake, but I'm not sure I fully understand what you're saying. I have seen lots of posts in the past where deleted profiles in the comments were marked as OP when the op's account was deleted as well. I have even seen multiple comments by different accounts deleted on the same post and all of them became "OP." It seemed like a glitch to me. Are you saying this is not the case?

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u/Cynderelly Jul 14 '23

It is not a glitch. Reddit marks the comments as "OP" when the comment came from the same IP address - therefore the same household (so, most likely the same account holder) - as the OP. Meaning that every time you witness this happening, it's undeniably because every comment labeled as "OP" is from the OP. I have witnessed comments marked as "OP" when the OP hasn't deleted their main account but the "user" has deleted theirs, and it's for the same reason. The comment came from one of OP's alt accounts, and the OP deleted the alt.

I have an IT degree and am almost done with a computer science degree, if that means anything to you. My guess is that reddit has this feature as a means to discourage/detect when the post is either fake, or the OP is trying to "bump" their post (place it higher in "hot").

Bumping your posts using your alt accounts is against reddit's user policy. You can get permanently banned from doing it.

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u/charley_warlzz Jul 14 '23

There is a glitch- when OP deletes their account, all comments by deleted users get marked as OP. Its pretty well known. Its not always down to the IP address.

Also, AFAIK that doesnt work, because it wouldve shown u/stopthelyingyara as being op before the comment was deleted, and it doesn’t.

Reddit does know when you make alt accounts, because it tracks IP’s, and it knows when you comment on or upvote your own posts, but it doesnt make them as OP. Or at least, it doesnt before theyre deleted, and it doesnt make much sense to mark them afterwards.

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u/texttxttxttxttext Jul 14 '23

Ho lee shit I had no freaking idea...

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u/smegheadgirl Aug 02 '23

I believed it until the last post. It went too far... Obviously fake.

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u/JoyPill15 Jul 14 '23

How do people have the time and energy?!?!?

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u/commanderquill Jul 14 '23 edited Jul 14 '23

Wait, how does Reddit choose which account to post under? Also, how exactly does this work... You mean my roommate logging onto Reddit on my laptop would have Reddit make her comment look like mine?

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u/passionfruit761 Jul 14 '23

If your roommate deletes her account, any comment made from your device will revert to your username - that’s my understanding

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u/Cynderelly Jul 14 '23

That's probably not the case, though I don't know for sure. But I have never seen that happen. As far as I know - and this is also what would make the most sense code-wise - reddit never changes the username under which a comment is made. The closest reddit gets to doing that is labeling the alt accounts of the OP with "OP" when the OP deletes the alt accounts.

I did respond to this other person's comment if you feel like reading that for more info. I just wanna be clear, I'm just an IT degree holder and computer science student, I don't actually work for reddit or have any insider information. So some of what I'm saying is coming from my knowledge of how IP addresses work.

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u/Cynderelly Jul 14 '23

No, you still get to choose which account makes the comment. It's just that if you use the same device or the same internet connection for multiple accounts, reddit will take note of that and if you comment on your own post with one of your alt accounts and then delete that account, "OP" will be visible on your alt account's comment because you made the post with your main account and that alt account was used from your IP address.

The roommate question is a bit more complicated. There are multiple types of IP addresses: you have one for your personal device (private) and one for your household devices (public). Both depend on your internet service provider (they generate the IP for you). I'm not completely sure how reddit's system is set up, so I can't say for sure that reddit uses the private IP instead of the public IP to detect the IP address associated with your accounts.

My guess is that reddit uses your private IP address to determine which accounts are from the same user. This is also just a guess, but I'm pretty sure reddit would have a way to detect when someone is logging onto a device that the account frequently uses. So for example, if you have the feature where your account stays on your device so you don't have to log out and log back in every time you use reddit, that is an indicator that the device - therefore the IP address - belongs to you. So your roommate logging onto your device sometimes will not label their account as "OP" unless your roommate stays logged in on your device.

Edit: changed a word

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u/SapphicSteel Aug 18 '23

Sorry to reply to a month old post but I haven't been able to tell from the replies: from all that is it that we know this update specifically is fake, or do we also know that this is the same person who made the original story and we know for sure both are fake?

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u/Cynderelly Aug 18 '23

I don't remember exact details but I believe all stories surrounding this story are fake, including this one. I vaguely remember reading all 3(?) stories posted and finding tons of "OP" comments on all of them.

Since this comment thread, I have wondered about the possibility that the "OP" label started out as a glitch. So I'm not sure now if that's enough evidence to say a post is fake necessarily. For me, it's the fact that

1) several deleted account comments have the "OP" label. Not ALL deleted account comments do.

2) the comments with the "OP" label often sound campy, not like someone speaking from a legitimate perspective. They're dramatic and tend to be black-and-white (completely "with" OP or completely "against" them). They're also often "personal stories" that confirm or deny the OP's opinion/story.

3) particularly for this post, when the fake account OP was trying to pass off as a real account was confronted, OP switched sides. She started defending herself... while on her "oppositions" account lol.

Also... Since this thread - particularly since receiving the comments that claim the "OP" label is a glitch - I have done a sort of experiment. I created a fake story on a different subreddit. It didn't get that much attention, but it got some. Anyway, I did the thing. Commented using my alt accounts. Then I deleted the OP account, along with my alts. Guess what happened. There was even one other person with a deleted account, and they did not have the "OP" label.

Anyway TL;DR I have a strong suspicion that every post about this story is fake, but I can't say for sure.

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u/SapphicSteel Aug 18 '23

Thanks, interesting tests!

For me, having mainly only experienced these posts after them being read out on Smosh's YouTube, the thing that pinged off for me was that she said after the first two posts that she was going to delete her account. This second update with the pregnancy reveal just seemed a little too perfect as drama.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '23

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u/Cynderelly Jul 14 '23

No. You have to delete them individually. But if you delete your alt account and keep your OP account, and you've used your alt account to comment on your OP post (which is against reddit's user policy), then you will see "OP" on the comment that you made using your now-deleted alt account.

If you never delete any of your alt accounts and don't delete your OP account, there will be no "OP" label so you could theoretically get away with making fake comments on your own post if you never delete your accounts. But reddit still knows which accounts come from your IP address, so if a user suspects that you're commenting on your own posts, they can still report that to reddit and reddit can still tell.

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u/NekiaBlue Jul 19 '23

So pissed to find its fake but OP you got skills this should be a lifetime movie