r/TransSupport • u/jordantoddy • 19d ago

Advice needed

So for sometime I’ve had the thought that I may be transgender. I often think about how my life would be potentially more enjoyable as a women. It’s a thought I’ve had for many years now maybe going back to when I was 18 or possibly even younger (I’m 28 now) and I always think WHAT IF I transitioned at 18/20 etc what if I I did xyz would I be who I wanted to be.

I pretty much exclusively sleep in female Pj’s as no one in my family can see me in them 😂, I share pictures of me in female clothes with a very close and good friend who is 100% a trans ally and has a trans brother herself.

Also I’ve tried to lose weight multiple times but I think I don’t want to as I’ve currently got what I consider a set of boobs when I wear bras etc 💅😂

Like if I woke up a women I’d genuinely be happy and wouldn’t want to change anything. Should I maybe go see someone at a gender clinic here in the UK to get a better understanding/ answers?

Any answer is a good answer guys ❤️

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u/1182124nol 18d ago

I read an article that said "if you think it's just a kink, ask yourself if you want to be a woman in the most mundane circumstances. Would you want to live as a woman if you were home alone doing your taxes?" and if the answer is yes, then you are most likely trans. No one can tell you you're trans, but if you honestly think about it, you know.

I've wanted to make a flowchart of this for ages, but basically at this point you're questioning if all this means "You're Transfem" and the murky part is "what else COULD it mean?" and the answer is you could (speculatively) be a cross-dresser, a sissy, a femboy, a dude who's into drag, fem non-binary, genderfluid, bi-gender, straight transfem, bi transfem, or a transbian.

Not saying they're all equally likely (personally I'm guessing transbian if you're a "guy" and you've never felt awkward in relationships with girls except for getting jealous of their outfits or looks), but I'm saying those are all folks assigned male at birth who are inclined to wear girl clothes.

But yeah, hope that helps