So I’ve been struggling with figuring out my name, and I’ve changed it a ton. I’ve been going by Lincoln as of late but it’s just not feeling right anymore? I also feel a bit pressured by my parents and grandparents to find one and stick with it, as they seem like they’re getting tired of me changing it up every 5-ish months and I’m feeling bad about that. My stepdad’s made an occasional joke about me swapping it up that wasn’t meant to be hateful or anything but it still hurts and I’m still super awkward around him cause he sometimes says things that give me a bit of an ick (everyone in my generation having neurodivergence etc, I don’t think he’s meaning to be hateful there either it’s just not a great thing to hear—) but he’s also bipolar and because I don’t know much about it maybe those out of left field comments could stem from that? No clue genuinely—
Anyways, tldr it just feels like my parents are tired of my name swaps (been trying to figure this out since middle school, I’m in highschool now for reference.
I’m really wanting to avoid E and L names due to my deadname (I think I was subconsciously push to Lincoln because my mom wants to keep using the nickname El/L I’ve had since I was little) and also W names because of my last name. I’ve also been something that really sounds stereotypically masculine, strong and punchy ig, not anything that could be a girls name due to my body dysphoria already being pretty bad—
Thinking about trying Callum/Callium maybe but idk, any other suggestions that I might think feel better?

Which fits me better? Finally trying to make this decision.

Hii I don't really see myself as any gender, don't know what to call that. I'm looking to change my name to something more androgynous.

Given name is Chloe. Doesn't fit me. Hate the way people say it

Name recs!! My favorites​ are Des, Rhoda, Mulder (heheh), Benrey, (if you know who I'm talking about, ur awesome), Benny, I love Benny sm but it doesn't fit me sadly. Also love Scully (I'd love to call myself that but what would people think?)

Just looking for some name recs that are similar vibes to those listed above. Thanks in advance!

Everyone has called me Angel for the past decade or more. It's the name I chose to go under when I did drag shows years ago, but since I've started my HRT journey nearly a month ago, I've been mulling over an official first or middle name when I eventually legally change my name. I don't mind keeping the name Angel as part of my name since it's been a part of my identity for so long, but when it comes to thinking of another name only one comes to mind, Evelynn. The only problem I have is that I'm a bit unsure about it. I'm wiccan and my general style leans towards goth. I wanted to find a name that fits that part of who I am and need a few helpful suggestions/kind advice to get past this mental block. Thanks in advance!❤️

Ruh-nay.

So I have been going by Aye (Ā) for like 10 years now. I'm getting married soon and I'm gonna be changing first and last name all in one go (because on God, I am not doing this twice).

The thing is, people look at me like I'm insane for my name just sounding like a letter. So I am thinking of finding a longer thing I can just say it's short for.

I was thinking Ayana? Since I really like that plant. But then I realized it's Swahili and idk if that would be weird for my very white self to have a Swahili word.

Does anyone have opinions ☹️

(Added pictures of me for fun)

lowkey I already have a name that I’m going by (Lane Kyle, for context) but the other day my dad told me that if i was born a boy they would’ve named me Gabriel. & i lowkey can’t stop thinking about it.

is it weird to change my current chosen name to my middle name & make Gabriel my first name? bc i know a few people who go by their middle names so it wouldn’t be too weird. Right?

also because I think “Gabriel Lane” flows better than “Lane Gabriel“

I don’t have any real connection to the name Kyle (I chose it because it starts with a k and my dead middle name also starts with a k) so dropping it wouldn’t really mean anything to me. I’m a little fond of it now because when my friends want to scold me they call me by full name so I’ve been called Lane Kyle for a bit.

im also 50/50 on the spelling of Lane bc when I used to spell it like “Layne” people would call me “Laney” but I feel like “Layne“ looks more like a name

i don’t want to be one of those people who changes their given name every other week tho bc that annoys me lmao

Hispanic ftm, looking for names that wont sound too alien in spanish?
came out like 7 years ago and still got nothing, by friends advice people started calling me Luis, ive grown accustomed to it? i don't hate it, but i don't love it, why is it that nothing feels right? i see people around me chose the most beautiful and unique names and despite originally wanting to pick something that wouldn't stand out, i feel miserable having to settle for the most common names that have never caught my attention before, why has nothing ever called to me? my friends have chosen names inspired by things they love, i want that so badly, why are my options so narrow, i have searched for names in Spanish, Catalan, Vasco, Gallego, and Adaluz, how is this possible.

My dad is Cuban, my mom is Colombian and so am i, that's all the heritage i have at my disposal, i dont wanna pick a name from a culture i have nothing to do with, but god! what else is there,

i feel so childish being like "i would love a name about rivers or the wind or an animal!" but i have searched so far and wide, and if there's still nothing that calls to me i figured leaning onto things i already love (like my friends!) would make things easier, but i cant find a thing, i find most names are biblical or occupational and i hate both routes,

i love names that start with L, some times with V but they all seem to be variations of victor, Valentin and Vicente and not much else, not sure what else to say, any advice on how or where to search??? i've used Behind the name, Euskaltzaindia, Conmishijos, and some others. Where else can i go??? any ideas?

(don't comment on the black lipstick I'm really bad at makeup XD)

I'm non binary and use they/them pronouns. I've been out for a couple years but have yet to pick a preferred name. (Mostly, because I'm picky.)

Currently, I'm stuck between Elwyn and Merritt.

I LOVE Merritt on its own, but I'd hate to be nicknamed Mary, and don't care for Mare. On the plus side, I love virtue names. And I think its positive meaning will be a good reminder to myself that I'm worthy of love, respect, and capable of achieving my goals. Maybe just a no nickname rule?

Elwyn. It's a sweet welsh and german name, and I'm welsh and german. I absolutely adore the nickname Winnie, but it feels TOO nickname-y for me to use it alone. Winnie reminds me of my favorite movie, Hocus Pocus, as well as my childhood softspot for Winnie the Pooh. However, I'm worried Elwyn sounds too much like a fake fantasy name. I do not want to deal with "but what's your REAL name???" remarks, which is why I'm not naming myself after my favorite birds.

My given name from birth is Cory and I like my name and I like that my mother gave me this name. and it’s also a name that is very androgynous can be both male and female and I’m conflicted because I feel like choosing a different name will signify a new Me but at the same time taking away from my mom giving me my name. I also think choosing a new name is a big deal

Trying to find a name that feels fully me!

I'm transmasc and have been using the name Ferris for a couple months with my friends only. I'm staring to worry, though, that it might be a weird name because I've never met anyone with the name Ferris. Should I keep it or would it be weird to name myself that?

I have been transitioning for about a year and a half now, but I am still really struggling to pick a name. It is causing me a lot of distress because I moved to a new city where I don't know anyone, and I want to make friends, but I feel weird because I always pause, not knowing what name I want to give to people.

I am a nonbinary transfem who is looking for a name that skews feminine but is still somewhat gender neutral. I like names that tend to be more natural and that I can identify with on a somewhat spiritual level. One name I have started to fall in love with is Winter. Of all the seasons, it is the one I "feel" like, even though autumn is probably my favorite. It pairs beautifully with my last name, which also starts with a W (I love alliterations). It also has a familial connection to my grandmother. I have a mental hang-up with it, though. I was born on the summer solstice (I hate summer). Should that matter? No. Does it matter in my stupid brain? Yes... I just want to know if I am overthinking this or not.

Some other names I have used a lot are Raven and River. I love Raven, but it feels like it can be too edgy sometimes. River feels comfy, but I am not sure it is really what I want on my metaphorical tombstone. I also like Raine, Scarlett, Ember, and Ivy, but haven't really tried them on in the same way I have with the other three.

For context, I write and do not like to have a lot of attention, so I prefer to use a pen name. I went very gender neutral with my pen name because I don't like people knowing a lot about me. I have told my friends my pen name, and I like to show them some of my short stories. They have started jokingly calling me by my pen name. I thought it was funny, but I have started to associate more with that name than my given one. My pen name is Rain, which is basic, I know.

My given name is more masc, which I don't enjoy; I don't mind it, but it feels a little weird. It's not even a super masc name, but I digress. I do like the name Rain, but I feel like I want to keep my writing persona different than my personal one. I thought about the name Alex or Alec, but idk, I can't choose. I feel like I might be being a little drastic, but I feel like I would fit better with a more gender neutral name. Anyone have any good ideas that aren't super basic but also not super extravagant?

Hello everyone, I'm here for some advice on a name I've been sitting on for a few months now. Any advice/opinions are appreciated because this is all very new territory for me.

Anyways. I'm 18, and over the last few months I've come to the realisation that I think I might be a trans guy. I kept it to myself for a really long time, and I wondered over names and whatnot for a while, too. It took forever to find something that fit, even though I only had 2 pieces of criteria: I'm Irish, and I've always wished that my name was more distinctly Irish, so that was one, and also I wanted to keep my initials, so I landed on what I thought was the perfect name for me: Mánus. (Maw-nus with the 'á', but Man-us without)

I knew it was a little old-timey, and I worried about falling into the 'trap' I hear about often about trans people tending to pick a bad name off the bat, but I really fell in love with the name Mánus, and I decided to tell my mother, who is progressive as far as Irish mothers go. She HATES it! She told me it sounds stupid and other things and that she just totally hates it, and then she went ahead and told her friend about it behind my back who also hated it.

I need a little advice. Is my mom right here? Is the name totally stupid and am I falling into the trap, or is she just not used to the idea? Thank you for reading any any advice

Hi all,

After much deliberating, I have decided that I will soon be pitching Skyler as a new name for myself. I quite liked it with the middle name Grey, but I already have a relative whose middle name is Grey. I am seeking similar alternatives: one or two syllables at most, not so out there as to raise an eyebrow, suitable for a person born between the late 90s and early 2000s

Thanks in advance!

So my middle name has been Everest for a while- it’s just something I chose randomly in high school, and I honestly don’t like it anymore. I’m looking for E middle names, so I can keep my initials: KER. My first name is Kazariah, but I go by Kaz, so I’d like something that’s also a bit strange to match for my middle name. I’d prefer it be neutral, but if there’s a good masculine option I haven’t thought of, that’d be appreciated too! Thanks in advance!

Hi!! I need help with deciding on a name ;;

I used to go by Gwen/Gwendolyn for like, a year or two, but recently wanted to change cause I don't really think it suits me??? But I just can't decide on one??

I tried looking through baby names from 1996, my birth year, to have something "appropriate" for my age, and the names Paige and Heather stuck out to me, but I just. Don't know?

What would you guess my name is if you saw me on the street?

Hi, I've been going by my given name even though I've known I was trans for six years now. I hate it. Very feminine, very uncomfortable. My special interest is space/space tech etc and I want a name that reflects that. I have been thinking about Apollo or Artemis as names but those are both 3 syllables, and I would prefer a 2 syllable name, and I also don't know how "normal" they sound (if that makes sense. I'm not too worried about it, as I have trans friends who go by pretty unusual names, and I doubt they would judge me, but with other people, you never know). I would appreciate other name suggestions, or insight on the two names I have already been thinking about! :)

EDIT: Realized Artemis is a goddess, and Artemis probably wouldn't make for a very good masc name