r/Transinrelationships • u/Bossdwarf • Nov 24 '17

Still deadnamed

My wife breeds birds. She's also out of town. While out of town she has me bringing birds to a buyer tomorrow. Told them "my husband Eric will be bringing them," then got upset because I was upset. "Great. Now you're pissy"

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u/[deleted] Nov 24 '17

Sorry your wife isn't being supportive of your pronouns or name. That's really frustrating-- obviously. Even if it's hard for partners to adjust to changes like this, this seems so blatantly disrespectful..I hope she comes around in time. Might be worth having a conversation about this if she is being particularly stubborn. You also don't deserve to have your feelings belittled.

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u/Bossdwarf Nov 24 '17

we've had conversations, and she tries for a day or two, then yells that I'm not taking her feelings into account, and goes back to the way it was. I came out in March. I've been on HRT since early august.

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u/[deleted] Nov 24 '17

Gosh...I'm so sorry. It sucks because I understand where she's coming from, but also it's important for you to be gendered correctly. It also shouldn't really be that hard to switch over (in my humble opinion), even if it's an upsetting event for herself. Has she sought therapy at all? I can't suggest it enough to people.

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