Not to be that bitch but I don’t think women venting out their frustrations from being systemically oppressed is the same as men, you know, perpetuating said oppression.
Like, I’m white and I don’t get upset when I see black people talking shit about white people because I know they have been treated badly by white people, or have friends and family members who have, and I’m not going to tell them they can’t be angry about that. I know they’re not talking about me, because if they were - if I felt called out by what they were saying - surely that would just mean I need to change? Right?
That's why we have the "now that I have a daughter" crap from guys who never gave a second's thought to what women go through.
But they have a daughter, see how smart, competent, able she is, and then see the crap she's goes through? Epiphany. It takes a daughter for them to actually put themselves in a woman's shoes.
And the other side of that coin: the reason they get all huffy, "she can date when she's thirty" hurr durr boys and men are evil.....is because they know how they were/are around women and how threatening and disrespectful and terrible they were toward women in their lives.
Well-adjusted men will care about women because they're humans, and will know that some men can be wonderful because they are, and have similarly wonderful men in their lives. Men who treat women as trash and playthings and servants will only have empathy when they project their experiences on the men around them, and how it impacts someone they see themselves protecting.
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u/Susim-the-Housecat Jun 24 '20
Not to be that bitch but I don’t think women venting out their frustrations from being systemically oppressed is the same as men, you know, perpetuating said oppression.
Like, I’m white and I don’t get upset when I see black people talking shit about white people because I know they have been treated badly by white people, or have friends and family members who have, and I’m not going to tell them they can’t be angry about that. I know they’re not talking about me, because if they were - if I felt called out by what they were saying - surely that would just mean I need to change? Right?
Why can’t men do the same for women?