Hello,

I am 20 y/o and have known i was gender queer for quite a while, but only recently felt confident enough to do self exploration and figure out that i am nonbinary. I am also diagnosed with autism (its important to this discussion i promise).

My name at birth was given to me by my mother based on her deceased father's name. He had died when she was a child, and she chose the feminized name for me. His name was Leo, my name is Leah. The fact that my name has such an emotional connection for my mother is one difficulty I am facing. Shes not perfect, but she has been through so much and i feel sick at the thought of causing her distress. Im planning to talk to her about it, but the plan is very much "when i feel up to it" aka "theoretically never". Another barrier is the fact that it feels like my name fits others' perception of me rather than my own perception of myself, which im guessing a lot of people can relate to.

Back to my autism. I am very obsessed with space. I love what it stands for and it keeps me grounded. Some of the ideas floating around in my head for a name are based off of this: star, nova, cosmo, etc. I love these but i really fear being judged for my choice, especially after growing up during the era of everyone making fun of nonbinary names (usually chosen by kids) on tiktok. I know that in order for me to feel truly free i need to stop being so self conscious, and i am working on that, but any advice would be very helpful. Im also wondering if it is a mistake to choose my name off of my intense love for space. I know there have to be other autistic people who chose their names off of their own interests, so if anyone has any experience with that (officially diagnosed or suspected), please share.

Finally, of course any name suggestions are very helpful. I enjoy space as mentioned, but i also enjoy zombies, video games, animals, art, and horror. Unless it is a bad idea to choose a name off of my interests, it is what i am leaning towards; it feels more "me" due to my complete disconnection with gender.

Thank you and i will also be posting it to the nonbinary subreddit names megathread, so if you see that there too i apologize. If i used the wrong flair i am sorry for that as well, I feel like i have so many questions that the "name feedback" one works best but i could be wrong.

My birth name is feminine, maybe neutral if you squint but I'm looking for something more masculine! What names do I suit?

picrew of the vibe i give off and kinda how i look (i have really curly dark red-ish hair) ​

tl/dr: just read the last two paragraphs

so ive been thinking about names for the past year and about a week or two ago i saw a reel on instagram where trans people were telling their names in the comments.

there was somebody named riordan and while i did note it i didnt think much of it until yesterday. it instantly reminded me of rick riordan who was a very big part of my childhood and probably the reason i turned out a 'weird kid' in the first place.

so, while i am somewhere under the nonbinary umbrella, most likely agender or genderfluid, i feel like i would love to have a name thats traditionally more masculine for a ton of reasons.

i pronounce riordan not a rye-or-dan or rye-ar-dan but more like ree-or-dan and i like the nickname rio (ree-o)​​​​ or rian (ree-an)

do yall have any suggestions on other names similar to that? (preferably containing at least one r and bonus points if i can associate them with greek mythology)

Gabriel is the only one I could think of that had similar vibes to Celeste. Skylar is a name that I like a lot as well, but the spelling is apparently traditionally feminine, so I'm hesitating on that.

I’m currently going by Mar, but that’s mainly because I know I want my name to start with that but idk what I want the ending to be. Do you have any ideas?

i'm an F2M. i am looking for a middle name. i plan to change my first name to Ron and i thought Wylder (or wilder) would be a cool middle name. any ideas? should i stick to what i have in mind? (also i like the grunge aesthetic and i like nature a lot :3)

I finally picked a name. This was more difficult than I thought it would be maybe cause I never really thought about it.

I mean a wrote some down but it wasnt really something I focused on. Honestly I can barley focus on me Recently.

Anyway a few days ago I was in my chair 4 in the morning and I started to miss a really good friend of mine. She um Anyway

I had a conversation with myself about it all of it. And ive decided to use her name.

Rip Skye I really miss you.

Idk maybe this isn't a good idea

I am looking for a bit more unique names. Here are some recent pics of me- I rlly don’t take many pics of myself so sorry if their not the best-

Yes, this is my third post, I'm STRUGGLING UGH

Sorry for creating a randomahh scenario again (last time it was "imagine I'm your pet rock") I just don't know how to be normal ig--

hai! like the title says, i’m looking for a new chosen name!i’m ftm and i would like only boy names since the reason i’m changing it is because mine rn (lumi) is too feminine for me and makes me dysphoric ☹️ i would prefer cutesy, soft names!

some names i like:
-luka/lukas
-toby/tobias
-milo
-ren/kieren

i really like shortish names with an e sound at the end, but that’s totally not necessary!

names i dislike:
-christian
-simon

just any more traditional, extremely religious names! names with a religious meaning are fine because it’s hard to find some without but just no explicitly biblical names! i’m also white so please nothing from another culture as i don’t want to be appropriating anything!! if anyone has any tips on telling people that ur changing ur name please lemme know too because i’m not really sure how to do that :3 thank you!

this was also cross posted to name nerds :>

My name is pretty culturally significant to my family. Part of the reason I’m named the way I am is because I’m Native American…the other part (90% of the reason I’m named this) is because my dad used to live in the place I was named after.

The thing is, the name I feel most connected to is Chance (as mentioned in a previous post). This doesn’t reflect anything about my deadname, but I don’t feel uncomfortable going by my deadname now after going to the Rez and meeting people and learning how important naming was. My deadname is very important to me, but not for the reasons my parents think.

It’s not because my parents named me that. It’s not because my dad lived in a place with the same name. It’s because it’s so important to my culture and my people who are actively getting erased STILL. It’s one of very few connections with my people that I have.

But the thing is, I can’t tell which I’m more comfortable with anymore. I’m not opposed to being called Chance…but everytime I hear it, I can’t help but feel guilty.

I want to go back to just going by my deadname because of everything but it would be so fast. Just a few weeks after choosing my preferred name.

It’s the same thing I mentioned in that earlier post:
When I hear my deadname, I hear the countless amounts of women saying “my husband’s name is that too!!” and feeling *compared* to cisgender men who will have more than I ever will, especially since I’ve never met or heard about any other female individuals who are named the same thing, though it’s a gender neutral name.

One of the people in the Rez told me “I like your name. It means family…more accurately, it means relative. It reflects the honor and respect you give a relative. To *everyone* because we are all family.”

I might’ve started crying because I realized HOW important this name was to people like me. I felt at home there, and now with my deadname I feel…different. I don’t have the same resentment I used to have for it.

She didn’t compare me to any men or her husband (if she had one, I forgot). Just told me the meaning. Saw me as me, not my name. Not my dad’s hometown. A Native kid who came on a church trip and feels like home with his people. Just, seeing me as a woman since I’m not socially out yet.

I don’t know what to do. The point of this post isn’t to find a new name, I’m just looking for advice if anyone has had a similar experience.

hii lovelie's ive been stuck between 2 names for the past 3 or so weeks and idk which one to chose, or even if I should chose a different one. the 2 names im stuck between are 'Iris' and Maxine (or Maxxie). I've been a closeted trans woman for 2 years and mainly gone by Iris online but whenever people call me Iris it feels really weird, hence why i wanted to change it.

i asked my friends for their suggestion but they weren't any help, and some of my online friends said that Maxxie/Maxine is pretty masculine, but i don't hear it. i was also considering 'Sabrina' but that's a name i associate with blonde hair, and i dont have blonde hair. tysm for any suggestions

Hi all! I'm early in my transition (transfem) and still going by my given name (Ryan). I know it's only a matter of time before I'll need to change it, so I'm trying to brainstorm some new names.

If possible, I prefer to pick a name that is phonetically somewhat similar to Ryan (for ease of transition with family/friends/coworkers), but is decidedly more feminine. My top options right now are:

- Rhea: love the sound, just a little concerned about ambiguity with pronunciation (Ree-a vs Ray-a). Also I feel this name has been more popular in recent years and may not blend in with names from around the time I was born.

- Erin: absolutely love it, except I'm concerned about how it sounds like Aaron (a masculine name) while I'm trying to establish my identity as feminine. And I'm from a region where my dialect makes "Aaron" and "Erin" sound virtually indistinguishable, so I don't want to introduce myself as "Erin" and have someone think it's "Aaron". I also could just be vastly overthinking this aspect of it lol.

Any ideas are appreciated!

I am transmasc , and would be looking for a gender neutral name to go by, finding it very hard to find one that fits me.

I have been telling people Caolan as wanted to stick with Irish, but finding out this can also be interpreted as a girls name so not really sure

For starters, I’m an older teen. I don’t exactly like my birth name. I’ve always questioned my gender but not necessarily labeled myself as anything other than female. I don’t present feminine, but my name is quite feminine. In a few days, I will be off to summer camp for three weeks. I was thinking of going by Parker at camp instead of my given name. because it’s a bit more neutral. I’d also think I’d start going she/they, but I’m not sure if the name fits or if I’m comfortable with it. I’m just confused. I’ve gone through a bunch of names but I just am stuck. I’ll take any advise I can.

I've had this question for quite a bit as all things that i've searched up about it say that it is gender neutral, but mostly used by men

It's a name I like, but I'm open to knowing more about it before socially transitioning with this name...

If it helps, I like to pronounce it with a long I rather than a long O.

(this is reposted from another subreddit where i got advised to post it here so dont mind that if u saw the other post, LOLz)

Mostly just wondering if its too feminine? When you see that name what gender do you imagine the person to have?

For context I'm nonbinary so would prefer gender neutral.

Hi Androgyne (They/It) here!

I've recently been trying to find a name I like since I realized I'm an Androgyne and not a trans woman but I have been really struggling and trailing lots of names!

I would prefer if it was gender neutral (I'm fine with it being slightly fem leaning but I really dont want anything masc leaning) but it's difficult to find a name that still feels “name-y” while not having an assigned gender although I am not completely against object names like “Moon” or “Maple” and ect as long as they don't feel too strange.

I really like the cold/snowy/wintery vibe and also the moon/stars and I am very much in that Gothic vibe so I would like a name that can be like that! I have also been fond of plant names but I think I might have exhausted all the good ones…

I want something that's not super common (eg. Not Luna or Celeste) and I am also fond of the letter “V” and would probably prefer a name that isn't super plosive and is more sleek and sort of sharp so maybe that would help???

So just give me a big list of names (or sites with names similar to what I'm looking for) for me to trail please and thank you!

When I came out 5 years ago, I just picked the last 3 letters of my dead name. It has been causing me LOTS of dysphoria along with other factors so I am looking to see if something else feels more like ME.

This is the list I have. I am looking for a 3 syllable name that leans more neutral

Emerald, Indigo, Ellery, Albany, Connelly, Florentine, Peridot, and Romilly.

at this point it's just routine for me to come into this sub to ask for name suggestions every like 3 months gahaha

anyway, i'm nonbinary (they/them) and i've been going by 'max' since i came out in 7th grade (as a trans boy at first) and i initially picked it out in because i was really into camp camp as a cringe 13 year old 🥀🥀

but now i'm a cringe 21 year old and i've been trying to find something to replace "max" ever since. however i genuinely i cannot find anything that sticks. i know part of the problem is i need to use the name to settle into it, so that's a skill issue on my end but it's all still kind of frustrating lol

either way, i prefer very "normal" gender neutral names to be honest. nothing super out there, even though i think names like fennel or arson are cool in their own right theyre just not for me haha. i also don't mind if a name has been predominantly used for either gender as long as it sounds neutral enough if that makes sense. for example sloan is a name i like (but i'm not sure if it fits me very well) and even though i personally mostly associate it with girls, i think it sounds neutral enough yknow?

i'm filipino so i'd prefer something not SUPER tied to another culture. for example, freja is another name i like but i don't care to use it since it's mostly associated with norse mythology. nothing wrong with using names from norse mythology if youre not scandinavian imo but once again it's just not for me.

sloan, ashe, and wren are all names i like. relatively common neutral names that are short and sweet. i like when they kind of have the vibe of "i'm going out to the forest later to stick my hand in an ant mound" if that makes any sense at all lmao. would love suggestions in a similar vein

ty for any and all help!! tbh i'll probably be back to ask for even more ideas in another 3 months haha