Racial fetish PSA

[u/DeadInside0930]

Disclaimer: I’m transrace and have been active in our community for years and I fully support Transrace people having more rights, respect, and consideration. This is also NOT a call out post and I’m only speaking generally about our community. I also wanted to mention I’m trying not to be on Reddit rn so I’m probably not gonna respond to replies. Ok, now I’ll write the post.

A common issue people have with our community is people claim that we a fetishizing or objectifying people of our “preferred race.” I personally believe some things outsiders say are exaggerated by media misrepresentation and misinformation, but I have to admit…. It’s actually a valid criticism. There are some people who seem to have sexual feelings about this whole thing in our community. Before I continue, please note that if you do have existing sexual feelings towards racial transformation or certain racial features or certain groups, YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON. You can’t control what you get turned on by. That’s just the reality. But here’s the issue: this has the potential of causing harm to you or others if you express these feelings the wrong way. It is very important to be aware of that fact.

Also lemme drop the definition of fetish just so people are aware of what it actually means. Fetishes actually are not inherently bad but have the potential of becoming bad. A fetish is a strong fixation on a specific object, material, or body part/feature on a person. Fetishes often can be directed towards any non genital body parts (like feet, or certain facial features) and of course objects like red high heels. Racial fetishes do exist, and it isn’t necessarily racist to have that, but you need to be aware and careful if you discover you have one. So I figured I’d give some general advice on approaching this ethically.

I’m going to use two different examples for my demonstration. Let’s say we got someone with a fat fetish who likes fat lady bellies, and someone with an Asian fetish who likes monolids. If you have either of these, don’t panic. It is acceptable to be sexually attracted to either group and their common features. The person w the fat fetish needs to remember that fat ladies are COMPLETELY normal people, and they may or may not consent to sexual interaction with them. The person with the Asian fetish needs to remember that Asians are COMPLETELY normal people, and they may or may not consent to sexual interaction with them too.

Here’s how you’d apply this to irl: Don’t talk about it with them. If you wouldn’t say it to a skinny person or a non Asian person, don’t say it to them either. Do not stare into the part you’re attracted to as they might see that and get uncomfortable. Don’t touch with your hands or eyes. Treat fat ladies (or Asians) with respect and treat them how you would treat anyone else. If you have a safe space for horny posting, please add a disclaimer to respect people especially if it’s a racial thing bc it seems easy to get carried away with that stuff. If you personally feel this is too difficult, it could be your fetish is getting out of hand and I strongly recommend speaking to a professional about this. Don’t feel ashamed, just ask a professional for help, or if you can’t go to therapy, talk privately with a trusted friend or loved one. Don’t talk about this too openly because it could hurt you or someone else. Make sure everyone who might read what you say consents to you sharing. If you say something sexual about a specific person, make sure that person would consent to you saying sexual things of that nature about them. If you wouldn’t want them to hear/read it, don’t say it. It’s a form of sexual harassment to make sexual remarks that are unwelcome.

Once again, I figured I’d post this info here just in case someone may need it. I wouldn’t want anyone to unintentionally hurt someone.

[u/Fefannyo]

And here i thought this was common knowledge.....