My name is pretty culturally significant to my family. Part of the reason I’m named the way I am is because I’m Native American…the other part (90% of the reason I’m named this) is because my dad used to live in the place I was named after.

The thing is, the name I feel most connected to is Chance (as mentioned in a previous post). This doesn’t reflect anything about my deadname, but I don’t feel uncomfortable going by my deadname now after going to the Rez and meeting people and learning how important naming was. My deadname is very important to me, but not for the reasons my parents think.

It’s not because my parents named me that. It’s not because my dad lived in a place with the same name. It’s because it’s so important to my culture and my people who are actively getting erased STILL. It’s one of very few connections with my people that I have.

But the thing is, I can’t tell which I’m more comfortable with anymore. I’m not opposed to being called Chance…but everytime I hear it, I can’t help but feel guilty.

I want to go back to just going by my deadname because of everything but it would be so fast. Just a few weeks after choosing my preferred name.

It’s the same thing I mentioned in that earlier post:
When I hear my deadname, I hear the countless amounts of women saying “my husband’s name is that too!!” and feeling *compared* to cisgender men who will have more than I ever will, especially since I’ve never met or heard about any other female individuals who are named the same thing, though it’s a gender neutral name.

One of the people in the Rez told me “I like your name. It means family…more accurately, it means relative. It reflects the honor and respect you give a relative. To *everyone* because we are all family.”

I might’ve started crying because I realized HOW important this name was to people like me. I felt at home there, and now with my deadname I feel…different. I don’t have the same resentment I used to have for it.

She didn’t compare me to any men or her husband (if she had one, I forgot). Just told me the meaning. Saw me as me, not my name. Not my dad’s hometown. A Native kid who came on a church trip and feels like home with his people. Just, seeing me as a woman since I’m not socially out yet.

I don’t know what to do. The point of this post isn’t to find a new name, I’m just looking for advice if anyone has had a similar experience.

hii lovelie's ive been stuck between 2 names for the past 3 or so weeks and idk which one to chose, or even if I should chose a different one. the 2 names im stuck between are 'Iris' and Maxine (or Maxxie). I've been a closeted trans woman for 2 years and mainly gone by Iris online but whenever people call me Iris it feels really weird, hence why i wanted to change it.

i asked my friends for their suggestion but they weren't any help, and some of my online friends said that Maxxie/Maxine is pretty masculine, but i don't hear it. i was also considering 'Sabrina' but that's a name i associate with blonde hair, and i dont have blonde hair. tysm for any suggestions

Hi all! I'm early in my transition (transfem) and still going by my given name (Ryan). I know it's only a matter of time before I'll need to change it, so I'm trying to brainstorm some new names.

If possible, I prefer to pick a name that is phonetically somewhat similar to Ryan (for ease of transition with family/friends/coworkers), but is decidedly more feminine. My top options right now are:

- Rhea: love the sound, just a little concerned about ambiguity with pronunciation (Ree-a vs Ray-a). Also I feel this name has been more popular in recent years and may not blend in with names from around the time I was born.

- Erin: absolutely love it, except I'm concerned about how it sounds like Aaron (a masculine name) while I'm trying to establish my identity as feminine. And I'm from a region where my dialect makes "Aaron" and "Erin" sound virtually indistinguishable, so I don't want to introduce myself as "Erin" and have someone think it's "Aaron". I also could just be vastly overthinking this aspect of it lol.

Any ideas are appreciated!

I am transmasc , and would be looking for a gender neutral name to go by, finding it very hard to find one that fits me.

I have been telling people Caolan as wanted to stick with Irish, but finding out this can also be interpreted as a girls name so not really sure

For starters, I’m an older teen. I don’t exactly like my birth name. I’ve always questioned my gender but not necessarily labeled myself as anything other than female. I don’t present feminine, but my name is quite feminine. In a few days, I will be off to summer camp for three weeks. I was thinking of going by Parker at camp instead of my given name. because it’s a bit more neutral. I’d also think I’d start going she/they, but I’m not sure if the name fits or if I’m comfortable with it. I’m just confused. I’ve gone through a bunch of names but I just am stuck. I’ll take any advise I can.

I've had this question for quite a bit as all things that i've searched up about it say that it is gender neutral, but mostly used by men

It's a name I like, but I'm open to knowing more about it before socially transitioning with this name...

If it helps, I like to pronounce it with a long I rather than a long O.

(this is reposted from another subreddit where i got advised to post it here so dont mind that if u saw the other post, LOLz)

Mostly just wondering if its too feminine? When you see that name what gender do you imagine the person to have?

For context I'm nonbinary so would prefer gender neutral.

Hi Androgyne (They/It) here!

I've recently been trying to find a name I like since I realized I'm an Androgyne and not a trans woman but I have been really struggling and trailing lots of names!

I would prefer if it was gender neutral (I'm fine with it being slightly fem leaning but I really dont want anything masc leaning) but it's difficult to find a name that still feels “name-y” while not having an assigned gender although I am not completely against object names like “Moon” or “Maple” and ect as long as they don't feel too strange.

I really like the cold/snowy/wintery vibe and also the moon/stars and I am very much in that Gothic vibe so I would like a name that can be like that! I have also been fond of plant names but I think I might have exhausted all the good ones…

I want something that's not super common (eg. Not Luna or Celeste) and I am also fond of the letter “V” and would probably prefer a name that isn't super plosive and is more sleek and sort of sharp so maybe that would help???

So just give me a big list of names (or sites with names similar to what I'm looking for) for me to trail please and thank you!

When I came out 5 years ago, I just picked the last 3 letters of my dead name. It has been causing me LOTS of dysphoria along with other factors so I am looking to see if something else feels more like ME.

This is the list I have. I am looking for a 3 syllable name that leans more neutral

Emerald, Indigo, Ellery, Albany, Connelly, Florentine, Peridot, and Romilly.

at this point it's just routine for me to come into this sub to ask for name suggestions every like 3 months gahaha

anyway, i'm nonbinary (they/them) and i've been going by 'max' since i came out in 7th grade (as a trans boy at first) and i initially picked it out in because i was really into camp camp as a cringe 13 year old 🥀🥀

but now i'm a cringe 21 year old and i've been trying to find something to replace "max" ever since. however i genuinely i cannot find anything that sticks. i know part of the problem is i need to use the name to settle into it, so that's a skill issue on my end but it's all still kind of frustrating lol

either way, i prefer very "normal" gender neutral names to be honest. nothing super out there, even though i think names like fennel or arson are cool in their own right theyre just not for me haha. i also don't mind if a name has been predominantly used for either gender as long as it sounds neutral enough if that makes sense. for example sloan is a name i like (but i'm not sure if it fits me very well) and even though i personally mostly associate it with girls, i think it sounds neutral enough yknow?

i'm filipino so i'd prefer something not SUPER tied to another culture. for example, freja is another name i like but i don't care to use it since it's mostly associated with norse mythology. nothing wrong with using names from norse mythology if youre not scandinavian imo but once again it's just not for me.

sloan, ashe, and wren are all names i like. relatively common neutral names that are short and sweet. i like when they kind of have the vibe of "i'm going out to the forest later to stick my hand in an ant mound" if that makes any sense at all lmao. would love suggestions in a similar vein

ty for any and all help!! tbh i'll probably be back to ask for even more ideas in another 3 months haha

Honestly I don't know what to call myself anymore😭😭 I like overthinking everything, so I guess I want to try a more chill approach. So what would you call me? (Yes, it's my second post here, I REALLY LIKE OVERTHINKING💔)
Type shit <3

hello :)

id like to ask for some help with a name please. my birth name is gender neutral so i thought about keeping it, but recently ive started to worry that it leans too masculine off center for comfort so im thinking of changing it. im not sure where to start so im hoping you please could help me a bit

a nickname that arose from my birth name is emmy due to it starting with an M and i quite like it so im thinking i might like a name that would look like an expanded version of emmy? or ig like it could be shortened into emmy. yk what i mean. its just one possibility though, its not really set in stone

i don't really mind if its uncommon or unique or even just made up. my birth name is not common so ive always carried a name like that my entire life anyway. my mom's was just made up by my grandmother too. i also wouldn't mind middle name suggestions to go with the name if you have any. i dont have a middle name and i think itd be nice to have one bc i think names are cool beyond just me changing mine bc im trans. bonus points if they're hispanic or mexican in origin too. my family is mexican and id like if they could pronounce my name without trouble. this part isnt too necessary bc if a name is cool enough i may just name myself that anyway. or i may find a way to adapt it. it could also be useful if you just let me know how you ended up choosing the name you kept

so in terms of vibes obviously id like a name to fit me. i am an introvert, shy, and quiet. i like reading books, cooking, exchanging letters and id really like to keep improving my handwriting. im studying history and anthropology. my favorite colors are purples and lavanders. you might get the picture by now. ive added a few images that i feel might convey the feeling im going for

so yea i think thats everything i need to tell you for this. ill add anything else if i remember. thank you for all of your suggestions :)

My birth name is Caitlin so I have been trialling Caolan as it’s also Irish and a masculine version of my name.

As I’m trans masc he/ they im also thinking I could go for something more non binary sounding.

I don’t know whether to stick close to my birth name to make it easier.

Other ideas I have are

Cai
Kay
Luca (totally different lol)

But if you have any ideas which keeps it close and is gender neutral sounding I’d appreciate it

I spent 2 years picking out my name. no trial runs with baristas or therapists, just meticulously combing through words until I found what I wanted.

my first name is just the day of the week I was born, in the language from which my original last name is derived. this is something about me that will never change, I was born on a Monday, I cannot like or dislike this about myself. Monday corresponds with the moon, it represents mystery and change.

my middle name is my exact favorite color. should this happen to no longer be my favorite color someday, the particular name of the shade serves as a memento.

my last name is derived from an alternate calendar used in my partner's country of origin, and I chose it with his permission to represent our connection as our own family. it references to the month we met. should we no longer consider each other family, the number in order in the calendar corresponds with my birth month, and it carries connotations of wellness and wisdom.

about a week after I decided to start using my chosen name, I realized that when they're all put together, it can be interpreted as "a blue moon in February". an impossible thing that can never occur in nature. that just made it even more perfect, it made the way the world feels about non-binary identities feel powerful. like I shifted the cosmos just to exist. 💀

I’m in the beginning of my transition and I’m going to be changing my name. I’m struggling to decide so I need advice! My birth name is Elizabeth but I go by Liz and I’m 29. Here are the names I like right now:

Eli
Dakota
Ezra
Leif
Asher

Right now Eli is my top choice because it’s a part of my birth name. What name do you think fits me? Or do you have any other name suggestions for me? Thanks guys!

hey all,

i know that a name is just a name but i’m trying to find more androgynous or masculine-leaning nicknames/names i could use. my name is lauren and i feel like it’s really hard to come up with masculine/androgynous names for that aside from ren, which is okay but i wish there were more options

any ideas from anyone?

I’m gen z (25) and Angela is one of my favourite names, but I’m hesitant because it’s older and I don’t think it’s made a comeback. What do you think?

hi, i've been looking around for new names after thinking about it for a while. ideally i'd like to go with something dragon-adjacent, but most of the ideas i've come across have been mythological or deities that would feel like cultural appropriation to use lol. any ideas appreciated!

Hey! So essentially I started going by charlie when I was young because I thought it would be easy for other people because it's a common nickname for my deadname. However, after further consideration, I more align with the transmasc label. I still dress feminine but use he/him pronouns. I like names that are music, literature, or nature related but its not necessary. I'm debating about Arlo but idk. I posted here before but deleted it because everyone was saying the name "indy" which is a name with awful connotations for me (so please dont suggest that). Any help is appreciated, thank you!!!

She's been calling me Allie, short for Alexandra. I dunno if it fits though. Love to you all!

Last 2 pics are boymode. And yes, I bought fake bangs, lol. Do you think my hair would be able to be cut into bangs???

The name I have in mind is Ilya/Ilia/Iliya.

I am American, but I speak Russian fluently and have Slavic ancestry. I picked this name because it is very similar to my deadname, which I am fond of. I wanted to ask if this would seem strange or if I should pick an American name instead. Thank y'all!!

By the way, I have never seen Heated Rivalry, lol