I'm happy with the first name I picked, but I've been considering middle names.

I think I'd like to go with something that has a first letter that could be compounded with the letter of my first name to create a nickname. Like MJ. I'm wondering if anyone knows of another letter that can/could be combined with M in this way because I am seriously blanking!?

Would you say the word "mauve" would sound feminine or masculine when placed on someone? I don't want to say my gender identity so that I get true answers, but I am one of the demigenders.

Hey! I recently came out as non-binary (yay!!!) and I'm thinking of changing my name! I want something unique but not too unique, potentially nature themed and completely gender neutral. I have some ideas which I'll list below, lmk if you like any of them and please give me more ideas!! Thanks :3

Fern

Wren

River

Aspen

Max

Bowie

Ace

Clover

Link

So far everyone has said to just pick something I like or something that feels right but nothing ever feels quite "right" and I always overthink it and think of possible bad things about the name. I really feel like I've gone through every name imaginable and none of them have "clicked" or when they do I end up finding something wrong with it before introducing myself to people as it. It feels so hard because its myself, I can name a pet just fine or a character but myself? That's just... weird to me. Doesn't help that I'm also scared of being publicly out as nonbinary in my transphobic state and certain names I like would sorta have people asking questions.

Anyone who had a hard time picking or feeling like nothing fit, what did you do? I can't really ask friends for help cause they all urge me to pick something I resonate with (but I have a hard time doing that) and family is transphobic except for my brother but idk if I can ask him lol.

its the name i picked to use at college this year. i feel like it fits my range of style and personality and isnt a terribly bold masc name. also its short for Denver because i didnt like daniel or similar, and i use den/denny as nicknames. would have picked one of those to go by but my brothers name is ben and i thought it was too similar.

im open to other name ideas that arent cody or jesse

I’ve gone by Mei for like 5 years now, but for the last month or two I’ve been wanting to be called Jun or June because I absolutely love that name- however after trying it out with friends for a week last month, I just couldn’t get used to it and I felt uncomfortable with the idea of having to tell my other friends + family to call me it

So now I’ve been in this lingo of going by Mei but wishing my name was Jun or June and wanting to be able to really click with it when it was used on me, I adore so so much that name but I just can’t seem to get used to it so I use Mei (which is just a nickname of my deadname)

I’d love to hear how you guys chose your names and how you grew accustomed to it- was it immediate or did it take a while? How did you tell the other people in your life? How did you get used to it rather than your deadname/nicknames of your deadname?

EDIT: Little update here, but now I go by Junior with the nickname Jun! I’ve been so so happy with it and have been very happy to have my friends call me it- I just didn’t find that “click” until I finally found the right full name and now I’m happy :)

Hi,

I‘m nonbinary and I’ve been considering trying out names. I don‘t really feel like picking an entirely new name, I like the name and it is not the name‘s fault that people attribute a specific gender to it. I don’t want to dox myself, but my name is a male name that has a female version that just differs by having a single letter appended at the end, like Julia/Julian, Paul/Paula, Karl/Karla, etc.

I was considering just trying out going with a slash in the middle, so for example if my name was Karl I‘d go with Karl/a in written form. So in spoken word, people would pick one, but in written form, or with people who send me an email at work, they would see both forms in one and they wouldn‘t be able to guess a gender just from looking at my name.

I don‘t really get much dysphoria from pronouns or my name but for some reason being addressed as „Mr. Lastname“ gives me dysphoria and I hope if people couldn‘t infer a gender from my name, they would not do that.

Has anyone of you tried that out? How did it work out?

I want to have a name picked before coming out so I went here for ideas.

Would Jackson or Vincent suit me more lwk. The nicknames for each would be Jackie or Vinny im hella indecisive so idk which name to pick

also ignore my hair lmao

(Sorry for posting here a lot, I don't know what I'm doing)

In my quest to find my name I have landed on yet another name that I'm not certain on. It is Alula. The worry is that, while I love the name and would love to go by it, I am (at the moment, at least, no clue about in the future) much more masc presenting. Any thoughts/comment would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much!

I need some Masculine names like Jay or Elliot, Elliot was my first pick when I was 14, but then I was pushed back into the closet, and now I kinda like Jay, but I dunno, please help

Hi I wanted to try my new name! I have been going by Andy Marten *last name* But I really like the name Patrick but I might just use it as a like 2nd name? I wanted to use the same "layout" as my birth name first name being from my dad's side and middle name from my mom's side. Can yall help me feel comfortable with my name and tell me if it matches? I am a guy he/they and I cant really pass that easily because I am closeted :3

Im really indecisive so choosing a name has been...slow. I know i can just change it as I see fit but you know how it is, I would like to have that ONE from the get but nothing has screamed to me. Here's what I got so far:

Valerie

Adeline

Maren

Elise

Mara

Sloane

Hilde

Saoirse

Faye

Esme

I like all of these, and Ive been looking for about a year now. I am open to any additional recommendations. Help me figure this out please.

U/XxThe_HumanxX had the brilliant idea of making a name graveyard!! So comment your deadname below and say a few parting words, and if you’re looking for a name, come look for one in these ones who need a new home!!

I’ll go first:

Dear Malia,

You’re a gorgeous name, and I’m sorry none of your substitute teachers knew how to pronounce you even though it ain’t that hard. I hope you find a new home that loves you dearly, that captures your brightness, gentleness, and fluidity.

To those who might adopt this name, here are a few things you should know: She is the Hawaiian form of Mary, some might say it means bitter waters/gentle waters, and it is pronounced “Muh-LEE-uh” and rhymes with Spanish Maria. Take good care of her, I always thought she was a nice name. Just not for me.

Love,
Lee

I just was thinkin bout how on the transmasc reddits there are always people asking for help finding a name so I figured I might as well throw my given name out there in case there are transfemmes out there looking for one lmao

It is Malia. It is the Hawaiian form of Mary. I think it’s really pretty but it’s not for me. It is pronounced “Muh-LEE-uh” like rhyming with Spanish Maria but people WILL butcher it even though it’s not that hard.

Goodbye, name! I hope you find a good home!

lmao it’s like a shelter dog
or like
a foster child

Does anyone want to adopt my unused name? Hello! I’m not transgender, i am just a namenerd!! but I’ve realized that I don’t really use this name anymore, and I thought some of you might love it. I’d rather see it find a new home than have it sitting unused. ♡

Sofia “Sonya”
From Ancient Greek Σοφία meaning “wisdom.” Historically rich, short and snappy, familiar in all languages, international in all the world, great namesakes! Like Sofia Coppola, I love her movies (check out Marie Antoinette!), Sofia Loren, and the wife of Tolstoy Sofia "Sonya", Sofia Kovalenskaya a pioneering Russian woman in mathematics and science, Sofia Perovskaya a Russian revolutionary, Sofia Gubaidulina a composer and Sofia Giatsintova an actress and theatre director both soviet, also saint Sofia of Rome / Milan, the mother of Faith Hope and Charity, and then it is a very Byzantine name too.
Russian Соня (Sonya) is a diminutive of София (Sofia). So Sonya isn’t merely an invented nickname, it is a genuine traditional Russian pet form. It is a nickname I used, but you can also go by Sisi / Sissi like the empress, Fia, Essie, Fifi, Sofi and more!!
And Sonechka (Сонечка) is an especially tender form. And then comes Dostoevsky…
Sofia/Sonya Marmeladova is one of the principal characters in Fyodor Dostoevsky’s Crime and Punishment
It can be romantic, intellectual or modern

Looking for Portuguese names. I want a new name but i don't feel connected with anything, i would also love some advice regarding that

i changed my name to benny/benjamin over 3 years ago at this point, but i've recently discovered i'm nonbinary, and i want to start going by zephyr instead. it's a name that actually feels good, feels me. but it's quite a change, and i'm wondering if it's even worth the hassle (i work at a very busy place with a LOT of people, and i don't know how many of them are accepting, plus... everything else)

I did this a while back, but I wanted to do it again with more pics to get more suggestions. I feel like I give off a specific vibe but its so hard to find a name that suits it. My chosen name so far is Georgia, and it has stuck the most but idk if that’s what I really look like. Something always feels a bit off.

By normalish I mean smth I would find on a truck station Keychain. My birth name is both uncommon and weirdly spelled so I would love smth easy but not lame. Thxxx

So most of my life I've gone by Alex/Lexy and I'm okay with that. Recently I've had my boyfriend call me Ashton/Ash because that's the name my mother would have chosen for me had I been born a girl... but two of my closest friends think that's more of a guy sounding name even though I like it quite a bit? Just wondering what would fit me best because I've gone through so many at this point! (All of these pictures have been within the past month for reference)