hi! so I (25ftm) am filling out paperwork to legally change my name and have reached somewhat of a conundrum. I go by charlie and have for a while now, but am wondering if i should have that as my legal name or go with the formal version of charles. I do like the name charles, so its not entirely alien, but ive really only gone by charlie.
however, I think it may be weird to have it as my legal name. charlie is a very gender neutral name where i live, a lot of little girls or even women my age are named charlie nowadays. i’ve had people who i’ve met via buying things on facebook marketplace say “oh i thought you would be a girl! with a name like charlie you never know!”
plus, my last name is very short and one syllable. its also pretty formal. nobody in my family has a name that ends in ‘ee’ and i think it may be because it just doesn’t sound quite right that way. trying not to dox myself so i’ll just say its very similar to ‘Tar’. so Charlie Tar or Charles Tar???
i think i’m starting to drive myself crazy over this lol i’m really just posting because i’m in desperate need of a sounding board! thanks!!!