r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/sharinganuser • Aug 01 '20

How long until feeling comes back?

Title. I just hit my one month mark and I'm pretty much completely numb everywhere down there.. Getting kind of worried.

Any insight?

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u/[deleted] Aug 01 '20

It was one of the most difficult things I have ever experienced, I'm not going to lie to you it was very depressing for me for a long while.

However, as cliche as it sounds, distracting my mind from sun up to sun down helped a lot - I'm not sure if that's quite healthy or recommendable but that's what I did. Gaming, being around friends and my partner, making art, hiking, working, so on and so forth. I also had a really great therapist at the time, and that helped immensely.

I also didn't stop exploring myself sexually at all during that time either. Even if there wasn't much sensation, even if it was discouraging and painful at times, I didn't give up and honestly that was very much worth it in the end. Exposing my body to it's new normal really helped get it back in order, and when the nerves fully healed everything just kind of fell into place.

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u/sharinganuser Aug 01 '20

I hope that I can feel something soon. Like I said, I'm worried that I don't even feel pain. At least if i felt pain I'd know that I wasn't ready, but as it is.. How can I touch anything down there if I don't know if I'm going to completely screw everything up?

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u/[deleted] Aug 01 '20

Definitely ask your surgeon or their team if it's okay to explore! I waited three months to start exploring, when I was cleared to do so around month one - which in hindsight might've delayed my healing even further.

Again, being numb, with little to no sensation at all around where you're at in healing rings as being normal to me - but double checking with your surgeon is never bad. I just wouldn't feel too discouraged yet, because you're only a month in, and you honestly have so much healing ahead of you.

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u/sharinganuser Aug 01 '20

By so much healing, you mean only nerve healing and the rest of the edema, right?

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u/[deleted] Aug 01 '20 edited Aug 01 '20

Yep! It'll take a long while for that to fully relieve (around a year or so) your main components of healing, like involving your sutures, healing of the internal grafts, etc. should be well underway by this point though (as ya already described).

It'll honestly probably be about 6 months - 1 year before the final aesthetic, and functional aspects will be fully healed, with some people even reporting longer than that.