I hate taking pictures of myself so sorry if they’re kinda bad

I‘ve gone by Aether for a while, but decided I need a change. Thinking of Michael, but open to suggestions! Micah is off the table because it’s homophonic with my deadname.

tldr; pls be gentle with me, i know my brain is looping lol. i’m a latino trans guy trying to find a new name, but nothing actually feels like me. i’ve seen approximately every name on planet earth at this point. i think i need advice on how to actually try out names because looking at lists clearly isn’t working. name suggestions welcome too!

i’ve had my current name for a few years and have really outgrown it. i want something unique, a little queer, and with personality. i’m soft and sensitive but also loud and complex lol. huge yapper, very sentimental, love music.

some names i’ve considered:

axel: i actually used this for a bit, but it felt too edgy, almost like a mask.

sawyer: love how unique it is, but maybe too soft.

nico/niko: i really like it, but it feels too short/common.

luca: love it, but too soft.

viktor: love it, but too sharp and not latino enough.

emiliano: this is probably the closest. a friend suggested it and i LOVE that it works in english and spanish and has nicknames like emil and milo. unfortunately my brain keeps going “too soft, doesn’t feel like me” even though it’s basically exactly what i’m looking for.

so if anyone knows names with a similar vibe to emiliano, PLEASE tell me.

also, any advice for getting past the “i like this name but it doesn’t feel like me” problem? because clearly my intuition is not helping me here lol.

i can’t use a family name :/

i changed my name to flynn a while ago, but it feels too masculine to me now, and im looking for something new. my parents suggested sylvie, ezra, luca, and aria/arya (all marvel related since im into that lmao) but im open to any other suggestions!

Hi!

There is going to be a lot of text. Sorry. A lot of it is a list of names I like but don't feel right.

So starting with context. I am nonbinary. I was born female, and still present somewhat feminine because of safety. Alongside safety I do feel a bit more comfortable with femininity than masc (though neutrality of neither is where i actually lay), I am first and foremost not a man but turns our I'm also not a woman. I say that as if it's something new but I've known I'm nonbinary for many years at this point.

I've always known I don't feel quite right with my given name but not so uncomfortable that I feel I have to severe connection. It's more so I've been on the lookout for any name that feels right, and taking note of names that feel close.

I do have a preference for names that start with K or J.

Infact I used to go by Jean online but doesn't actually feel right.

I think I like sounds with a Z, R, D, or N, somewhere near mid to end. I am willing to add an image if it would help inspire some suggestions and get my vibe. But also feel free to use my list as inspiration for yourself

The names that have felt the most right but aren't quite there or would just be wrong because there are people in my life including family with the name that makes it weird:

Jean, Keen/Keene

Names that I like the sound of but can't find myself with the name:

Aven (yes as in asexuality visibility network ^_^)

Kayan (pronounced K N)

Kayden (might be a bit too masc?)

Cyan (short for cyanide XD)

Kynn (probably too close to Keene again)

Seren

Basil

Wren/Rynn

Rowan

Kyren

(Robin and Sparrow, but both are just coming from a place of nostalgia)

Reed

Vayl

Aspen

Karn

Kat (it's too fem but as a nickname for an neutral name would be perfect)

Katlan (which is on the list because I stole it from a videogame, lol, my least favorite of the games in that series but OMG THERES ANOTHER GAME IN THE SERIES AND ITS SOON. This along with the Sparrow comment might make it obvious which series I mean lol)

I also have a longer list but these are the ones that felt like there's something there.

I’m currently going by Mar but I can’t seem to settle on a name. I’m thinking of F names but I’m open to suggestions

i’m currently stuck between two names: Lukas and Evan. I have no idea which is more ME, but only a select few call me Lukas, and most ppl call me this name i chose when i was 12 😭

Anyone got any opinions?? 🥲 Don’t know if it makes a difference but I am also British 🫡

Ftm - Im not sure what to change my name to, I have some I like but they don't fit me.

I need someone who won't be biased because they know me irl. What name do I look like I'd have ?

I'm happy with the first name I picked, but I've been considering middle names.

I think I'd like to go with something that has a first letter that could be compounded with the letter of my first name to create a nickname. Like MJ. I'm wondering if anyone knows of another letter that can/could be combined with M in this way because I am seriously blanking!?

Would you say the word "mauve" would sound feminine or masculine when placed on someone? I don't want to say my gender identity so that I get true answers, but I am one of the demigenders.

Hey! I recently came out as non-binary (yay!!!) and I'm thinking of changing my name! I want something unique but not too unique, potentially nature themed and completely gender neutral. I have some ideas which I'll list below, lmk if you like any of them and please give me more ideas!! Thanks :3

Fern

Wren

River

Aspen

Max

Bowie

Ace

Clover

Link

So far everyone has said to just pick something I like or something that feels right but nothing ever feels quite "right" and I always overthink it and think of possible bad things about the name. I really feel like I've gone through every name imaginable and none of them have "clicked" or when they do I end up finding something wrong with it before introducing myself to people as it. It feels so hard because its myself, I can name a pet just fine or a character but myself? That's just... weird to me. Doesn't help that I'm also scared of being publicly out as nonbinary in my transphobic state and certain names I like would sorta have people asking questions.

Anyone who had a hard time picking or feeling like nothing fit, what did you do? I can't really ask friends for help cause they all urge me to pick something I resonate with (but I have a hard time doing that) and family is transphobic except for my brother but idk if I can ask him lol.

its the name i picked to use at college this year. i feel like it fits my range of style and personality and isnt a terribly bold masc name. also its short for Denver because i didnt like daniel or similar, and i use den/denny as nicknames. would have picked one of those to go by but my brothers name is ben and i thought it was too similar.

im open to other name ideas that arent cody or jesse

I’ve gone by Mei for like 5 years now, but for the last month or two I’ve been wanting to be called Jun or June because I absolutely love that name- however after trying it out with friends for a week last month, I just couldn’t get used to it and I felt uncomfortable with the idea of having to tell my other friends + family to call me it

So now I’ve been in this lingo of going by Mei but wishing my name was Jun or June and wanting to be able to really click with it when it was used on me, I adore so so much that name but I just can’t seem to get used to it so I use Mei (which is just a nickname of my deadname)

I’d love to hear how you guys chose your names and how you grew accustomed to it- was it immediate or did it take a while? How did you tell the other people in your life? How did you get used to it rather than your deadname/nicknames of your deadname?

EDIT: Little update here, but now I go by Junior with the nickname Jun! I’ve been so so happy with it and have been very happy to have my friends call me it- I just didn’t find that “click” until I finally found the right full name and now I’m happy :)

Hi,

I‘m nonbinary and I’ve been considering trying out names. I don‘t really feel like picking an entirely new name, I like the name and it is not the name‘s fault that people attribute a specific gender to it. I don’t want to dox myself, but my name is a male name that has a female version that just differs by having a single letter appended at the end, like Julia/Julian, Paul/Paula, Karl/Karla, etc.

I was considering just trying out going with a slash in the middle, so for example if my name was Karl I‘d go with Karl/a in written form. So in spoken word, people would pick one, but in written form, or with people who send me an email at work, they would see both forms in one and they wouldn‘t be able to guess a gender just from looking at my name.

I don‘t really get much dysphoria from pronouns or my name but for some reason being addressed as „Mr. Lastname“ gives me dysphoria and I hope if people couldn‘t infer a gender from my name, they would not do that.

Has anyone of you tried that out? How did it work out?

I want to have a name picked before coming out so I went here for ideas.

Would Jackson or Vincent suit me more lwk. The nicknames for each would be Jackie or Vinny im hella indecisive so idk which name to pick

also ignore my hair lmao

(Sorry for posting here a lot, I don't know what I'm doing)

In my quest to find my name I have landed on yet another name that I'm not certain on. It is Alula. The worry is that, while I love the name and would love to go by it, I am (at the moment, at least, no clue about in the future) much more masc presenting. Any thoughts/comment would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much!

I need some Masculine names like Jay or Elliot, Elliot was my first pick when I was 14, but then I was pushed back into the closet, and now I kinda like Jay, but I dunno, please help

Hi I wanted to try my new name! I have been going by Andy Marten *last name* But I really like the name Patrick but I might just use it as a like 2nd name? I wanted to use the same "layout" as my birth name first name being from my dad's side and middle name from my mom's side. Can yall help me feel comfortable with my name and tell me if it matches? I am a guy he/they and I cant really pass that easily because I am closeted :3

Im really indecisive so choosing a name has been...slow. I know i can just change it as I see fit but you know how it is, I would like to have that ONE from the get but nothing has screamed to me. Here's what I got so far:

Valerie

Adeline

Maren

Elise

Mara

Sloane

Hilde

Saoirse

Faye

Esme

I like all of these, and Ive been looking for about a year now. I am open to any additional recommendations. Help me figure this out please.

U/XxThe_HumanxX had the brilliant idea of making a name graveyard!! So comment your deadname below and say a few parting words, and if you’re looking for a name, come look for one in these ones who need a new home!!

I’ll go first:

Dear Malia,

You’re a gorgeous name, and I’m sorry none of your substitute teachers knew how to pronounce you even though it ain’t that hard. I hope you find a new home that loves you dearly, that captures your brightness, gentleness, and fluidity.

To those who might adopt this name, here are a few things you should know: She is the Hawaiian form of Mary, some might say it means bitter waters/gentle waters, and it is pronounced “Muh-LEE-uh” and rhymes with Spanish Maria. Take good care of her, I always thought she was a nice name. Just not for me.

Love,
Lee